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38 minutes ago, MissCanuck said:

She liked you before you lost your mind on her, too. 

Leave her alone. I would personally want nothing more to do with you after that deranged outburst. 

Look into anger management therapy. You’re going to need it if something this benign set you off so badly. 

So would she have given me another chance had I not lost my temper at her?

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Uhmm, NO. I wouldn't bother trying to recover from that. I'd take this as a go-forward lesson that resorting to acting like a 12 year old will pretty much seal that deal. With anyone.

Seems like Kyle actually goes out and does stuff. He doesn't wait in line for Pokemon cards on Friday nights. He doesn't spend all his time gaming, watching TV and eating pizza. And he actually s

You are judgmental, rude, condescending and angry, OP. That’s where you’re going wrong. You need a serious attitude adjustment and to get down off your high horse.   

6 hours ago, That36guy said:

So that's it then? It's done and I no longer stand a chance with her?

The only people who overlook verbal abuse are those who aren't right in the head.

You showed her something she'll never want in her life if she has any sense.

From here you get to work out on your own the problem that prompted your loss of self control, because if you don't, this is the result you'll have with everyone you meet until you fix the problem.

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1 hour ago, That36guy said:

So would she have given me another chance had I not lost my temper at her?

No. She has a boyfriend, which puts you out of the picture.

And no, I don't think she'll ever forget you. She'll always remember you as that psycho guy who lost the plot and not someone she'll ever want to date.

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3 hours ago, That36guy said:

So would she have given me another chance had I not lost my temper at her?

Not necessarily, no. 

She has a boyfriend now so she had already lost interest in you. Your attack on her only ensured she will never come looking for you if she becomes single again. 

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8 hours ago, That36guy said:

What good comes out of us remaining just friends? My feelings for her will remain, if not grow stronger, and I’ll just sit on the sidelines while I watch her and Kyle happy together. I was upset at her because I didn’t see any point in just friendship.

Actually, you probably lost a chance at being friends with her. 

You are not upset at her, you're upset at yourself for waiting too long. Now you cussed her out, it ruins your chance at ever being with her. There is no reason to be upset at her.

Your inappropriate behaviour would get you fired. So I advise looking out. 

Don't worry, she will remember you. As someone she should avoid.

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6 hours ago, That36guy said:

So would she have given me another chance had I not lost my temper at her?

She has a boyfriend. And she's loyal to him. There would be a chance of her running back to you if they break up but you attacked her and that chance is done for.

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10 hours ago, That36guy said:

What if I just let her be, things don't work out with her new boyfriend, and she decides to come back to me since she liked me to begin with?

She was interested in interacting with you on a friendly basis before you behaved that way.  For any self respecting person how you behaved would be a total dealbreaker.  Please leave her alone -never ever contact her again in any manner.  No apology, no nothing - because at this point given your choices and how you treated this person any typed apology will either be blocked or if read will most likely be interpreted as a way for you to interact with her again and she will NOT want to have any interaction with you other than perhaps through her boyfriend who may want to have a word with you or the police.  If she enters your store keep your physical distance and if you have to interact from a business standpoint and can't find anyone else to interact in your place keep it 100% formal and neutral and business.  All business.  You do want to keep your job, right?

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7 hours ago, MissCanuck said:

Not necessarily, no. 

She has a boyfriend now so she had already lost interest in you. Your attack on her only ensured she will never come looking for you if she becomes single again. 

That's not fair. She was interested in me well before she met this Kyle guy at their stupid motorcross crap.

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12 minutes ago, That36guy said:

That's not fair. She was interested in me well before she met this Kyle guy at their stupid motorcross crap.

You don’t respect her or her hobbies so you’re not interested at this point you’re just mad because of your ego. Let it go your chances are done. 

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16 minutes ago, That36guy said:

That's not fair. She was interested in me well before she met this Kyle guy at their stupid motorcross crap.

But she isn't interested now.

You seem to believe how you want things to be is how they should be. And get angry and resentful when things don't go your way. Unfortunately that is life. As Mick said, you can't always get what you want.

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And you wonder why you're single... 

Time to grow and that means don't stalk and be a creep still wanting a "chance." 

An attractive man is not a desperate angry guy who thinks there's still hope after throwing a hissy fit with emojis.

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1 minute ago, LootieTootie said:

And you wonder why you're single... 

Time to grow and that means don't stalk and be a creep still wanting a "chance." 

An attractive man is not a desperate angry guy who thinks there's still hope after throwing a hissy fit with emojis.

Actually I'm wondering what exactly she sees in this Kyle guy.

I've been to his Facebook and he honestly has the mind of a teenager. All of his posts are basically him bragging about being offensive and politically incorrect and his feed his filled with him posting all of these click bait fake news articles like "CHINA WILL START WORLD WAR 3 ON THIS DATE" and "NASA CONFIRMS METEOR TO HIT EARTH NEXT MONTH". He just comes across as a gullible middle schooler who just discovered the internet for the first time. I really don't get what she sees in him.

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7 minutes ago, That36guy said:

Actually I'm wondering what exactly she sees in this Kyle guy.

I've been to his Facebook and he honestly has the mind of a teenager. 

🙄 Says the guy who threw a tantrum with emojis after being rejected.

