Trying to make new friends but people keep ghosting me. Why?

[SoLonely1]

I've been living in a new place for 4 years and still haven't made any new friends here.

Tried bumble for friends, had a nice chat with a few girls from the area who supposedly are looking for new friends but they never suggest to meet up. Tried suggesting it myself but didn't work. Sometimes wondering of they really are on the app to meet new people as it certainly doesn't seem like it.

Met with 2 girls on 2 different occasions and we had a nice time but then they stopped replying to my messages. 

Recently tried bumble again and met with one girl. Again, we had a really nice time but the she ghosted me and even unmatched. 

That's really depressing, is there something wrong with me?

I'm a friendly person, don't normally complain or ever talk bad about others, I have quite a few hobbies I'm not a boring person. Now that it happened to me a few times, I'm getting really depressed. 

Why would people keep rejecting me like that? 😞

[Lambert]

Who knows.  Try to keep your chin up.  But maybe come at this from another angle.... you say you have a lot of hobbies-- can you join in a group that also likes what you like?  Or can you volunteer in your neighborhood?  What about joining a club or a gym nearby?  

Your confidence has been knocked a little bit.  But keep going.  It's not you.  People make choices based on them.  It's just like dating, you don't click with everyone.  And more often than not, it's not a click.  

[Batya33]

Once it's safe I'd meet people in real life at the gym, dance classes,  book clubs, hiking groups, volunteer work (like volunteering backstage at community theater).  No one is "Ghosting" -they're simply flaky/unreliable but if you're in a group activity often people go out after or make a plan to go out after next time.  When I was single I volunteered at a local shelter reading to children with a group of mostly women (some guys) once a week for 7 years. In my new city I helped my local public radio station with fundraising (I took calls from donors) every few months and met some people that way.  I moved away from my home city of 43 years 12 years ago.  800 miles away.  It's not easy to make new friends (I am now in my mid 50s) but when I find someone who actually is reliable I really appreciate it!

[SoLonely1]

22 minutes ago, Lambert said:

Who knows.  Try to keep your chin up.  But maybe come at this from another angle.... you say you have a lot of hobbies-- can you join in a group that also likes what you like?  Or can you volunteer in your neighborhood?  What about joining a club or a gym nearby?  

Your confidence has been knocked a little bit.  But keep going.  It's not you.  People make choices based on them.  It's just like dating, you don't click with everyone.  And more often than not, it's not a click.  

I must be doing something wrong. I tried joining a gym and attending different classes before pandemic but didn't make new friends. 

People at the gym were not really interested in making new connections and definitely not outside of the gym.

I love running but I'm unlucky as there are no running groups near me and those in neighbouring towns are a totally different age group.

Attended several language courses in the past but all people there were taking these classes either because their significant other was from that country or they needed it for work and were not interested or had tome for socialising with fellow students.

I took up crocheting during pandemic but that seems like a lonely hobby.

I keep fish and joined a few fish groups on Facebook but there's no chance there of making friends and people are from all over the world anyway.

 

 

[SoLonely1]

27 minutes ago, Batya33 said:

Once it's safe I'd meet people in real life at the gym, dance classes,  book clubs, hiking groups, volunteer work (like volunteering backstage at community theater).  No one is "Ghosting" -they're simply flaky/unreliable but if you're in a group activity often people go out after or make a plan to go out after next time.  When I was single I volunteered at a local shelter reading to children with a group of mostly women (some guys) once a week for 7 years. In my new city I helped my local public radio station with fundraising (I took calls from donors) every few months and met some people that way.  I moved away from my home city of 43 years 12 years ago.  800 miles away.  It's not easy to make new friends (I am now in my mid 50s) but when I find someone who actually is reliable I really appreciate it!

I tried different activities but seems like I just don't know how to do it right. I'm currently living in a small town and seems like people here already have their circle of friends and aren't open to making new people. 

