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1 hour ago, LootieTootie said:

An attractive man is not a desperate angry guy who thinks there's still hope after throwing a hissy fit with emojis.

Will you please, please stop this stalkerish and obsessive behaviour and heed the advice being given by ALL the posters here! And get help if you are unable to conduct your life in a stable and half-way normal fashion.

 

4 minutes ago, hoshi said:

You sound like a psycho. Please set your priorities straight. 

What Hoshi said. 

 

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Uhmm, NO. I wouldn't bother trying to recover from that. I'd take this as a go-forward lesson that resorting to acting like a 12 year old will pretty much seal that deal. With anyone.

Seems like Kyle actually goes out and does stuff. He doesn't wait in line for Pokemon cards on Friday nights. He doesn't spend all his time gaming, watching TV and eating pizza. And he actually s

You are judgmental, rude, condescending and angry, OP. That’s where you’re going wrong. You need a serious attitude adjustment and to get down off your high horse.   

58 minutes ago, LootieTootie said:

🙄 Says the guy who threw a tantrum with emojis after being rejected.

I am raising two teenage boys and believe me, you and this guy aren't far from their maturity level and yes, I'm brutally honest with them too.

Believe me, I'm a teenager beginning high school. I think this situation is completely immature and absurd.

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3 minutes ago, That36guy said:

I'm not talking about copying Kyle's methods of being a gullible degenerate, I'm simply referencing the fact that he obviously did something right to get with this girl. They somehow made a connection, he somehow wooed her. That's what I'm trying to work out here.

Didn't she already answer your question about this? She said that she got tired of waiting for you and she found someone else who was willing to engage meaningfully or take a chance asking her out. Don't internalize all this anger and resentment. It's good that you want to improve but she answered your question, you know the answers also before she answered it. It's a matter of timing out and having some time to reflect. 

In the end she was a customer at the store and you hesitated probably for your own good reasons and when you saw her with someone else it upset you. It's not that complicated. You will be ok if you stop all the overthinking and resentment and anger towards others just because things don't work out your way. 

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3 minutes ago, hoshi said:

this situation is completely immature and absurd.

You said it Hoshi!  And deranged and insane as well.

And this is precisely the reaction your oft mentioned "fear of rejection" produces in you. Rage, tantrums and insults to the rejecting person?!

 

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1 minute ago, LaHermes said:

You said it Hoshi!  And deranged and insane as well.

Also this shows fan behaviour 🙄 ("Fan Behaviour" is used when someone is being extremely obsessive for exactly no reason.)

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Seems like Kyle actually goes out and does stuff. He doesn't wait in line for Pokemon cards on Friday nights. He doesn't spend all his time gaming, watching TV and eating pizza.

And he actually spoke to her. Instead of deciding he'd "settle for" her because he felt he had no other options and waited for her to make yet another move after she asked him to go to a party (and said no because he was playing Fortnite), he probably talked to her. And probably asked her out.

These are dating basics. Girls won't go out with you if you don't even talk to them.

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23 minutes ago, That36guy said:

I need to figure it out. I need to know how Kyle succeeded where I failed. If for nothing else, I can take notes from him on how to actually get with a girl.

Perhaps he didn’t hide behind a screen and verbally attack her.  My sense is if you’re capable of this sort of outburst with no provocation other than unreciprocated interest in dating then she sensed this potential when she interacted with you whether it came across as social awkwardness or veiled hostility or anger or a negative vibe that was a turn off.  Your attack confirmed this.  
the last time I endured a personal attack like this was in july of 2005.  I’d politely told a guy after two dates I wasn’t feeling chemistry and didn’t want him to come see me again since he didn’t live close by.  He politely thanked me over the phone. Then the next morning proceeded to send me email after email hurling accusations at me for leading him on.  I stopped responding.  The last email apologized and asked if we could keep in touch.  I either didn’t respond or did so briefly and politely “no thank you “.  
I was shaken up.  About an hour later my ex fiancée called.  We’d been in touch again almost 8 years after we broke up.  In a purely platonic way.  He asked if I was free last minute for dinner while he was in town.  I was so exhausted from this dude's emails and dating in general I said yes. I knew we wouldn’t discuss our dating lives which was fine by me.  I wasn’t dressed for a date at all.  He wasn’t either and arrived dripping sweat as he first went to the wrong restaurant.  Out of nowhere sparks flew.  Three weeks later after three platonic meet ups we got back together.  Three years and five months later we got married.  
So yes sometimes there can be a chain reaction like that - not settling after meeting too many jerks but perhaps recognizing or reaffirming what’s important and really noticing someone’s awesome qualities.  After your personal attack on this customer of yours I wouldn’t be surprised if she feels even more appreciative of Kyle than ever.  
Take full responsibility.  It’s not just “I’m only human” - you attacked someone.  You intended to. This should be a wake up call for you and if there are no repercussions at work or otherwise - I mean Kyle knows where you work - consider yourself extremely lucky.  Clean up your act before you try to date.  As doctor joy Browne RIP said - dating is a very high level form of socializing - requires more social skills than other interactions.  If someone choosing not to date you triggers you to behave this way then avoid dating until you’re  ready to take responsibility and take actions to insure you never treat someone like this ever again.  

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30 minutes ago, boltnrun said:

Seems like Kyle actually goes out and does stuff. He doesn't wait in line for Pokemon cards on Friday nights. He doesn't spend all his time gaming, watching TV and eating pizza.

And he actually spoke to her. Instead of deciding he'd "settle for" her because he felt he had no other options and waited for her to make yet another move after she asked him to go to a party (and said no because he was playing Fortnite), he probably talked to her. And probably asked her out.

These are dating basics. Girls won't go out with you if you don't even talk to them.

Duly noted.

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You are judgmental, rude, condescending and angry, OP.

That’s where you’re going wrong. You need a serious attitude adjustment and to get down off your high horse. 

 

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15 minutes ago, MissCanuck said:

You are judgmental, rude, condescending and angry, OP.

That’s where you’re going wrong. You need a serious attitude adjustment and to get down off your high horse. 

Endorsing for good measure.

 

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