User9300 Posted May 9, 2021 Share Posted May 9, 2021 I've been I a relationship with my girlfriend since January she has stated to have major trust issues with me yet I've done nothing to deserve this and I have not grown any feelings for her I want to end our relationship but because of our work schedules we only have time to meet on her lunch break I know uletting her go on her lunch when she has to go back to work would ruin the rest of her work day so what should I do? I'm very nervous about doing this and don't know what to say to her she always asks if I'm gonna leave her for some prettier asked if I took someone to my hotel when work let me travel for bussiness wich should of been a moment of happiness since my work let me do this and she has a problem with me having a female manager who I will eventually share a private office with when I get promoted management yet my manger is 15 years older then me there is a car show in our town next month my gf and I were gonna go to but now she can't so she made me promise to cruise alone and not let anyone ride with me including my manger who I promised to take for a few laps so her toddler could get to ride a few laps in this cruise she even asked me if i was the one who called her job anonymously to get her fired wich really upset me Link to comment
1a1a Posted May 9, 2021 Share Posted May 9, 2021 There’s nothing for it, you’ll have to tell her on her lunch break. There is no nice way to cushion news like this, just rip the band aid off, tell her you aren’t feeling the spark anymore. She’s gonna be sad, you’ve got to let her deal with that herself. Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted May 9, 2021 Share Posted May 9, 2021 3 hours ago, User9300 said: because of our work schedules we only have time to meet on her lunch. my manger who I promised to take for a few laps so her toddler could get to ride a few laps in this cruise Is this an affair? What is "take a few laps in a cruise"? Link to comment
Andrina Posted May 9, 2021 Share Posted May 9, 2021 I have a hard time believing you only see each other if it's on a lunch break. Surely you have sleepovers or dates during other times. Link to comment
User9300 Posted May 9, 2021 Author Share Posted May 9, 2021 2 hours ago, Andrina said: I have a hard time believing you only see each other if it's on a lunch break. Surely you have sleepovers or dates during other times. Nope just then sadly 7 hours ago, 1a1a said: There’s nothing for it, you’ll have to tell her on her lunch break. There is no nice way to cushion news like this, just rip the band aid off, tell her you aren’t feeling the spark anymore. She’s gonna be sad, you’ve got to let her deal with that herself. And do it right when she gets in my truck or wait a few? Tbh I haven't done much dating even tho I'm 27 Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted May 9, 2021 Share Posted May 9, 2021 13 minutes ago, User9300 said: And do it right when she gets in my truck or wait a few? Why does this dating situation only take place at lunch and in your truck? Is she married? Yes end it. You can do it through text, calling, in person, etc. It really doesn't matter. Link to comment
User9300 Posted May 9, 2021 Author Share Posted May 9, 2021 51 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said: Why does this dating situation only take place at lunch and in your truck? Is she married? Yes end it. You can do it through text, calling, in person, etc. It really doesn't matter. That's the only time she has time to meet and she's super paranoid to dine out at restaurants right now I'm the complete opposite and have been living life as normal while all she does is go to work and home Isint it bad to do on phone normally? Link to comment
User9300 Posted May 9, 2021 Author Share Posted May 9, 2021 Just now, User9300 said: That's the only time she has time to meet and she's super paranoid to dine out at restaurants right now I'm the complete opposite and have been living life as normal while all she does is go to work and home Isint it bad to do on phone normally? And no she's not married Link to comment
User9300 Posted May 9, 2021 Author Share Posted May 9, 2021 7 hours ago, Wiseman2 said: Is this an affair? What is "take a few laps in a cruise"? Not an affair you must not have car show cruises were you live? Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted May 9, 2021 Share Posted May 9, 2021 38 minutes ago, User9300 said: she's super paranoid to dine out at restaurants right now I'm the complete opposite She may be much more concerned with covid than you are. Phone is fine. It's a myth that it's more noble to dump someone in person. Link to comment
catfeeder Posted May 9, 2021 Share Posted May 9, 2021 I'd just take a walk with her at lunch and tell her that this isn't working out for me. How well or how badly she handles that is up to her. Link to comment
