Friends with benifits

[foxylv6]

I been seeing this guy its a fiends with beniftis today he decided he didn't want to continue doing it anymore becuse it was hurting me which it was I would text him the next day over and over making it seem like this arrangement was hurting me I would tell him I am good with the arrangement but then the next day I would act differently about it he gave me lots of chances finally he said I can't do it anymore . Broke it off with me i wanted him to tell me he didn't want to see me to my face so I went to his house  when I got there we talked about how he might be developing feelings for me  but he knows I won't be good to continue this but then he keeper saying that I looked so good I did look good .anyway one of our friends which is a male. He told me i should go becuse this firiend likes me i told him no he dnt I I hadn't seen our friend  in a long time he said how I loked so diffent he  didn't recognize me I then told him it was my hair do you like it and gave him a hug .Then the guy I been seeing looked angry I asked what was wrong he said dont act like you don't know what you did . I have no idea what he was talking about . Then he said get the *** out of my house get the *** out I was shocked I don't know what I did .

[Wiseman2]

59 minutes ago, foxylv6 said:

 so I went to his house  when I got there we talked about how he might be developing feelings for me  . He told me i should go becuse this firiend likes Then he said get the *** out of my house get the *** out.

Sorry this happened. You dodged a bullet. You were accepting a substandard unsatisfactory situationship when you really wanted a BF.

Never show up to someone's home unannounced for a confrontation. Worse is then you proceeded to flirt with his friend, and he asked you to leave several times.

You're lucky he didn't call the police. Stop pretending you didn't know it was wrong to show up for a fight then refuse to leave then flirt with his friend.

Get yourself together and avoid drama like this.

If you want to be loved and respected you'll have to date someone exclusively and not play games or have hook-ups.

[HappilyMarried1]

One question for @foxylv6do either of you have significant others (boyfriend or spouse)? I don't think there is any future with this guy as a friend or anything else. I suggest just let it go and move on. Best of luck!

[Batya33]

How long were you friends with him before having intercourse?  I don't think he's a good fit for a casual sex arrangement because you clearly want more.  I'm sorry you're disappointed.

[SooSad33]

7 hours ago, foxylv6 said:

I been seeing this guy its a fiends with beniftis today he decided he didn't want to continue doing it anymore becuse it was hurting me which it was I would text him the next day over and over making it seem like this arrangement was hurting me I would tell him I am good with the arrangement but then the next day I would act differently about it he gave me lots of chances finally he said I can't do it anymore .

It was a fwb arrangement.. but you came to have feelings.. and came to want/expect more and he was trying to get out of it.

This is why this sort of thing is NOT a good idea.  So often women do get emotionally invested.

He had already told you he wasn't wanting it anymore.

Get away & stay away from him now. Expect no more.

 

[Rose Mosse]

7 hours ago, foxylv6 said:

Then he said get the *** out of my house get the *** out I was shocked I don't know what I did .

Did he tell you that he had feelings for you? You know if he cares he would have asked you out, treated you well and you wouldn't have had doubts like this. You wouldn't feel compelled either to drop in spontaneously to seek answers. You'd be at peace knowing full well his feelings for you.

His actions are louder than his words. Instead he continued to sleep with you with the understanding that you were both FWB. When he couldn't handle it he said it was finished. When you had a friendly interaction with another man, he got irate and jealous. 

Are you sure you want to be mixed up with a man like this? (or men like this) It could be him or another man just like him. Why settle for so little or something so ambiguous or that feels so wrong?

 

 

[foxylv6]

Actually he is my brothers friend which we have known for 30 years .We are both single he was in a 20 year relationship been single 3 months

[Guest]

This is one of the reasons sex with no attachment causes pain. Its treating something intimate as pornography. On a higher level sex is a connection even on a spiritual level where two become one, so this just ripping that apart and causes scars. That's why people get hurt from this all the time. It is best to only have sex where there is commitment.