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For some reason, I didn't feel awkward at all during my first sexual experience


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I had sex for the first time about a year ago, as a 17-year-old, and that was with a girl who I felt quite comfortable with from the beginning;
and one thing that surprised me a bit was how easy everything felt.
Sure, I was really nervous the day before our first date, however the actual date never felt tense or awkward at all;
we ended up sitting by ourselves in a park, and I suddenly started asking her about a bracelet that she wore on one of her wrists, which gave me a good excuse to touch her, and then we just ended up tongue-kissing right after that, and I instinctively made sure to keep our kissing on a slow and gentle level (in other words, not too quick tongue movements or anything like that).
Then a few days later we ended up having sex for the first time, and I think the only part that was a bit awkward was when I tried to put on a condom, which took a few minutes, but other than that, it was very clear that both of us enjoyed the overall experience a lot (she was a very honest person, so she would have likely told me if something was dissatisfying to her), and we met several more times after that.

This surprised me a lot, because I had always heard that people found their first sexual dates really awkward and tricky in all kinds of ways.
Is this something that some people just find easier than some other people?
You know, kinda like some "naturals" become good at a certain skill almost immediately?
Because that was basically how I felt - it felt like something that just came by itself, more or less.

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10 minutes ago, Chris04 said:

 I had always heard that people found their first sexual dates really awkward and tricky in all kinds of ways.

Of course it's natural. Life on earth would not exist without it.

Billions of years before social media everyone was having sex.

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11 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said:

Of course it's natural. Life on earth would not exist without it.

Billions of years before social media everyone was having sex.

Yes, I just felt that it seemed a lot more straightforward than I thought it would be.
I always hear people say that their first sexual experience was awkward and tricky in a lot of ways, but I didn't feel that way at all.
But it would make sense that this stuff comes more easily for some people, just like with other things.

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Could have also been you were close in age, knew each other beforehand, and weren’t drunk or under any substances. 

Im sure as you experiment more you will find that the awkwardness comes from the level of expectation. Sort of like when you start a job for the first time, and maybe the person was expecting an expert, or you were hiring someone who you thought was more experienced then they presented themselves to be...

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Some first times are awkward. 

Mine wasn’t, personally. And I know the same was true for a few of my friends. 

You’re just more likely to hear about the awkward ones as people commiserate or seek advice or something. 

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Mine wasn't but there was a lot of conflict before as I wanted to wait (yes I consented 100% and decided I wanted to).  I was in love, he was in love, we were very serious and we were 24 and used protection (which was planned).  It wasn't awkward.  However ,it got better as we "practiced."  I'm glad I waited to be in love and serious/committed.  We dated another 2 years.

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