He asked if I would give a good bj and then for boob pics

[Raven1056]

I really need some advice. So tonight my friend's brother(27, m) texted me(19, f) if I think I would give a good bj then asked for boob pics. I told him I was uncomfortable with the pics. And I know he is out with friends right now at a hotel cause of my best friend (his sis, 21, f). So I ask if he knows it's me he is texting, thinking he meant to send the texts to someone else. He says he's not and that he knew, so I start to freak out cause I never really saw him in that way and there were no hints before any of this that he was interested. Next thing I know I receive a dong pic and asked about it. I don't reply and he send another one. I'm really upset and guilty right now because I don't know what to do. I feel guilty if I dont respond to his texts and I don't know how or if I should bring this up to my friend. I'm worried she would get mad at me or would get mad at her brother and then I would be the reason they don't have a bond anymore. I don't know what to do or where to go from this and just really need something! Should I tell my friend or stay silent or something else?

[MissCanuck]

This guy is a creep. He's picking on you for a reason, and it's likely because he senses that you will have trouble saying no to him.

Block him. Seriously. He does not have good intentions with you and sounds like a complete d-bag. 

I can't see why your friend would be mad at you when you did nothing wrong. If she gets upset with you because he brother is a jack-hole, well, she's not really your friend at all. 

 

[Wiseman2]

40 minutes ago, Raven1056 said:

if I should bring this up to my friend. I'm worried she would get mad at me or would get mad at her brother

How did he get your contact info? Tell this "friend" you'll go to the police with the evidence he sent you and charge him with harassment.

This friend and her brother are creeps if this friend knows about this and gave him your contact details to harass you. 

Talk to trusted friends and family about it. 

Block and delete him and all his people from all your devices, messaging apps and social media.

[SooSad33]

I say to ignore him now.  No need to respond.

It will not affect their bond, IMO.  He's being an idiot!  HE has done the wrong here.  Not you.

 

[Seraphim]

Block him. He is gross. 

[boltnrun]

He probably thinks you'd be an easy lay.  Prove him wrong by blocking his number and never speaking or communicating with him in any way ever again.

And don't feel bad about ignoring him.  He deserves to be ignored.

And if your friend asks, tell her to ask her brother what he did.

[Seraphim]

Also never never never send revealing pics unless you want them all over the internet or all over town. 

[Batya33]

He is a potentially dangerous and harmful person.  Block. If friend asks then tell her her brother can explain.  If he somehow contacts you again I'd consider notifying law enforcement.

[Raven1056]

9 hours ago, Wiseman2 said:

How did he get your contact info? Tell this "friend" you'll go to the police with the evidence he sent you and charge him with harassment.

This friend and her brother are creeps if this friend knows about this and gave him your contact details to harass you. 

Talk to trusted friends and family about it. 

Block and delete him and all his people from all your devices, messaging apps and social media.

No my friend doesn't know. I've been friends with her all my life and in extension knew her brother. 

[Pleasedonot5]

10 hours ago, Raven1056 said:

I really need some advice. So tonight my friend's brother(27, m) texted me(19, f) if I think I would give a good bj then asked for boob pics. I told him I was uncomfortable with the pics. And I know he is out with friends right now at a hotel cause of my best friend (his sis, 21, f). So I ask if he knows it's me he is texting, thinking he meant to send the texts to someone else. He says he's not and that he knew, so I start to freak out cause I never really saw him in that way and there were no hints before any of this that he was interested. Next thing I know I receive a dong pic and asked about it. I don't reply and he send another one. I'm really upset and guilty right now because I don't know what to do. I feel guilty if I dont respond to his texts and I don't know how or if I should bring this up to my friend. I'm worried she would get mad at me or would get mad at her brother and then I would be the reason they don't have a bond anymore. I don't know what to do or where to go from this and just really need something! Should I tell my friend or stay silent or something else?

Hey, OP, you should not feel guilty. He imposed upon you in a very forward, unsettling, and creepy way.

You could either tell him "It is weird that you sent me those unsolicited pictures. I am not interested." Or, you could simply not respond and block the number. Do not otherwise comment on the pictures, and without more, you do not need to do anything further. If he escalates the behavior, then consider contacting law enforcement. 

Ultimately, I agree with this advice:

3 hours ago, Batya33 said:

He is a potentially dangerous and harmful person.  Block. If friend asks then tell her her brother can explain.  If he somehow contacts you again I'd consider notifying law enforcement.