It's frustrating as those people I found online say they are looking for friends but then never really want to follow through with meeting up, etc.

They often say they have no friemds but then when we text a bit they say 'oh it's such a lovely weekend, I met with friends and we did this or that' and they always seem to be out with their friends over the weekend, even though they said they had none.

I have only 2 'friends' left...one lives an hour away, the other 1.5 hrs. In the past 6 months I saw them like once each 😕

I'd love to have some friends in my area that I could go out for a walk or meet up for coffee. Anything, really. I've been trying for so long that I feel like giving up.

 

[Lambert]

2 minutes ago, SoLonely1 said:

I must be doing something wrong. I tried joining a gym and attending different classes before pandemic but didn't make new friends. 

People at the gym were not really interested in making new connections and definitely not outside of the gym.

I love running but I'm unlucky as there are no running groups near me and those in neighbouring towns are a totally different age group.

Attended several language courses in the past but all people there were taking these classes either because their significant other was from that country or they needed it for work and were not interested or had tome for socialising with fellow students.

I took up crocheting during pandemic but that seems like a lonely hobby.

I keep fish and joined a few fish groups on Facebook but there's no chance there of making friends and people are from all over the world anyway.

 

 

None of these things are instantaneous.  A lot of people aren't looking for new friends, it just happens.  You have to keep trying and doing things for yourself so it happens in a way that you are projecting positive welcoming energy.

If you go a few times and quit then maybe you won't make friends.  Some of my friends & I met just randomly because I saw them many times at the same place at the same time, then saw them some place else.  It wasn't magically-- we saw each other across the room and became BFFs.  

Maybe you have a bad attitude because you're frustrated.  To just make broad statements like, "people don't go to the gym to make friends" is a defeatist attitude.  

Maybe your expectations are to high.  Why did you move somewhere that you don't have any friends?  Do you have friends in your old town?  Lean on them.  

Why can't you be friends with people of different ages?  You're trying to network.... meet a lot of new people and then meet who they know.  

[Kwothe28]

1 hour ago, SoLonely1 said:

Recently tried bumble again and met with one girl. Again, we had a really nice time but the she ghosted me and even unmatched. 

Dating apps are like that. You dont hit with anyone, sometimes they want to talk, sometimes they dont, sometimes they are just bored etc. Anyway, there are "plenty of fish in the sea" there and you need to differentiate to stand out from the crowd. Its not your fault if it doesnt happen, just look at it as a giant "speed dating", and that you will talk to plenty of people, you wont hit with just anyone but that it will maybe happen in time. 

[SoLonely1]

16 minutes ago, Lambert said:

None of these things are instantaneous.  A lot of people aren't looking for new friends, it just happens.  You have to keep trying and doing things for yourself so it happens in a way that you are projecting positive welcoming energy.

If you go a few times and quit then maybe you won't make friends.  Some of my friends & I met just randomly because I saw them many times at the same place at the same time, then saw them some place else.  It wasn't magically-- we saw each other across the room and became BFFs.  

Maybe you have a bad attitude because you're frustrated.  To just make broad statements like, "people don't go to the gym to make friends" is a defeatist attitude.  

Maybe your expectations are to high.  Why did you move somewhere that you don't have any friends?  Do you have friends in your old town?  Lean on them.  

Why can't you be friends with people of different ages?  You're trying to network.... meet a lot of new people and then meet who they know.  

I don't think o had a bad attitude, I'm normally quite positive and playful around people (even if I then go home sometimes and feel sad and lonely). 

I'm also not saying there anything wrong with making friends with people who are from a different age group. The thing if the only two friends I have left are much older than me, one by 20 years, the other by 22. One of the women that I met before through running and see in a park is 80. Im in my mid 30s, I'd like to finally make some friends that are my age. I just feel so much older now than I am 😕 itit sometimes feel like only people that age are interested in chatting to me, probably because they don't have many people to chat to either 😕 I'd just like to finally make some friends that are closer to my age so I don't feel like my life is over. 

