Overcoming porn addiction?

[metalfantom]

1 minute ago, Tinydance said:

I'm just curious, do you work or have hobbies or are doing something in your life? I ask because I'm not sure why you keep posting here for advice when no amount of any postitive or encouraging comments people give you has ANY effect. In fact you actually want to seem to be rude, sarcastic and argumentative to people. If you're trying to prove something about your looks or whatever, don't try to prove it to us. We don't know you and your arguments are basically volatile and don't even make sense.

I gave you two examples of women who were horrifically disfigured, one by an acid attack and one by having 80+ % of her body completely burnt in a fire. They both became inspirational celebrities. Katie Piper is married with children and has her own burns victims foundation, as well as hosts various TV shows. You are saying they were only able to become successful marry with disfigurements because they're a woman, not man? Makes NO sense.

If you're going to insult my intelligence, what do you expect? Also, I don't see how you can claim that my argument makes no sense. A woman will always have options, even if she's horribly disfigured or deformed. Like I said, I've known women with MY condition who were worse than me but still found partners. I am living proof that women will not make those same concessions, not unless you have high socioeconomic status anyway. Maybe it is because men are less choosy or have fewer options than women, so they're more willing to look past someone's physical imperfections. 

[Wiseman2]

14 minutes ago, metalfantom said:

If you're going to insult my intelligence, what do you expect?....

Posting regurgitated incels rubbish insult's peoples' intelligence, so what do you expect?

[Tinydance]

23 minutes ago, metalfantom said:

If you're going to insult my intelligence, what do you expect? Also, I don't see how you can claim that my argument makes no sense. A woman will always have options, even if she's horribly disfigured or deformed. Like I said, I've known women with MY condition who were worse than me but still found partners. I am living proof that women will not make those same concessions, not unless you have high socioeconomic status anyway. Maybe it is because men are less choosy or have fewer options than women, so they're more willing to look past someone's physical imperfections. 

Complete bunch of crock

[Jibralta]

On 8/17/2022 at 6:11 AM, metalfantom said:

Like any addiction, if you want your fix, you'll find it one way or another.

I find it interesting that you masturbate to your own reality--a woman cheating on an undesirable guy with a desirable one. This to me explains why you defend your position so vehemently. You get a rise out of the pain of failure and rejection; it is an addiction. If you allowed yourself to be happy, you couldn't feed this addiction. I think you are quite insightful when you state that your behavior feeds your masochistic side.

[metalfantom]

11 minutes ago, Jibralta said:

I find it interesting that you masturbate to your own reality--a woman cheating on an undesirable guy with a desirable one. This to me explains why you defend your position so vehemently. You get a rise out of the pain of failure and rejection; it is an addiction. If you allowed yourself to be happy, you couldn't feed this addiction. I think you are quite insightful when you state that your behavior feeds your masochistic side.

You don't "allow" yourself to be happy. Happiness is engendered by your personal circumstances. People who try to fake happiness eventually end up having a mental breakdown. 

The masochistic porn-watching is just a byproduct of that. 

[MissCanuck]

What do you think would help you with your porn addiction, OP? 

[metalfantom]

13 minutes ago, MissCanuck said:

What do you think would help you with your porn addiction, OP? 

I'm not sure. Maybe religion? 

[MissCanuck]

1 minute ago, metalfantom said:

I'm not sure. Maybe religion? 

So why not start there?

Reach out to a local pastor/imam/rabbi/etc, and see what sort of guidance they can offer. We can make all sorts of other suggestions, but if you feel religion could be hepful, get the ball rolling. 

[metalfantom]

22 minutes ago, MissCanuck said:

So why not start there?

Reach out to a local pastor/imam/rabbi/etc, and see what sort of guidance they can offer. We can make all sorts of other suggestions, but if you feel religion could be hepful, get the ball rolling. 

I did reach out to a local church and thought about joining. Although I can see the social and moral utility of organised religion, there is that skepticism that prevents me from embracing it.

[Wiseman2]

1 minute ago, metalfantom said:

I did reach out to a local church and thought about joining.

Since you're a virgin why not consider the priesthood? That way all the incel angst about sex and finding a GF would be a nonissue.

[MissCanuck]

49 minutes ago, metalfantom said:

Although I can see the social and moral utility of organised religion, there is that skepticism that prevents me from embracing it.

Then I am not sure what other advice anyone here can offer. 

You have to make that step in getting help. And if you are not comfortable doing so, you have to accept you will remain right where you are. 

[Wiseman2]

39 minutes ago, metalfantom said:

You assume wrong. 

Maybe being a monk would work.🧔 You could make wine🍷 And not worry about how you look or finding a GF.

[metalfantom]

22 minutes ago, MissCanuck said:

Then I am not sure what other advice anyone here can offer. 

You have to make that step in getting help. And if you are not comfortable doing so, you have to accept you will remain right where you are. 

It all feels too insurmountable. There is A LOT I would need to overcome, just to give myself a fighting chance. As soon as I think about getting on the right track, it overwhelms me. That is often why my thoughts turn to suicide.