[Raven1056]

10 hours ago, Raven1056 said:

I really need some advice. So tonight my friend's brother(27, m) texted me(19, f) if I think I would give a good bj then asked for boob pics. I told him I was uncomfortable with the pics. And I know he is out with friends right now at a hotel cause of my best friend (his sis, 21, f). So I ask if he knows it's me he is texting, thinking he meant to send the texts to someone else. He says he's not and that he knew, so I start to freak out cause I never really saw him in that way and there were no hints before any of this that he was interested. Next thing I know I receive a dong pic and asked about it. I don't reply and he send another one. I'm really upset and guilty right now because I don't know what to do. I feel guilty if I dont respond to his texts and I don't know how or if I should bring this up to my friend. I'm worried she would get mad at me or would get mad at her brother and then I would be the reason they don't have a bond anymore. I don't know what to do or where to go from this and just really need something! Should I tell my friend or stay silent or something else?

So update: he texted like "oops sorry lol. Also don't tell (friend) lol". Should I let it go for now and not tell my friend?

[boltnrun]

I would respond with "Please do not ever insult me again by asking for pics of my private areas and/or sending me pics of yours."

Don't respond to the part about not telling his sister.  Let him fret and worry over that.  Maybe next time he's drunk and horny he'll think twice about treating women with such disrespect.

[Lambert]

I would definitely tell him to bug off in very harsh and rude terms.  I would tell my friend and HIS MOM.  This pig behavior and unsolicted penis pics ARE NOT COOL and then to laugh it off like your share a little secret EW!  I would definitely make things very uncomfortable for him to ever mess with me again and give him reason to think twice before doing this to someone else.

Men acting in disgusting ways, abusing women... we do don't have to protect them!  Their deeds need to be known by all as a warning to others.

How dare he! 

[melancholy123]

This guy was obviously hammered when he did this, what a jerk.  Do NOT ever send nude pix to anyone, they are then out there forever and you dont know where they will end up.

Bock the brother and delete his info from your phone and social media.

He's the one who should feel guilty, not you.

[Capricorn3]

2 hours ago, boltnrun said:

I would respond with "Please do not ever insult me again by asking for pics of my private areas and/or sending me pics of yours."

^ THIS.  And to add a little fire up his a$$ I would include ... "if you ever do that again I will report you to the authorities".   Then block.  No need to say anything to the sister.  If she notices something is off between you and her brother, and asks you about it, then you can tell her what he did.   Ugh.  What a pig.

[Rose Mosse]

On 8/7/2021 at 2:38 AM, Raven1056 said:

I really need some advice. So tonight my friend's brother(27, m) texted me(19, f) if I think I would give a good bj then asked for boob pics. I told him I was uncomfortable with the pics. And I know he is out with friends right now at a hotel cause of my best friend (his sis, 21, f). So I ask if he knows it's me he is texting, thinking he meant to send the texts to someone else. He says he's not and that he knew, so I start to freak out cause I never really saw him in that way and there were no hints before any of this that he was interested. Next thing I know I receive a dong pic and asked about it. I don't reply and he send another one. I'm really upset and guilty right now because I don't know what to do. I feel guilty if I dont respond to his texts and I don't know how or if I should bring this up to my friend. I'm worried she would get mad at me or would get mad at her brother and then I would be the reason they don't have a bond anymore. I don't know what to do or where to go from this and just really need something! Should I tell my friend or stay silent or something else?

This sounds like a prank. I would block, no hesitation. Zero response, zero effort anything else. If your friend wonders why you blocked her brother or don't get along, just tell her what he did. End of story. If she gets mad at you, you can tell her how unreasonable she is and work out her own issues with her obscene brother but she is not to blame you for anything. Don't give this any more effort or attention that it requires.

[Wruce_Bayne91]

This is sexual harassment, and if your friend gets upset by you not welcoming it in any way or being uncomfortable with it then she's not a good friend.

I say you send him either a blue waffle pic or a gross dong pic back.

[Wiseman2]

9 minutes ago, Wruce_Bayne91 said:

I say you send him either a blue waffle pic or a gross dong pic back.

Don't do this. Delete and block him. Don't engage especially by sending pornography. Not even funny "advice".

[Wruce_Bayne91]

16 hours ago, Wiseman2 said:

Don't do this. Delete and block him. Don't engage especially by sending pornography. Not even funny "advice".

Eye for an eye. He wants to be gross, make him think again before he does it again. If she isn't gonna report him to the authorities then she should at least do this.

[Wiseman2]

3 hours ago, Wruce_Bayne91 said:

. He wants to be gross, make him think again before he does it again. 

I'm sure you're just trolling so...

[Raven1056]

On 8/10/2021 at 6:49 AM, Wruce_Bayne91 said:

This is sexual harassment, and if your friend gets upset by you not welcoming it in any way or being uncomfortable with it then she's not a good friend.

I say you send him either a blue waffle pic or a gross dong pic back.

Blue waffle? Lol

[MissCanuck]

1 hour ago, Raven1056 said:

Blue waffle? Lol

Don't Google it.