I moved to this town because I couldn't find a job and finally found one here.

[Lambert]

2 minutes ago, SoLonely1 said:

I don't think o had a bad attitude, I'm normally quite positive and playful around people (even if I then go home sometimes and feel sad and lonely). 

I'm also not saying there anything wrong with making friends with people who are from a different age group. The thing if the only two friends I have left are much older than me, one by 20 years, the other by 22. One of the women that I met before through running and see in a park is 80. Im in my mid 30s, I'd like to finally make some friends that are my age. I just feel so much older now than I am 😕 itit sometimes feel like only people that age are interested in chatting to me, probably because they don't have many people to chat to either 😕 I'd just like to finally make some friends that are closer to my age so I don't feel like my life is over. 

I moved to this town because I couldn't find a job and finally found one here.

I understand what you're saying... but you asked for advice and I am just trying to help you.

Everything you said is very "limiting" and when you are "wanting" but not "accepting" or "appreciating" what is there, you are basically screwing yourself. 

You wonder why others didn't want to be friends with you.  But you aren't willing to be friends with the ones that are.  

If you feel like your life is over, that's not about friends.  That's about you.  

Don't be offended. The point of an anonymous board is to get new perspectives.  I am not saying you are or are not anything.  I merely pointing out things to think about.  

The happiest people do not have everything they want, but they want everything they have.  

Some of these older people, when you get to be friends, you could tell them your situation and you never know, they may know of a social event or even a 5k or a charity.  You may need to go to the next town over.

Whatever it is... it's gotta start with you.  Good luck!  It can't rain forever.  You'll figure something out.  Life is NOT OVER.  

[Andrina]

Sometimes friendships are years in the making, after regularly seeing someone because of work, volunteer work, or a hobby. It's harder to expect instant friendships, and you probably give off the vibe of being too needy. I'd attend these events for hobbies, etc., with more of a mindset of enjoying people's company in that moment, without the immediate goal of forming a friendship that would be one-on-one get togethers involving texting, which is likely too much, too soon.

My suggestion would be to form your own Meetup.com group and organize regular activities you enjoy. Perhaps hiking in a local park. Attending a local festival. Book discussion group. Bowling. Meeting for dinner and drinks. Environmental cleanup. Beginning salsa lesson at a local dance studio. Creative writing.

Good luck!

[SoLonely1]

23 minutes ago, Lambert said:

I understand what you're saying... but you asked for advice and I am just trying to help you.

Everything you said is very "limiting" and when you are "wanting" but not "accepting" or "appreciating" what is there, you are basically screwing yourself. 

You wonder why others didn't want to be friends with you.  But you aren't willing to be friends with the ones that are.  

If you feel like your life is over, that's not about friends.  That's about you.  

Don't be offended. The point of an anonymous board is to get new perspectives.  I am not saying you are or are not anything.  I merely pointing out things to think about.  

The happiest people do not have everything they want, but they want everything they have.  

Some of these older people, when you get to be friends, you could tell them your situation and you never know, they may know of a social event or even a 5k or a charity.  You may need to go to the next town over.

Whatever it is... it's gotta start with you.  Good luck!  It can't rain forever.  You'll figure something out.  Life is NOT OVER.  

I understand that and I do appreciate yoir advice. 

I never said I don't want to be friends with those older people I talk to, I merely said that after a decade or so of being surrounded by people much older than me and not being able to make new friends, I finally feel defeated. I'm having a bad day today as it's a beautiful weather and I feel even more depressed on days like this as everywhere I go I see people enjoying time out in the sun with their friemds and family and I have noone to even talk to.

[SoLonely1]

39 minutes ago, Andrina said:

Sometimes friendships are years in the making, after regularly seeing someone because of work, volunteer work, or a hobby. It's harder to expect instant friendships, and you probably give off the vibe of being too needy. I'd attend these events for hobbies, etc., with more of a mindset of enjoying people's company in that moment, without the immediate goal of forming a friendship that would be one-on-one get togethers involving texting, which is likely too much, too soon.

