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5 minutes ago, gdemetrios said:

I work at nights and my given days off don’t give me much choice on what do for leisure time when I’m off. I thought about taking classes to learn how to code but I have a 5 year old Mac, and not the money to dish out for such classes at this point. When it comes to classes, I want to learn something new which could help me professionally and personally

After this situation, I might say goodbye to dating apps for good. Many profiles have photos which are just too good to be true, meaning they are fake

I learned many lessons too. One of them is no single moms ever again… avoid them like the plague. They suck at you like a leech and go onto the next person. It’s not fair for me to take care of another man’s kids… unless she’s a widow

A lot of excuses to stay alone and lonely.  Which is fine if that's what you prefer, but then it doesn't make sense to complain about it.

And I think your statement about single mothers is unfair, particularly since you're basing it on ONE scammer that you chose to give money to in the hopes of buying her love.  I am a single mother and I never, not once, "leeched" off of anyone and I did not take money from anyone and I didn't use men and then go onto the next person.  I have friends who are single mothers and none of them are scammers who dupe men into giving them money.  Remember, that was a choice you made; it had nothing to do with her being a single mother and had everything to do with you being lonely and wanting a quick solution to your loneliness.

Anyway, I don't think my suggestions are helpful to you so I will not respond further.  I hope you find happiness, whatever that means to you.

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13 minutes ago, gdemetrios said:

I work at nights and my given days off don’t give me much choice on what do for leisure time when I’m off. It’s not fair for me to take care of another man’s kids… unless she’s a widow

Get a day job, change shifts. Stop living like a vampire at night.

Bull. You can take classes, volunteer, etc. during the day. My tips are excellent, but if all you want to do is complain about this bimbo you'll just stew in pity perpetuating your loneliness.

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5 hours ago, gdemetrios said:

I promised her many things

A new home by the start of the year. A new life by the start of the year. I told her everything is going to be alright, she will see the new life I have ready for her. Don’t worry. 

This is way too big a promise for somebody you've never met. Meeting someone is an absolute necessity before you get involved in such a way. 

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She called me crying, telling me she can’t take life anymore. Life is just so overwhelming at this point. I told her she did it to herself. I can’t be of any help to her anymore. She told me she needs a friend. I told her, that option is not for us. We were never and will never be friends. I told her I don’t believe her, and there is another man in her life. The same man that abused her in the past, the same man that uses her kids against her. I told her this was all a game to her, and I was just a pawn. She led me on, she knew what she was doing

Her tears and sniffles got deeper. She tried to say, I didn’t ever use you. I should never feel that way. I told her the numbers speak for themselves. Last week she called me for gas money, nuggets for the kids, diapers, wipes, detergent. I told her that her needed to fend for herself. I am not a charity. I told her I loved her, and she played with me. She told me, her first priority are her kids. And she feels she has to protect them at all cost. That I ruined her life by sharing so much information with me. I told her the person that was with her ruined her life, her family ruined her life, all I tried to do was get her out. In the end, the failure is all her fault. She failed this just like she failed everything in. 
 

She told me she had to work on herself because she has nothing to show for in her life. And I should never hate her. She feels this anger and hatred in me, and with all the things going on in her life. My hatred is eating her up too. I told her stop trying to save the soul of an abuser. If she does, she gets what she deserves. Most of her problems would be gone if she tried playing this game. Her bills she has to handle, go to some charity or the government for assistance. She told me she loves me and that I have to work on myself too. She made a set of keys for me, she told me. I told her, I bet it’s for the next few guys. She jumps from guy to guy like a trampoline. She got very upset, telling me she isn’t that person. 
 

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3 minutes ago, gdemetrios said:

She called me crying, telling me she can’t take life anymore. Life is just so overwhelming at this point. I told her she did it to herself. I can’t be of any help to her anymore. She told me she needs a friend. I told her, that option is not for us. We were never and will never be friends. I told her I don’t believe her, and there is another man in her life. The same man that abused her in the past, the same man that uses her kids against her. I told her this was all a game to her, and I was just a pawn. She led me on, she knew what she was doing

Her tears and sniffles got deeper. She tried to say, I didn’t ever use you. I should never feel that way. I told her the numbers speak for themselves. Last week she called me for gas money, nuggets for the kids, diapers, wipes, detergent. I told her that her needed to fend for herself. I am not a charity. I told her I loved her, and she played with me. She told me, her first priority are her kids. And she feels she has to protect them at all cost. That I ruined her life by sharing so much information with me. I told her the person that was with her ruined her life, her family ruined her life, all I tried to do was get her out. In the end, the failure is all her fault. She failed this just like she failed everything in. 
 

She told me she had to work on herself because she has nothing to show for in her life. And I should never hate her. She feels this anger and hatred in me, and with all the things going on in her life. My hatred is eating her up too. I told her stop trying to save the soul of an abuser. If she does, she gets what she deserves. Most of her problems would be gone if she tried playing this game. Her bills she has to handle, go to some charity or the government for assistance. She told me she loves me and that I have to work on myself too. She made a set of keys for me, she told me. I told her, I bet it’s for the next few guys. She jumps from guy to guy like a trampoline. She got very upset, telling me she isn’t that person. 
 

Please, just block her and move on.

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44 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said:

Get a day job, change shifts. Stop living like a vampire at night.

Bull. You can take classes, volunteer, etc. during the day. My tips are excellent, but if all you want to do is complain about this bimbo you'll just stew in pity perpetuating your loneliness.

When I’m off I can do all of that 

There is nothing wrong with a night job. It’s great, yes there are risks involved as in lack of a social life. Then again I don’t want to be in this job forever. Being a concierge until I’m in my 60s isn’t in the cards for me. I deserve and demand better, and I have to achieve my goals and aspirations.

Classes are more of a priority for me. Education is pivotal for any advancement in life. Volunteering can be a hobby or something, a righteous work for points in life. 
 

In order to get what I want, I must work and work and work hard at it 

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29 minutes ago, WalterSobcha said:

This is way too big a promise for somebody you've never met. Meeting someone is an absolute necessity before you get involved in such a way. 

She is in a situation and all I wanted to do was get her out. In the end, she failed. Her loss. She reaps the consequences. She’s a hopeless case

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6 minutes ago, WalterSobcha said:

Please, just block her and move on.

Listening to her in this state is music to my ears. She made her decision. Let her cry herself away alone in a trailer. She’s never leaving that place. 

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35 minutes ago, WalterSobcha said:

This is way too big a promise for somebody you've never met. Meeting someone is an absolute necessity before you get involved in such a way. 

I know…. I made promises and she expected me to live up to them. 

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1 hour ago, boltnrun said:

A lot of excuses to stay alone and lonely.  Which is fine if that's what you prefer, but then it doesn't make sense to complain about it.

And I think your statement about single mothers is unfair, particularly since you're basing it on ONE scammer that you chose to give money to in the hopes of buying her love.  I am a single mother and I never, not once, "leeched" off of anyone and I did not take money from anyone and I didn't use men and then go onto the next person.  I have friends who are single mothers and none of them are scammers who dupe men into giving them money.  Remember, that was a choice you made; it had nothing to do with her being a single mother and had everything to do with you being lonely and wanting a quick solution to your loneliness.

Anyway, I don't think my suggestions are helpful to you so I will not respond further.  I hope you find happiness, whatever that means to you.

My apologies for my comments

Many men in my age bracket have experienced similar situations. Certain male pundits online have always said single mothers should be avoided like the plague. I’m just looking for answers for what went wrong. 
 

I see as this. I was the good guy and she was the evil girl. That has to be the narrative for this accidental mistake in my life

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