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I met a girl online who is from different country few months ago. I thought we had good rapport because she chatted nicely and stuff. We just chat on WhatsApp.

But as the time went by she became less responsive and chatty, less available on WhatsApp. her last seen status would be from days ago regularly which means she doesn't go to WhatsApp often at all.

But today i saw her being online on Telegram so i thought i just messaged her there because she wasnt online on WhatsApp. I just said Hi to her on Telegram then she immediately messaged me on WhatsApp saying this "Are you serious right now. Your psychotic. Stop messaging me on other platforms. If i dont answer IM BUSY. That's psychotic and weird dont do that ever again. Stop going on everything my tiktok even. Thats stalking"

Is this normal? she got angry just because i messaged her on a different app when i saw her online...

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Just now, Lambert said:

who knows but she thinks so and that's what matters. I would move on.  Meet someone in your own country. 

But its online dating, so anyone can be from anywhere.

i love her though. whenever i messaged her with I love you she would reply with a i love you too.

But the way she lashed at me like that is so harsh

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8 minutes ago, Jibralta said:

Well, you have to respect her boundaries, either way. If you continued to contact her now, it will definitely be harassment.

its very odd to get lashed out like that.

is it a sin to message someone that is online on another platform?

I stayed calm and didnt retaliate when she lashed on me. 

She never messaged me back and apologized up until now at all.

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2 hours ago, layers of fear said:

i love her though. whenever i messaged her with I love you she would reply with a i love you too.

How much time do the two of you spend together physically in person?

If you've never met her in person you do not "love her". It's impossible to fall in love with words on a screen or a voice or image transmitted over an electronic device.

Anyway, she doesn't seem to want to communicate anymore. Maybe she found an actual boyfriend she can be with in person.

Not a bad idea for you to meet girls you can actually spend time with in person too.

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3 minutes ago, boltnrun said:

How much time do the two of you spend together physically in person?

If you've never met her in person you do not "love her". It's impossible to fall in love with words on a screen or a voice or image transmitted over an electronic device.

Anyway, she doesn't seem to want to communicate anymore. Maybe she found an actual boyfriend she can be with in person.

Not a bad idea for you to meet girls you can actually spend time with in person too.

No we haven't met in person because this is an "online" dating and she is in different country. 

But why when i always messaged her with I love you she would reply with I love you too? unless she was just playing with me or didn't mean it?

and i would call her babe or baby and she would call me the same.

Until recently that she lashed at on me and calling me psychotic and stalker. I mean how can someone would say "babe or baby and I love you too" and then calling me stalker and psychotic?

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actually she just messaged me now and said "just stop being so creepy like that and only message me on WhatsApp" but she didn't apologize. 

dont know why she gets creeped out otherwise? 

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39 minutes ago, layers of fear said:

No we haven't met in person because this is an "online" dating and she is in different country. 

But why when i always messaged her with I love you she would reply with I love you too? unless she was just playing with me or didn't mean it?

and i would call her babe or baby and she would call me the same.

Until recently that she lashed at on me and calling me psychotic and stalker. I mean how can someone would say "babe or baby and I love you too" and then calling me stalker and psychotic?

Neither of you is in love because it's not possible to be in love with someone you have never met.

By chance have you given her money or paid any of her bills? Has she asked you for money?

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Have you posted this before, under a different username?

There was a very similar thread just days ago, but in that one the OP was also sending her money. But the wording (about "I love you" and calling each other "baby" and "babe"), was practically identical. 

Regardless, the message is clear: stop contacting her. She doesn't love you and very obviously wants you to leave her alone. Delete and block her everywhere. 

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