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Was dating this guy since March and three days ago  he basically told me he wanted to date others that’s why he’s been distant so i respected his decision and said “okay i understand “ then i blocked him now he’s texting me and asking me why i blocked him.  I blocked him from social media and on his main cell phone now he’s texting me from another number asking why i keep blocking him

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10 minutes ago, bladeSoD9 said:

he basically told me he wanted to date others . then i blocked him now he’s texting me and asking me why i blocked him.  

Text once "please do not contact me", then delete and block him and all his people from all your messaging apps and social media and devices.

 Never accommodate someone who dumps you and has this huge of an ego.

Is this the same man?:

 

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He didn't expect you to have self respect.

What he was hoping for is that you'll have a total breakdown without his greatness, go begging for him to come back and he'll deign to bang you once in a awhile out of pity while he pursues others and you stroke his ego.

What can I say....you didn't lose anything worthwhile here. Bullet dodged. Now tell him to eff off and never contact you again. What a loser he is.

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30 minutes ago, bladeSoD9 said:

Was dating this guy since March and three days ago  he basically told me he wanted to date others that’s why he’s been distant so i respected his decision and said “okay i understand “ then i blocked him now he’s texting me and asking me why i blocked him.  I blocked him from social media and on his main cell phone now he’s texting me from another number asking why i keep blocking him

"Hi [ex's name]. I did not intend to offend by blocking you. I blocked you so that I can heal and move on. I hope you understand."

Depending on whether or not you want to reconcile, you could add that you are open to talking it it's about reconciliation. Otherwise, you hope he understands and respects your desire for space moving forward. 

Hope this helps. 

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You were only involved a few months.  I don't think you owe him anything, like remaining to 'be a friend'.

It's done.  You're moving on.

He should not expect anything more... so just ignore it.  You should not have to explain yourself.

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2 hours ago, DancingFool said:

He didn't expect you to have self respect.

What he was hoping for is that you'll have a total breakdown without his greatness, go begging for him to come back and he'll deign to bang you once in a awhile out of pity while he pursues others and you stroke his ego.

What can I say....you didn't lose anything worthwhile here. Bullet dodged. Now tell him to eff off and never contact you again. What a loser he is.

What Dancing Fool said!  Block and delete in all possible ways.  Never respond to him again.

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3 hours ago, DancingFool said:

He didn't expect you to have self respect.

What he was hoping for is that you'll have a total breakdown without his greatness, go begging for him to come back and he'll deign to bang you once in a awhile out of pity while he pursues others and you stroke his ego.

What can I say....you didn't lose anything worthwhile here. Bullet dodged. Now tell him to eff off and never contact you again. What a loser he is.

Oh no i can take rejection lol I’m ok with him seeing others but i want no parts in that

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What a loser! 

I agree to be nice and courteous with a short sentence that you've blocked him to move on. Other than that, you owe him nothing. 

I was in this situation once when I was young and single. Really like this guy but a couple of months in to it, he told me he "didn't want to put all his eggs in one basket." I didn't have to block him because he was respectful of my feelings and of where I stood. That's how it should be. People shouldn't be throwing people bread crumbs and if they do, it's because they're inconsiderate and egotistical - which should be a huge sign that you don't want this person to be your partner.

 

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7 hours ago, bladeSoD9 said:

Was dating this guy since March and three days ago  he basically told me he wanted to date others that’s why he’s been distant so i respected his decision and said “okay i understand “ then i blocked him now he’s texting me and asking me why i blocked him.  I blocked him from social media and on his main cell phone now he’s texting me from another number asking why i keep blocking him

I wouldn't respond. Just keep blocking all the random numbers. There's some mental health issue there if someone has to exert his or herself to these lengths. Don't give that person any reason to contact you again. This isn't a form of endearment and it doesn't mean he misses you. It's manipulative and controlling and he likely wants the attention from you because that's what he needs to feel good about himself. 

If you are strong and assertive, he can't get what he needs from you (your dependency on him and validation). He seeks it elsewhere. If he feels he has lost you permanently, he also feels lost because he is dependent on you to validate him. Leave him alone. 

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7 hours ago, LootieTootie said:

What a loser! 

I agree to be nice and courteous with a short sentence that you've blocked him to move on. Other than that, you owe him nothing. 

I was in this situation once when I was young and single. Really like this guy but a couple of months in to it, he told me he "didn't want to put all his eggs in one basket." I didn't have to block him because he was respectful of my feelings and of where I stood. That's how it should be. People shouldn't be throwing people bread crumbs and if they do, it's because they're inconsiderate and egotistical - which should be a huge sign that you don't want this person to be your partner.

 

I agree a loser i don’t think i owe him anything either 

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