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My recent ex who happens to be my boss is sleeping with FOUR women at work


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Buckle up, this is straight out of Jerry Springer. There is a lot going on, just try to stay with me on this….
 

My ex boyfriend whom I dated for three years happens to be my boss. We recently broke up in September. I work at a restaurant as a waitress and he is a general manager. This past summer I cheated on him once with a guy who I met at a bar in town. I was overlapping and was afraid to tell my boyfriend I wanted to end our relationship. My affair last maybe three weeks. He soon found out through a friend that I had cheated on him and his ego was severely bruised. Mind you, when we first got together he was two timing me with a girl who I considered a childhood friend and it ended really ugly with my friend but was the official beginning of the relationship w my boyfriend. I resented him due the games he played and the lies he told prior to us being officially together. This resentment was carried out thru the entirety of our relationship and was ultimately why I felt like cheating in the first place. We tried to get back together but my boyfriend hated me for cheating on him and began sleeping around with 4 of the women we work with. He got one of the women pregnant, and this is all within two months of us breaking up. It has caused horrible drama at work and it is exhausting to deal with him and his disrespect. And these women spread rumors about me. He refuses to apologize and calls me white trash.

Apparently he had cheated on me while we were together bc I found out about it going through his phone. It’s so wild because he was so unforgiving about my cheating on him but yet I gave him another chance bc I believed in us. We obviously have an extremely toxic and dysfunctional relationship. We both decided that we should not try and save the relationship bc we treat each other like ***. How can we make amends? He is very reluctant to apologize. And I am still hurt. He still engages with the women he got pregnant at work all the time (she terminated the pregnancy) when I asked him not to. They say they want nothing to do w each other, but I think that’s a lie and they are just saying it to get me off their backs. I’m so angry every time I see his face.

I automatically get triggered and want to cry or chew him out. He has zero accountability for the hurt he has caused me. I Know I need to focus on myself and stop obsessing about how he hurt me. Hurt people, hurt people. Any advice on how to deal with my him? Teach him a lesson? We still work together and have to communicate about work related issues daily. It’s horrible. I’ve tried finding another job but we live in a very small town. Any advice would be appreciated. Many blessings 

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5 hours ago, Sonnyblue said:

I’ve tried finding another job but we live in a very small town.

You need to keep looking. You absolutely need to get away from this workplace as soon as humanly possible. 

5 hours ago, Sonnyblue said:

Any advice on how to deal with my him? Teach him a lesson?

Don't even bother. It will be a waste of time, because he just doesn't care enough. Instead, you are going to have to do the hard thing and suck it up at work and speak only about work-related matters. Full stop. The same applies to everyone else who works there. Don't engage in any personal conversations with any of them.

That's all you can do until you get a new job. 

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Where I live just about every restaurant has signs in the window saying they're hiring.  I think it would be very easy with your experience to find a new job.

7 hours ago, Sonnyblue said:

He still engages with the women he got pregnant at work all the time (she terminated the pregnancy) when I asked him not to.

Are you still trying to be in a relationship with him?  If not, why would it matter if he engages with other women at work?

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