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My ex and I amicably ended a 15 year relationship (no kids). We continue to hang out as friends and we have recently started seeing other people. I want to be supportive of my ex's new relationships but he blatantly lies to my face when he has plans with another woman. I don't mind that he's seeing other people but I am consumed by anger when he lies. I have tried talking to him calmly about this but he continues to lie. Any advice? 

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17 minutes ago, Jenny41 said:

We continue to hang out as friends and we have recently started seeing other people. 

Why are you hanging out if you are consumed with anger? Your love lives are your own business now, no one needs to report to each other.

 You are killing your chances of moving on by buzzing around and micromanaging/asking about who he's seeing and getting upset.

 In addition, who want's to date you when you are hanging out with an ex like this?

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He doesn't need your support or approval. He absolutely doesn't need to discuss his private life and who he is seeing with you. It's weird and completely out of line for you to expect that.

You broke up for a reason and it's probably high time to sever that cord and part ways for good. Most people can't really be friends with ex's. At least not immediately post break up. Case in point being that you are angry about something that is none of your business, aka you are acting like you are still together when you aren't. You need time apart to detach emotionally and that means no contact.

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2 hours ago, Jenny41 said:

We continue to hang out as friends and we have recently started seeing other people. I want to be supportive of my ex's new relationships but he blatantly lies to my face when he has plans with another woman. I don't mind that he's seeing other people but I am consumed by anger when he lies.

Why are you upset? obviously you are still emotionally invested in him.

Maybe is best you two NOT remain hanging out together.... makes things quite awkward - as you see is hard on you to see/hear abt him with someone new..?

BTW, he does not have to answer to YOU anymore, on what he does or whom he see's.

you need to accept this... he owes you nothing now.

Distance & respect.

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This is why it's best to go NC with an ex, at least until you move on emotionally and are okay with your ex having romantic partners.

Why are you hanging out with your ex? Are you having sex?

He's lying because perhaps a part of him still wants to keep the door open in case his other dates don't work out.

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He doesn't WANT to tell you his business.

Friendships with exes are self limiting for this reason, among many other reasons.

Why not focus instead on your own love life and your friends who DO want to divulge?

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