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Hello, im writting this while in tears. I dont really know who i should take advice from. Im 21 never been with a guy as a late bloomer.  Had a relationship with a guy for 3 weeks. After our first date , he was really clingy , we had some good chemistry to be honest, but i wasnt feeling it . He would tell me how "skinny " i was  how "cute "and" petite" how small my hands were and stuff like that.
He was the type of guy who would spam me if i was online and didnt answer right away or call me. I was fed up to be honest and i wrote a paragraph saying that he is a nice guy but not a good match for me.
Then he proceeded to write a novel of how i made him feel , complimenting everything about me, and sms me also telling me that he have never cried more for a woman he didnt know that well before. He pleaded to give him a chance and so i did. Bc i really thought i was unfair towards him.

He was aware of my innocense . He was always so insecure about me talking to guy friends tho, while saying im his other half to his friends and he'll do anything for me , bc" im so different from the girls he have dated "etc. He also mentioned how he is in fear of losing me and being with someone else while in military.  Note we didnt know each other 4 weeks ago . It was the type of guy who did what ever i asked even tho i wasnt really okay with that, he would pay in each date and he would bring me flowers or sweets, or he would tell me how much he cares and supports me or how he would love to help me study for uni.He was 25. And like 3 days ago he invited me to meet his mom i turned down that offer. He also asked in random times what i think about kids or marriage??? Plus today out of the blue also asked " if i had someone trying to attract me romantically on facebook??."

Anyway after our casual date , i was not feeling well due to some severe issues that take place at home and had influenced my mood.  He could tell i was feeling *** and he proceeded to ask me whats going on and talk about it. This dude was really sweet with me and made me feel heard. He suggested we should go at his place to chill since i was feeling really fatigue and all i wanted was to rest. He initate cuddles , which i really needed 
and after a while of me laying peacefully on his chest, he couldnt stop talking about how hard he was, and i kept saying that im feeling ***. He started touching me while i said "no" repeatedly, but to be honest, not in an angry way since i didnt had enough energyr. He kept telling me to touch him even tho my eyes were super watery due to stress. I did. After that he proceeded to shove it to my face while i was trying to tie my shoes . My body was coil , something that neither me nor him notice. My arms were subconsiously covering my chest. I was so scared !!!!! And felt so helpless my body was telling me that  !! He probably thought that me being this way was due to the fact im shy and timid at times and definetely thought it was cute. I came back home crying , i washed my body 200 times with the sponge to the point i have scratches on my skin.

How do i distance my self ??? He send me " are you home babe" and hes all sweet and stuff. If a just block him he would call me unstoppably or write me on sms paragraphs again pleading me and making me feel guilty. Because he is so "empathetic" as he always says.



 

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He sexually assaulted you.  Please report him to the police as he is likely to do this to more women.  Also, tell him in no uncertain terms that he is to leave you alone and to never contact you again.  He is a predator and is dangerous.  Then block him from any and all means of contacting you.

Confide in a trusted family member.  They can help protect you from this criminal.  No, he is not "empathetic" or nice in any way. 

Also, it's unclear if he forced you to have intercourse.  If so, please be sure to have a complete exam including STD testing.

Please do not go to the home of someone you've only known for three weeks.  No, you are not to blame.  He is the wrong one.  But this is still unsafe and risky behavior.

I'm sorry this happened to you, especially since this is your first encounter with a man.  But you did the right thing in resisting him.  If you are struggling, please consider talking to a professional counselor as they are trained to give compassionate help.

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8 minutes ago, boltnrun said:

He sexually assaulted you.  Please report him to the police as he is likely to do this to more women.  Also, tell him in no uncertain terms that he is to leave you alone and to never contact you again.  He is a predator and is dangerous.  Then block him from any and all means of contacting you.

Confide in a trusted family member.  They can help protect you from this criminal.  No, he is not "empathetic" or nice in any way. 

Also, it's unclear if he forced you to have intercourse.  If so, please be sure to have a complete exam including STD testing.

Please do not go to the home of someone you've only known for three weeks.  No, you are not to blame.  He is the wrong one.  But this is still unsafe and risky behavior.

I'm sorry this happened to you, especially since this is your first encounter with a man.  But you did the right thing in resisting him.  If you are struggling, please consider talking to a professional counselor as they are trained to give compassionate help.

This helped me so much and it made me feel so much better. Thank u .

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6 hours ago, Elizabeth727373 said:

If a just block him he would call me unstoppably or write me on sms paragraphs again pleading me and making me feel guilty.

You still need to block him everywhere, and report him to authorities if he continues to make unwanted contact. Don't respond to any of it. Keep a record of all the communication you get from him; you may need to show the police (or a lawyer) if he continues to harrass you. If he forced himself sexually on you, you need to report him immediately for assault. 

You are dealing with a man who is not stable, and not a safe person to be around whatsoever. It is imperative that you get away from him in every way, shape and form. 

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