Lose and respect myself? or keep the nice memory?

[notanexpert1]

Hey,

 

I am currently on a placement abroad and have been with a girl here 2 and a half months. in 3 weeks we go back to our own countries. Things between us is that we sleep together and I have been ncie to her, when we started going out she would let me take her the conema and I would buy her little things like teddy bears and all that s**t woman like. During our time together we would spend nights with each other and in the night we would spend it with out friends and not really talk to each other. She was close to one guy who went home last week and everytime she would be with him she would be dancing with him, niot really speaking ot me , holding his hand and cuddling him. She once stayed with him one night till 4 in the morning in his room and told me she fell asleep. I shouted at her for this. Now though when am wiht her and kiss her, it doesnt feel like anything means anything to me no more, its like seh had a chance to put things right when this guy was here and prove to me she ws with me, not him. I feel its to late. We came back from a night out the other night and she started crying and i thought it was becasue we were leaving each other, but she stated saying becasue it was becasue she misses him. I still like her and feel sad about not being wiht her. I dont know ehther to end it, which i dont know will be respectign myself or enjoying the 3 weeks left with each other where it will come to an end anyway?

 

Advice?

 

Thanks

 

also she use to gout wiht this guy everywhere to the pictures and the beach but when i ask her there's always an answer i have no money, i have to work for exams

[lifeiscash]

Hello, sounds like your in a mess. Kinda makes me jealous because my ex girlfriend (I broke up with her recently) is in Costa Rica for a month for Spanish, but I doubt it will be spanish that she will be learning.

 

Anyways back to your article, you can understand that this girl carries some sort of baggage. This emotional baggage that she carries with her is affecting everything... to how she feels about you, how you feel about her, and your current situation. If you are both going to your separate countries in 2-3 weeks understand that there is a high chance of never seeing her again. So honestly, does it really matter?? There are way other girls that you will meet in your own country, why worry about one that is going to be soooo far away. Next time, try to put yourself in a better position and know about a girl and her excess baggage before hand.

[Shidoshi]

She was close to one guy who went home last week and everytime she would be with him she would be dancing with him, niot really speaking ot me , holding his hand and cuddling him.

Is she your girlfriend or just a casual fling? If you guys are supposed to be exclusive I'm confused about why you didn't react to that.

She once stayed with him one night till 4 in the morning in his room and told me she fell asleep. I shouted at her for this.

LOL, I'm sorry for laughing but do you really think she just "fell asleep"?

We came back from a night out the other night and she started crying and i thought it was becasue we were leaving each other, but she stated saying becasue it was becasue she misses him.

Why are you dealing with this? She isn't relationship material. If that's what you're looking for you need to dump her NOW!!

I still like her and feel sad about not being wiht her. I dont know ehther to end it, which i dont know will be respectign myself or enjoying the 3 weeks left with each other where it will come to an end anyway?

The only thing you could possibly enjoy now is some meaningless sex, but I don't think you can handle that. I say you leave it be and move on. Come on man, she did all those things right in front of your face, and even TOLD you that she was crying because of the guy that left. You've already lost respect, so the question now is what do YOU want out of all this? You certainly don't have her heart, the guy that left does....

[notanexpert1]

dude, you are completely right! All this time ive been a complete mug with this girl, she doesn't deserve me - even my friends here can't understand why am with her. Shortly after I posted that forum I was on messenger to her, telling her how I felt and try to understand and she started arguing with me, and said "sorry - but he was special to me" and why was I bringing that up. and that she was telling me what i wanted her to do and I said "i dont think there is anything you can possibly do, I think it's too late to do anything". LAst night she went out and my phone started ringin at 5am this morning, her telling me goodnight and I asked her if she wanted to come round (i think i was dreaming of tits then so probably that was the reason) and she said yeah, so she did, was kissing me, I asked her to stay and she said no, and am pretty sure she said to me cos i was half asleep "you don't mean anything to me" or maybe it was "You don't mean nothing to me" and then she left and I sent her a message telling her she knew how to hurt. Man am such a complete fool, You know for some reason I really think that i don't care about her no more, and maybe with the 2 weeks we've got left with each other, i might just sleep with her one last time for old time sake and then sack her off straight afterwards. Cheers

[notanexpert1]

any more advice people...please?

[punkdonkey]

advices for what? you'r done with her right?

Just dont let her turn into a bootie call. (even if you do dream of female body parts). Its best to get a clean cut. for both of you. (also, using her, even though she probably did the same to you) is just low.

 

She has made her point. Dont let her turn you into an idiot. as we say in my language: det tager en mor tyve år at gøre sin dreng til en mand, en anden kvinde tager det 20 min. at gøre ham til et fjols.

 

(translates to something like: it takes a mother 20 years to turn her boy into a man, it takes another woman 20 min to turn him into a fool.

 

Sincerely

The punk

[wynterose]

I have to agree with punk on that one! Sleeping with her one last time will be both demeaning for you and for her. Remember the good times, and wish each other well. It's easier this way, no emotions are involved!!!

 

She has made her point. Dont let her turn you into an idiot. as we say in my language: det tager en mor tyve år at gøre sin dreng til en mand, en anden kvinde tager det 20 min. at gøre ham til et fjols.

 

(translates to something like: it takes a mother 20 years to turn her boy into a man, it takes another woman 20 min to turn him into a fool.

 

Never heart that one before ... LOL