I am raising two teenage boys and believe me, you and this guy aren't far from their maturity level and yes, I'm brutally honest with them too.

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8 minutes ago, That36guy said:

He just comes across as a gullible middle schooler who just discovered the internet for the first time. I really don't get what she sees in him.

I think you need to reverse this statement, insert your name and own your own choices and faults.  In short, this ship has sailed and the ball is in your court to choose the next step in order to control your behaviour/actions.

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15 minutes ago, Seraphim said:

Well it doesn’t matter what you think of him it matters what she thinks of him. 

That's exactly what I'm trying to work out. I'm far from perfect, but I can honestly say that I'm better than this Kyle guy. I don't fall for blatantly false tabloid articles, nor do I feel the need to beat over people's heads this asinine point about being intentionally offensive.

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14 hours ago, lostandhurt said:

You couldn't get the courage up to ask her out and then when you finally did she was taken.  You weren't mad at her, you were mad at yourself for waiting to long and you took it out on her. Dumb move but you can learn from your huge mistake.  Any chance you might have had is now gone and the worst part any of her friends that might have been interested in you now know the story.

  You need to get a handle on your anger issues and spend some time figuring out why you thought it was okay to attack her or anyone for that matter because they rejected you.  This is serious and you need to take it that way.

  Leave her alone and if by chance you do run into her apologize for being a jerk, wish her well and then walk away. 

I endorse every word Lost.  OP is, he says, 25.   

Just seen this!

" I snapped and sent her a message full of insults, cuss words, and the middle finger emoji."

Well, that's one way to woo a lady! You need help, a lot, before your obsessive and damaging behaviour lands you in real trouble. 

And OP says  (look who's talking lol😞

"I'm wondering what exactly she sees in this Kyle guy.

I've been to his Facebook and he honestly has the mind of a teenager. "

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7 minutes ago, That36guy said:

That's exactly what I'm trying to work out. I'm far from perfect, but I can honestly say that I'm better than this Kyle guy. I don't fall for blatantly false tabloid articles, nor do I feel the need to beat over people's heads this asinine point about being intentionally offensive.

Instead of trying to work it out move on that ship has sailed. She’s not coming back. Just go on with your life. 

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10 minutes ago, Seraphim said:

Instead of trying to work it out move on that ship has sailed. She’s not coming back. Just go on with your life. 

I need to figure it out. I need to know how Kyle succeeded where I failed. If for nothing else, I can take notes from him on how to actually get with a girl.

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1 minute ago, That36guy said:

I need to figure it out. I need to know how Kyle succeeded where I failed. If for nothing else, I can take notes from him on how to actually get with a girl.

Omg... this isn't world of warcraft.

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1 minute ago, That36guy said:

I need to know how Kyle succeeded where I failed. 

He didn't send her an F-you text replete with obscenities and vulgar emojis. Imagine that.🤔

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2 minutes ago, That36guy said:

I can take notes from him on how to actually get with a girl.

Have you taken utter leave of your senses OP?!!  Do you realise how INSANE and deranged that sounds!

Never mind that (contradictions again) you are intending to copy this hated and loathsome Kyle's style and methods! 

Please seek help OP.  Sincerely.

 

 

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1 hour ago, That36guy said:

That's not fair. She was interested in me well before she met this Kyle guy at their stupid motorcross crap.

It is completely fair. You left her to wait too long.

59 minutes ago, That36guy said:

Actually I'm wondering what exactly she sees in this Kyle guy.

I've been to his Facebook and he honestly has the mind of a teenager. All of his posts are basically him bragging about being offensive and politically incorrect and his feed his filled with him posting all of these click bait fake news articles like "CHINA WILL START WORLD WAR 3 ON THIS DATE" and "NASA CONFIRMS METEOR TO HIT EARTH NEXT MONTH". He just comes across as a gullible middle schooler who just discovered the internet for the first time. I really don't get what she sees in him.

Yeah, and it's not your business to figure it out. Let her be. I may be a freshman, but I can say that you act way younger than my grade. We tend to avoid those people. You are acting immature.

7 minutes ago, That36guy said:

I need to figure it out. I need to know how Kyle succeeded where I failed. If for nothing else, I can take notes from him on how to actually get with a girl.

You failed when you made her wait and cussed her out. Kyle didn't do that.

Honestly, coming from a girl who literally falls half in love with boys on a regular, you definitely aren't doing it. You sound like a psycho. Please set your priorities straight. 

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3 minutes ago, LaHermes said:

Have you taken utter leave of your senses OP?!!  Do you realise how INSANE and deranged that sounds!

Never mind that (contradictions again) you are intending to copy this hated and loathsome Kyle's style and methods! 

Please seek help OP.  Sincerely.

 

 

I'm not talking about copying Kyle's methods of being a gullible degenerate, I'm simply referencing the fact that he obviously did something right to get with this girl. They somehow made a connection, he somehow wooed her. That's what I'm trying to work out here.

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Just now, That36guy said:

I'm not talking about copying Kyle's methods of being a gullible degenerate, I'm simply referencing the fact that he obviously did something right to get with this girl. They somehow made a connection, he somehow wooed her. That's what I'm trying to work out here.

Please read over what you said. Doesn't it seem like obsessive behaviour here? Just leave her and Kyle alone. You have no chances with her anymore. Why? Your actions towards her.  

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