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Well, let’s start with your boyfriend. He’s been putting pressure on you to do things that are unkind and inappropriate such as disobeying your parents or adding to your sense of helplessness and frustration by telling you he can’t forgive you in some way for not “escaping” to see him. If your boyfriend is disappointed with you he needs to own that in the relationship and stop stringing you along. Unfortunately he tries to help you but turns out to be completely unhelpful and even dishonest and manipulative in the way he processes his misgivings about the relationship. 

Second, your mother. She doesn’t seem to like your boyfriend and I’m not surprised. She has issues of her own. Don’t start to assume why your sister went away or put words in her mouth. Your sister moving away is her choice and at 30 she needs to grow, as do you. 

Whenever I’m annoyed with something I have to gently bring myself back to whatever I started off doing or intended to do in the first place. I may get frustrated at a long and uncertain process but I’ll also try to look at other solutions to circumvent and keep the ball rolling. In the same way while you’re frustrated with your mother and boyfriend (his reactions and him being away), you need to keep taking care of yourself and keep things going. If you’re in school deal with school. If there are unique and amazing opportunities such as exchanges or internships or job opportunities work on those. Don’t stay stuck or rooted feeling frustrated. Try to multitask and keep moving forwards to something better. 

You may also find this boyfriend isn’t one that lasts the more you grow forwards. Don’t be afraid of change and pursue your own dreams.


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