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I (21F) have recently fallen out of love with my boyfriend of 2 months (23 M). For the first month we were together, everything was fine. We clicked on everything personality/sexuality-wise, and he kept telling me that he would love to get married to me and have my kids. We were so in love that I booked a flight to see him for January 21st. This is when the toxicity started. He mentioned to me during the first month of our relationship that he has a fetish for large breasts and that he saw mine as being too small for his fetish. I have 34D breasts that I have always been insecure of but hearing the man I love say this made me very upset. H wanted a girl who was skinny with out of proportion boobs. My measurements are 37-25-43. I work out and have always had natural curves that I am proud of. Of course, being in love makes you blind. I ended up taking breast enhancement pills as well as lactation pills. He always told me he was happy with my body, but he would always bring up this fetish. Eventually, more toxicity started to appear to me. At the beginning of our second month together, he revealed/claimed to be an ex-hitman starting at the young age of 7 that had killed over 100 people, and he also claimed to have had sex with over 80+ women and not have an STD. Still being slightly blinded by love despite all this, I brushed these revelations off. Why? Because I believed and still believe that the hitman story is a lie. If you were an actual hitman, you would not reveal your secrets and brag about your assassinations to your brand-new gf. Also, what seven-year-old can be a professional hitman? He plays lots of GTA, and some of his killer stories sound like GTA missions. Also, the killing at the age of 7 sounds like something from Halo which he also plays. He is probably trying to sound cool and constantly compares himself to buff anime characters and hitmen from movies like Polar. Then, more toxicities expressed themselves. He started becoming obsessive. I work at a restaurant as a server and often don't return from my shift until 2AM from cleaning the restaurant. One night he was so worried about me that he called me 60 times. All of these calls went to voicemail just because he already knows my hours and knows he should not call or text during these. He is also hasty to marry me and suggested that I move to where he lives which is over 1400 miles away and start my career in his hometown. He doesn't get that I have helicopter parents and that moving out of my state isn't as easy as 1, 2, and 3. I have a flight to see him in two days. He has threatened to kill himself before if I break up with him. I don't know what to do.

A little background: I am a woman who only has a body count of 2 and is very much still innocent. This man knows where I live, and I would also like advice on how to cut off all ties from someone like this. He has said he is not afraid to fly down to Texas and has done so before. I have an IFunny account which he spies on to see when I was last active. Based off when I was last active he can determine if I have been ignoring his texts or if I am actually working at my food-service job.

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1 hour ago, Marie05 said:

2 months.We were so in love that I booked a flight to see him for January 21st. This is when the toxicity started. At the beginning of our second month together, he revealed/claimed to be an ex-hitman starting at the young age of 7 that had killed over 100 people, and he also claimed to have had sex with over 80+ women and not have an STD. One night he was so worried about me that he called me 60 times.

Sorry this happened. This is a distance situation? 60 days dating is a good time to observe red flags and deal breakers.

He sounds mentally ill. Delete and block him and ALL his people from ALL your social media, messaging apps, contact lists and devices.

Reset ALL your social media privacy setting so only people you know and trust can view your content.

As far as flying to someone you don't know and taking pills to resolve a nonexistent body issue, reflect on these high risk behaviors. 

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1 hour ago, Marie05 said:

A little background: I am a woman who only has a body count of 2 and is very much still innocent. 

What does this mean?  If this "body count" number sounds low to you, what do you think would be a more appropriate or expected number at age 21?

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I think you know.. that he needs to go. Protect your privacy and don't contact or let him contact you again. 

If he's never flown to see you once his threats to land in Texas sound more like empty threats. Back away from this and tell him that you don't feel it's working out and wish him all the best. Don't sling any insults or ask him questions about himself. With these kinds of people just smile and slowly back away. 

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How much time have the two of you spent together in person? I mean physically in person, not over an electronic device.

Block him from all ways of contact including social media. Tell your parents about him and give a description of him if they haven't met him in person. If you have a Ring home security device or something similar make sure it's operating properly.

I think he's full of beans, but it's better to be safe.

Oh, and stop taking unnecessary medicines. You don't need to be putting questionable substances into your body to appease some weirdo. Let him go back online to look for his ideal Barbie woman.

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3 hours ago, Marie05 said:

I (21F) have recently fallen out of love with my boyfriend of 2 months (23 M). For the first month we were together, everything was fine. We clicked on everything personality/sexuality-wise, and he kept telling me that he would love to get married to me and have my kids. We were so in love that I booked a flight to see him for January 21st. This is when the toxicity started. He mentioned to me during the first month of our relationship that he has a fetish for large breasts and that he saw mine as being too small for his fetish.

Yes, sadly, too many red flags!

As for this being 'love' it is not that.. not yet.  Is more like lust and you were in the honeymoon stage.  Now, his true colours are showing - which is no good.

I agree, he's off his rocker, is like he is living in a fantasy world, not reality. From his fetish to all he's been saying - which is all about his gaming world.

As mentioned, talk to your parents.  They should have a good head about this & how to approach these concerns.  No matter what HE does on himself is not your concern.  You have only been involved a couple months.

HE is the troubled one here!  Is best you end all contact and focus on yourself.  Keep yourself sane & safe.  Be glad he's at a distance. ( has he ever been to your area?).

Get your number changed and make sure he is not able to contact you in any ways anymore.

 

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