My suggestion would be to form your own Meetup.com group and organize regular activities you enjoy. Perhaps hiking in a local park. Attending a local festival. Book discussion group. Bowling. Meeting for dinner and drinks. Environmental cleanup. Beginning salsa lesson at a local dance studio. Creative writing.

Good luck!

Feels like I've tried almost everything, I like your idea of starting a group on meetup. I'll do that 🙂 let's see what happens.

[Tinydance]

Which country are you in? Just curious coz I'm mid 30's woman and I'm very open to new friends but I'm in Australia lol

I'm guessing that trying to meet friends on dating apps might work the same as trying to meet people for dating on apps. They probably do want friends, just like people on dating apps do want to date. But I think the problem is that "click" and connection actually usually happens naturally and it just can't be forced. It's the same explanation as with dating. There is most likely nothing wrong with you but those women probably just didn't feel that "spark". 

To be honest I'm in a bit of the same situation myself but I'm actually on the other end of it. Nearly two years ago I went to a Meetup group and there was this woman there who moved from another state and she was looking for friends. We hadn't caught up mainly due to the COVID pandemic I suppose. We only chatted on social media a little. A couple of months ago we actually did go out for dinner, drinks and to see a comedy show. 

She didn't really do anything wrong as such, but I just realised that she's "not my cup of tea", as they say. I'm very talkative and have a really bubbly and outgoing personality. I don't think I'm completely self absorbed or anything because I have a lot of friends. But I do love to talk and to be honest I like to sort of dominate the conversation in the sense that I talk a fair bit. Like not 100% dominate and I ask the other person a lot of questions too. But I'm not quiet at all or just a listener, if that makes sense.

Anyway, I felt a big personality clash with this woman I hung out with. She was actually drinking alcohol the whole time we were hanging out, so I'm not sure if that was part of it. But she was EXTREMELY talkative and very literally 100% dominated the conversation and talked ONLY about herself. Any time I tried to say something, she kind of just talked over me. She seemed to have a very loud and boisterous sort of personality. However, she wasn't an a-hole or saying anything actually bad or rude or anything like that. I just felt a really big clash with her because the people I get along best with are actually more quiet. It's an opposites attract kind of thing.

For example, my best friend of eleven years is pretty quiet and somewhat shy. She's definitely what you call a listener and she actually wants someone to lead basically the whole conversation. She said that as soon as we met, she was immediately drawn to me and thought I was great. She actually loved it that I'm so talkative and outgoing.

I guess what I mean is, yes people might want friends but I guess they were hoping to find friends that they feel that real click with. It doesn't mean you did anything wrong but maybe they just weren't really feeling it, friendship wise. 

I do think though that it's important to show interest in other people and ask lots of questions and comment on what they're saying. That way you can get to know them better and they can also see that you're nice and interested in them.

I would also probably suggest trying to meet friends mainly in person. Like everything you mentioned you did before, keep doing it. Join Meetup groups, hobby groups, classes, anything. I think meeting only from apps is probably more disappointing because you spend time catching up with people and then it's disappointing if it doesn't work out. I think at least if you go to groups and activities, you can enjoy the activity itself. There is also another app just for platonic friends called Patook that you might like to try. 

[Tinydance]

Also another suggestion is maybe you could make some "place filler" sort of friends? I know maybe that sounds a bit wrong or selfish but a really good way to meet people is actually through other people. So if you make acquaintances or just people to share activities with, maybe they might invite you to things. E.g. They might invite you to a Birthday party and at the party you can meet more people. Try to network as much as possible. You'd also be surprised that even someone older could be a gateway to meeting others.

