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So me and this girl were dating around 5 years ago, she seemed to like me a lot. I knew that someone else was interested in her but convinced myself that she wouldn't be interested in that guy as she seemed happy with me. About 4 months in to the relationship, one of my friends found out that she was engaged to him. I confronted her but she said no, although my gut feeling knew that she was lying so I stopped talking to her, she did keep messaging me afterwards but I kept ignoring her. A few months later I found out she got married, by then I had completely deleted her off everything. That was 5 years ago, she had a divorce around about 18 months after that. We got back in touch last year and are back together and things were good at first, but I am kind of having regrets about it, we used to argue sometimes we don't as much now although I still feel like I can't trust her; it's almost like a gut feeling. It sometimes feels as though she wants me to chase her even though I do a lot for her already, and I have also found out that she's had quite a few boyfriends since her divorce which also makes me uncomfortable. I think she likes it when guys pine for her but I've always been the type to never chase people, sometimes I feel like she ignores me for a day or two to see if I'd chase her but I also don't like that she seems quite friendly with other guys. I also notice that she is online on her socials but sometimes takes her time replying to me, I try not to read too much in to that. I know I should start to let go as this relationship feels unhealthy but I feel too attached to her, advice on what I should do would be helpful. Thank you

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I can't believe that you gave her the time of day after you found out she had been cheating on and lying to you five years back. You were really foolish to reconnect with her, as she has shown you that she cannot be trusted.  

Kind of masochistic don't you think!  Do you always gravitate to people who treat you badly?

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1 hour ago, Usy77777777 said:

It sometimes feels as though she wants me to chase her even though I do a lot for her already, and I have also found out that she's had quite a few boyfriends since her divorce which also makes me uncomfortable.

So... head games? . Attention seeking? . 

I bet you don't feel so great about her now.

 

2 hours ago, Usy77777777 said:

I also don't like that she seems quite friendly with other guys. I also notice that she is online on her socials but sometimes takes her time replying to me,

- Yah, pay no attention to that- will drive yourself insane 😕 .

 

IF you feel too many red flags, then get out of this.  if that is her lifestyle, you will regret this by letting it carry on.

You walk away, as you're not into how she is nowadays.  You block all that she is on, in order to move on properly.

 

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