Phamtastic_sarah Posted December 30, 2022 Share Posted December 30, 2022 Hello Everyone. I need to vent and find some validation and advice regarding a relationship. It's a relationship on both ends of the scale, but involves culture and age as well...I have been in love with a man who older and a different culture, I've been with him for 4 years, and we are still madly in love. He is 53 and I'm 29. Before everyone jumps down his throat and mine (he's not aware of my post but it's a real pic in my profile of us) I want to put it into context.. He is larger than life, a veteran and lives a fascinating life and a hero. We met while he was a government contractor and I worked for a department he reported to. I can't get into that...not important. (He and I no longer work together, but we do live together). We reconnected after he got out of a bad relationship and at a reunion. I am Vietnamese and Mexican, and he is Caucasian and Mexican (looks white, I look Vietnamese) . My family isn't thrilled with the relationship, but they do like him and he takes very good care of me, and I take care of him. I am tired of feeling like I have to follow societal rules. I will have other questions about things, but this issue is hurting us so badly. Here are the biggest issues that I'm constantly bombarded with.. I am told I'm beautiful, a model blah blah. I take care of myself, but I am blessed with good genes. He is older, heavier and not what society expects. People have called him a perv, that he is having a midlife crisis, or I'm a gold digger or even I'm a *** or need a daddy. I'm actually crying writing this. He is NONE of those things and NIETHER AM I. I find him beautiful, strong, sweet, funny, romantic, and loving. We have an incredible physical AND emotional relationship, and he knows every single need emotionally and physically. We make love sometimes 2 or 3 times a day, or i make him happy when my monthly guest arrives. Its been consistent for 4 years. Oh, we argue, disagree and yes, he annoys me, and vice versa...but I love him intensely and he loves me intensely. And of course...my family has made cruel remarks despite and so has his. At least they're polite, but we feel the tension. I know the same is happening to him. He has come home angry and once got in a fight over a comment made about me. We are both becoming withdrawn from people around us and even family. Its hurting but I am not leaving him and he won't leave me. What do we so? Thanks..John and Sarah Quote Link to comment
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