When I was at university, I was a bit behind in my classes and I decided to do a summer art class. There was this woman in the class who was a mature age student. I was twenty three but the woman was about sixty. I was still friendly to her anyway and we would chat. She was making an art project and using photos of her family for the project. She was showing me some photos of her sons. Two were in their 30's and married but one was twenty two, so my age.

I was actually just being silly and was joking and said; "Your youngest son is cute, you should give him my number." The woman actually had my number already, as we just exchanged them to keep in touch about class work. Anyway, I forgot all about what I said until I get this text message saying: "Hi, it's James, my Mum gave me your number". I was really surprised coz I was kidding when I said all that! To cut a long story short, I dated James for two years!

[Lambert]

21 minutes ago, SoLonely1 said:

I understand that and I do appreciate yoir advice. 

I never said I don't want to be friends with those older people I talk to, I merely said that after a decade or so of being surrounded by people much older than me and not being able to make new friends, I finally feel defeated. I'm having a bad day today as it's a beautiful weather and I feel even more depressed on days like this as everywhere I go I see people enjoying time out in the sun with their friemds and family and I have noone to even talk to.

I know where you are coming from.  It's hard to explain every aspect of every feeling and on the reader's end it's hard not assume what is meant. 

Sorry you are having an especially hard time today.  Before the pandemic, when I was feeling lonely and had no one around to do anything with.  (Heck it happens even to people with friends and family.  So your not alone in loneliness.) But anyhoo.... I would go get a meal at a restaurant and sit at the bar.  Chat up with the bartender.  Or grab a book and go sit at a coffee shop.  

I pretty much talk to anyone that will listen. lol.  I chat it up at the grocery store.  That was the big outing for me during the pandemic.  

Some of this you do need to give yourself a break.  It has been a global pandemic for over a year.  And just having your health is a win!  

[Lambert]

4 minutes ago, Tinydance said:

Also another suggestion is maybe you could make some "place filler" sort of friends? I know maybe that sounds a bit wrong or selfish but a really good way to meet people is actually through other people. So if you make acquaintances or just people to share activities with, maybe they might invite you to things. E.g. They might invite you to a Birthday party and at the party you can meet more people. Try to network as much as possible. You'd also be surprised that even someone older could be a gateway to meeting others.

When I was at university, I was a bit behind in my classes and I decided to do a summer art class. There was this woman in the class who was a mature age student. I was twenty three but the woman was about sixty. I was still friendly to her anyway and we would chat. She was making an art project and using photos of her family for the project. She was showing me some photos of her sons. Two were in their 30's and married but one was twenty two, so my age.

I was actually just being silly and was joking and said; "Your youngest son is cute, you should give him my number." The woman actually had my number already, as we just exchanged them to keep in touch about class work. Anyway, I forgot all about what I said until I get this text message saying: "Hi, it's James, my Mum gave me your number". I was really surprised coz I was kidding when I said all that! To cut a long story short, I dated James for two years!

Exactly Tiny!!  People meet in curious ways.  it's about networking and just putting yourself out there!!

[Batya33]

1 hour ago, SoLonely1 said:

I must be doing something wrong. I tried joining a gym and attending different classes before pandemic but didn't make new friends. 

People at the gym were not really interested in making new connections and definitely not outside of the gym.

I love running but I'm unlucky as there are no running groups near me and those in neighbouring towns are a totally different age group.

Attended several language courses in the past but all people there were taking these classes either because their significant other was from that country or they needed it for work and were not interested or had tome for socialising with fellow students.

I took up crocheting during pandemic but that seems like a lonely hobby.

I keep fish and joined a few fish groups on Facebook but there's no chance there of making friends and people are from all over the world anyway.

