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Hey guys so my bf and I are 23. He’s always working or on a business trip. So since I don’t get my needs fulfilled physically he insists I can be alittle more open in that sense, I kinda like the idea but feel it could go wrong. Emotionally and physically I am very attached to him but don’t get that attention often. Thoughts?

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Then he's not in the right state to be a good partner. Simple.

And he doesn't care about your needs.

Why cling to that?

If you approached him, and he doesn't give 2 cents and uses work as an excuse... Then you're better off to stop wasting your time and find available men who care, listen, and romance you.

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3 hours ago, Asico94 said:

 he insists I can be alittle more open in that sense, I kinda like the idea but feel it could go wrong. 

End it. You're not in a relationship if he's never there and suggests dating others. Get tested for STDs because his suggestion implies he's getting satisfaction elsewhere.

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Many people are with people who work intense hours. I always was, I still am.  What "needs" do you have that you are not "getting met?"  There's a difference between want and need.  Here's the need I would focus on -you need to be with a person who even if he works crazy hours does what it takes to spend regular time with you in person -at least once a week and if he's out of town/country at times you can join him, at times you can sort of make up for it and see each other more when you're back in the same place.  My guess is he is having sex during these trips and would prefer not to feel guilty.  

My parents saw each other about once a month a less for the four years they lived a four hour train ride apart in the 1950s so my dad could go to grad school.  They dated a total of about 5 years before they married.  They were virgins and engaged to be married.  They never ever discussed kissing others or being with others just because they were apart.  They were married for 62 years.  (And no who cares that this was in the olden days- the human heart, capacity for love, knowing when you have someone you really want to be with -that hasn't changed)

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