SooSad33 Posted May 9, 2021 Share Posted May 9, 2021 13 hours ago, User9300 said: I want to end our relationship but because of our work schedules we only have time to meet on her lunch break I know uletting her go on her lunch when she has to go back to work would ruin the rest of her work day so what should I do? I'm very nervous about doing this and don't know what to say to her she always asks if I'm gonna leave her for some prettier Ahh, yes- trust issue's 😕 Have you only seen each other on 'her lunch breaks'? That's rough. - You may be leaving this... but not for someone else. It has only been a few months. She'll be okay. Just message her.. tell her you can't do this anymore. What can she say.do? Link to comment
User9300 Posted May 9, 2021 Author Share Posted May 9, 2021 1 hour ago, SooSad33 said: Ahh, yes- trust issue's 😕 Have you only seen each other on 'her lunch breaks'? That's rough. - You may be leaving this... but not for someone else. It has only been a few months. She'll be okay. Just message her.. tell her you can't do this anymore. What can she say.do? Yep and I can't handle trust issues been trying but I'm over it too much stress Link to comment
Hollyj Posted May 10, 2021 Share Posted May 10, 2021 You don't want to break up with her "because it will ruin her day." I think that she will fine Why have you agreed to an arrangement where you only see someone on a lunch hour? Link to comment
User9300 Posted May 10, 2021 Author Share Posted May 10, 2021 3 hours ago, Hollyj said: You don't want to break up with her "because it will ruin her day." I think that she will fine Why have you agreed to an arrangement where you only see someone on a lunch hour? It's all she can make work since she works 6 days a week on night shift wich Deffintly has not helped Link to comment
Hollyj Posted May 10, 2021 Share Posted May 10, 2021 End it. You should not have gotten involved with her. Link to comment
User9300 Posted May 10, 2021 Author Share Posted May 10, 2021 5 hours ago, Hollyj said: You don't want to break up with her "because it will ruin her day." I think that she will fine Why have you agreed to an arrangement where you only see someone on a lunch hour? Tbh I have no idea we had plans one night to go to a restaurant but she canceled last minute claiming her mom "didint think it was a good idea because of covid" I mean Shea a grown a%$ woman mom should have no input on what she does Link to comment
User9300 Posted May 10, 2021 Author Share Posted May 10, 2021 9 hours ago, SooSad33 said: Ahh, yes- trust issue's 😕 Have you only seen each other on 'her lunch breaks'? That's rough. - You may be leaving this... but not for someone else. It has only been a few months. She'll be okay. Just message her.. tell her you can't do this anymore. What can she say.do? Isint it bad to do on phone normally? Deff be easier but I don't wanna be a p.o.s Link to comment
MissCanuck Posted May 10, 2021 Share Posted May 10, 2021 Wait, have you never seen her apart from these lunch-time truck meetups? And she is paranoid about you seeing others? Sounds like a lot of projection to me. Are you sure this woman doesn't have a boyfriend? It seems like you have far more reason to be suspicious of her than the other way around. Anyway, yes, just do it on the phone. You're making this more complicated than it needs to be. Link to comment
User9300 Posted May 11, 2021 Author Share Posted May 11, 2021 On 5/9/2021 at 2:11 PM, SooSad33 said: well I did it and even though it was hard I feel better for it Isint it bad to do on phone normally? Deff be easier but I don't wanna be a p.o.s Link to comment
SooSad33 Posted May 11, 2021 Share Posted May 11, 2021 You hardly see her as it is...and has not been too long. Just msg her & be honest, admit this is not for you. She can handle it. No matter what she thinks of you when it's done. ( She may be a little upset that you're walking away and/ or for msg'ing it to her, but whatever...) Link to comment
User9300 Posted May 11, 2021 Author Share Posted May 11, 2021 Yes I ended it about 90 minutes ago she read my message but did not reply just blocked my family and I on Facebook Link to comment
MissCanuck Posted May 11, 2021 Share Posted May 11, 2021 1 hour ago, User9300 said: Yes I ended it about 90 minutes ago she read my message but did not reply just blocked my family and I on Facebook Eh, let her. This was not exactly a normal relationship if you only ever met her in a car. Don't tolerate that kind of crap from the next person. Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted May 11, 2021 Share Posted May 11, 2021 5 hours ago, User9300 said: Yes I ended it about 90 minutes ago she read my message but did not reply just blocked my family and I on Facebook Excellent. Now delete and block her and all her people from ALL your social media and messaging apps. When it's over, it's over. Link to comment
boltnrun Posted May 11, 2021 Share Posted May 11, 2021 This doesn't sound like it was a relationship. More like a lunch buddy. Maybe she's relieved too. Link to comment
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