 

 

I had to move to a major city -only ten miles from where I grew up -only a 20 minute train ride! -to have a real social life and find someone to marry.  I was in my late 20s when I did that.  I'm almost 55. How old are you?  I think you have to make even more of an effort and you seem to have a negative attitude -do you?  That will be you getting in your own way.  You're not unlucky.  You may have to put in extra effort cause life isn't fair of course but if you want it badly enough you will be willing to "pivot" and do what it takes.  I had to work really hard to find my people, a social life etc.  For me it was worth it.  I don't think fish groups or language courses are the way to meet people despite being interesting pursuits/hobbies.

Edited to add -when I was single in my mid 30s I met friends through volunteering at the shelter, through work and school friends, at work, in my apartment building, at my place of worship -events there, services there - I wasn't too focused on "my age".  I have friends now age range 40-70s.  

[SooSad33]

I am assuming you are female, looking for female friends...

Around here, I've met up with a few good peeps in this area via my 'local singles group;, on facebook.

During the pandemic has been more challenging, but we'd see posts made about some arranging meet ups for coffee at local coffee shops... So whomever wanted to go join them, we'd show up & chat.  🙂 

I am in a group for Crochet, we'd meet maybe once a month at a restaurant.. show our work, etc.

So, maybe see if there's groups in your area.

I am not familiar with 'Bumble'...w/e that is? Doesn't sound too successful though.

 

[LaHermes]

7 minutes ago, SooSad33 said:

'Bumble'.

You don't want to know, SS!  Lol. 

[SooSad33]

3 minutes ago, LaHermes said:

You don't want to know

Alrighty then 😕 ... lol.  nvm.

[SoLonely1]

3 hours ago, Tinydance said:

Which country are you in? Just curious coz I'm mid 30's woman and I'm very open to new friends but I'm in Australia lol

I'm guessing that trying to meet friends on dating apps might work the same as trying to meet people for dating on apps. They probably do want friends, just like people on dating apps do want to date. But I think the problem is that "click" and connection actually usually happens naturally and it just can't be forced. It's the same explanation as with dating. There is most likely nothing wrong with you but those women probably just didn't feel that "spark". 

To be honest I'm in a bit of the same situation myself but I'm actually on the other end of it. Nearly two years ago I went to a Meetup group and there was this woman there who moved from another state and she was looking for friends. We hadn't caught up mainly due to the COVID pandemic I suppose. We only chatted on social media a little. A couple of months ago we actually did go out for dinner, drinks and to see a comedy show. 

She didn't really do anything wrong as such, but I just realised that she's "not my cup of tea", as they say. I'm very talkative and have a really bubbly and outgoing personality. I don't think I'm completely self absorbed or anything because I have a lot of friends. But I do love to talk and to be honest I like to sort of dominate the conversation in the sense that I talk a fair bit. Like not 100% dominate and I ask the other person a lot of questions too. But I'm not quiet at all or just a listener, if that makes sense.

Anyway, I felt a big personality clash with this woman I hung out with. She was actually drinking alcohol the whole time we were hanging out, so I'm not sure if that was part of it. But she was EXTREMELY talkative and very literally 100% dominated the conversation and talked ONLY about herself. Any time I tried to say something, she kind of just talked over me. She seemed to have a very loud and boisterous sort of personality. However, she wasn't an a-hole or saying anything actually bad or rude or anything like that. I just felt a really big clash with her because the people I get along best with are actually more quiet. It's an opposites attract kind of thing.

For example, my best friend of eleven years is pretty quiet and somewhat shy. She's definitely what you call a listener and she actually wants someone to lead basically the whole conversation. She said that as soon as we met, she was immediately drawn to me and thought I was great. She actually loved it that I'm so talkative and outgoing.

I guess what I mean is, yes people might want friends but I guess they were hoping to find friends that they feel that real click with. It doesn't mean you did anything wrong but maybe they just weren't really feeling it, friendship wise. 

I do think though that it's important to show interest in other people and ask lots of questions and comment on what they're saying. That way you can get to know them better and they can also see that you're nice and interested in them.

