Jump to content

Male co-worker issue


Recommended Posts

Hello,

 

There is a coworker who has been into me for about 2 years, but I con not accept him for personal reasons. There is almost nothing to tell about my relationship with him because nothing happened at all.

 

Yet, recently, he changed his behaviour toward me by being cold and even ignoring within a group of people. However, when I approached him to clarify the isssue, he tried to hug me over an argument.

 

The fact is that we still talk to each other but he still did not cool down.

 

I have been sick for aout two weeks, but he has never texted me not even once during my sick leave to ask about me. Very cruel!

 

Can anyone explain me what I should understand?

 

Thank you

Link to comment
Share on other sites

19 minutes ago, Mariposa_1985 said:

I con not accept him for personal reasons. There is almost nothing to tell about my relationship with him because nothing happened at all.

I have been sick for aout two weeks, but he has never texted me not even once during my sick leave to ask about me. 

Why would someone at work you "can not accept for personal reasons" text you at home at all?

 Are either of you married? Is this an affair? Are you dating?  

Link to comment
Share on other sites

Sounds like you like the ego boost that he'd been a fan and paid attention to you. Now that you've lost that attention, you miss it and you're angry with him for stopping. You're playing with fire. You should have been treating him like any other co-worker, and expecting he didn't treat you any differently than any other co-worker. 

Obviously, he's not your friend, because friends check on you when you're sick, so realize this and that the new dynamic is for the better. Whether he's trying to distance himself from you for his own benefit, or to punish you for not going out with him, it doesn't matter. The only thing you should be doing is distancing yourself from the emotional energy you've poured into him. Be polite as you would with anyone at work, and make friends outside of work instead of relying on work as your social outlet.

  • Like 2
Link to comment
Share on other sites

Theres a lot of details missing here. But from what you've mentioned I would agree with "Andrina", I know sometimes it's nice to have someone give you attention but if bottom you just admitted within the first sentence that you don't like him for your own personal reasons then theres your answer. The only thing you liked about him or you two was you liked was the attention you were getting, thats it. 

Just see the situation for what it is, attaching emotions at work is never a great or beneficial thing it only makes things more complicated. Don't take offense to him not texting you anymore. After all, he's just a co worker anyway

Edited by electricorchid
  • Like 1
Link to comment
Share on other sites

Your lines are seriously blurred. Decide how much your job and career mean to you. If not much, then go find another job until you find the right fit.

Be friendly with coworkers, but don't make them your social life. Keep that outside of work, and you won't need to seek attention from anyone on the job. You'll be too busy doing your work, and you'll be happy enough with work friends that don't impose an agenda--and you won't impose an agenda on any of them, either.

Head high

Link to comment
Share on other sites

7 hours ago, Mariposa_1985 said:

There is a coworker who has been into me for about 2 years, but I con not accept him for personal reasons....

I have been sick for aout two weeks, but he has never texted me not even once during my sick leave to ask about me. Very cruel!

Can anyone explain me what I should understand?

 

You should understand where you stand.

If you say no to this coworker, then don't expect any well wishes. The end.

Link to comment
Share on other sites

Join the conversation

You can post now and register later. If you have an account, sign in now to post with your account.

Guest
Reply to this topic...

×   Pasted as rich text.   Restore formatting

  Only 75 emoji are allowed.

×   Your link has been automatically embedded.   Display as a link instead

×   Your previous content has been restored.   Clear editor

×   You cannot paste images directly. Upload or insert images from URL.

 Share

  • Top Discussions this Week

  • Our picks

    • How To Make A Woman Want You Sexually (Guide To Building Her Interest And Sexual Attraction)
      Learn how to make a woman want you sexually! In today's video we're talking about sexual attraction and how you make a woman want you! We're going to be discussing some useful tips you can put to work to get a woman interested in you and building that sexual desire. Often men think they know exactly what women want, men in sports cars with big houses a big wallet and a bad boy attitude. This might be what the ladies want in movies but not in real life it's very different. To know what a lady wants you need to understand what you need to do to make her want you sexually. Imagine if you knew the secret formula to do this, the one that tells you exactly what women want sexually. The formula would let you know exactly what you need to do to get a woman to fall into your arms, sounds too good to be true right? Well it's not! It's as easy as being mindful of your own behaviour and adopting steel-proof boundaries. Want to know some more? Well don't move an inch.

       
      • 0 replies
    • How to know when he's really fallen in LOVE
      You’re falling in love with your man deeper every day, but you don’t know if he feels the same way for you. It’s natural to want to know his feelings for you. What happens when he doesn’t say it or he’s not the type to say that? His actions tell you he loves you, but you could be wrong, right? So how do you know when he’s really in love with you? It’s not always so easy, but it’s not impossible either!

       
      • 0 replies
    • 6 Psychological Secrets of Attraction
      Knowing whether or not someone is “into you” can be incredibly difficult if they don’t explicitly say it. In this video, we will be looking at some psychological secrets of attraction.

       
      • 0 replies
    • This Healing Mindset That Helps Overcome Trauma Symptoms
      If you grew up with neglect and abuse, you've needed time to talk about what happened, and how parents and others treated you. But THEN what? Once you've acknowledged the past and gained an understanding of how you developed symptoms of trauma, how can you overcome those symptoms, and move forward with building a happy and fulfilled life? In this video I teach about the two general categories of comments I see on my channel, and what that suggestions about the commenter's readiness to heal.

       
      • 0 replies
    • "I Want A Girlfriend" Do THIS First
      I want a girlfriend. Have you ever found yourself thinking "I want a girlfriend" but you're not quite sure if you're actually ready for one? Before you go about doing anything else it's important to make sure that you actually need a girlfriend right now.

       
        • Like
      • 0 replies
×
×
  • Create New...