I would also probably suggest trying to meet friends mainly in person. Like everything you mentioned you did before, keep doing it. Join Meetup groups, hobby groups, classes, anything. I think meeting only from apps is probably more disappointing because you spend time catching up with people and then it's disappointing if it doesn't work out. I think at least if you go to groups and activities, you can enjoy the activity itself. There is also another app just for platonic friends called Patook that you might like to try. 

Thanks so much for sharing. 

I live in the UK. 

I'm sort of wondering if it migjt be easier to make friemds in other places, like maybe it's easier to just randomly start chatting to a stranger as they are more open.

Pandemic definitely didn't help and I'm just tired of not having anyone to meet up for a chat.

Will have another look to see if there is anything happening near me... but maybe it's time to start thinking about moving to a different place again. I love the area as it has beautiful woodlands and lakes but there's not that much to do here.

[SoLonely1]

3 hours ago, Batya33 said:

I had to move to a major city -only ten miles from where I grew up -only a 20 minute train ride! -to have a real social life and find someone to marry.  I was in my late 20s when I did that.  I'm almost 55. How old are you?  I think you have to make even more of an effort and you seem to have a negative attitude -do you?  That will be you getting in your own way.  You're not unlucky.  You may have to put in extra effort cause life isn't fair of course but if you want it badly enough you will be willing to "pivot" and do what it takes.  I had to work really hard to find my people, a social life etc.  For me it was worth it.  I don't think fish groups or language courses are the way to meet people despite being interesting pursuits/hobbies.

Edited to add -when I was single in my mid 30s I met friends through volunteering at the shelter, through work and school friends, at work, in my apartment building, at my place of worship -events there, services there - I wasn't too focused on "my age".  I have friends now age range 40-70s.  

Im in my mid 30s. I'd say that I'm normally staying positive but every now and then when things go wrong all the time, I'm just tired of it.

On days like this one it seems that the more strong I try to be, the worst things turn out to be.

[LaHermes]

6 hours ago, SoLonely1 said:

I've been living in a new place for 4 years and still haven't made any new friends here.

No matter how quiet the place is that IS a long time without making friends.

There has to be an underlying reason.

[SoLonely1]

1 hour ago, SooSad33 said:

I am assuming you are female, looking for female friends...

Around here, I've met up with a few good peeps in this area via my 'local singles group;, on facebook.

During the pandemic has been more challenging, but we'd see posts made about some arranging meet ups for coffee at local coffee shops... So whomever wanted to go join them, we'd show up & chat.  🙂 

I am in a group for Crochet, we'd meet maybe once a month at a restaurant.. show our work, etc.

So, maybe see if there's groups in your area.

I am not familiar with 'Bumble'...w/e that is? Doesn't sound too successful though.

 

Yes, I'm a female. 

I'm in a few groups on Facebook but couldn't find any for socialising in my area, just selling or buying stuff locally. 

Bumble is an app for dating but they also use it for friends so thought I'd give it a go. Btw  I never believed in finding dates online but thought it might work for friends. Apparently not quite so.

[SooSad33]

9 minutes ago, SoLonely1 said:

I'm in a few groups on Facebook but couldn't find any for socialising in my area, just selling or buying stuff locally. 

Bumble is an app for dating but they also use it for friends so thought I'd give it a go. Btw  I never believed in finding dates online but thought it might work for friends. Apparently not quite so.

Ohh, k.  So, maybe for finding actual 'friends', do not do it this way... As, possibly like dating, people get hit up sooo much, it gets overwhelming 😕 .

I've been in dating sites ( POF), which is worldwide.. I've met a few, in the past.. but am not into that anymore... although my acct still exists.. I'll go there on occasion just to 'tour', lol.

So, you have searched for 'local singles groups', etc for your area?

Maybe you can make a group like that then ( was that mentioned?).  Maybe call it "your town, making friends'... or 'your town Singles grp'?

But, imo, is best to try & make friends within your real world... not do something, like through Bumble. 😕