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Hey! I'm Hoshi (Hidden Identity). I'm currently almost a freshman and you might have seen me giving advice to other people. 

I like this person for 2-3 years (We're best-friends), we always talked together, everyday too. Since the start of middle school to right now (End of M.S). And I'm sure I'll like him throughout high-school.

I confessed to him on Sunday, April 18, and surprisingly he didn't reject me, but I don't know what he meant by what he said. When I confessed to him, he said "Thank you for telling me this. I would start dating in high-school but I am considering the summer before high-school. It won't be awkward unless other people knows so you don't have to worry. But I have never dated anyone before so I don't know what to do." 

Since I'm still pretty young, I'm still confused on these type of stuff. Can anyone help? What can I do to be a good girlfriend if I do end up dating him?

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1 hour ago, hoshi said:

When I confessed to him, he said "Thank you for telling me this. I would start dating in high-school but I am considering the summer before high-school. It won't be awkward unless other people knows so you don't have to worry. But I have never dated anyone before so I don't know what to do." 

How old is he? It seems he's not ready to date so just stay friends.

BTW, it's not a good idea to "confess to" people. It makes it awkward and puts people in a bad position.

Basically if a boy is not asking you out he's not interested.

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2 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said:

How old is he? It seems he's not ready to date so just stay friends.

BTW, it's not a good idea to "confess to" people. It makes it awkward and puts people in a bad position.

We're just almost entering the summer before high school. He's a few months older than me too.

He doesn't view it as awkward actually, he seems appreciative that I told him. After that we continued talking like before I confessed to him. 

I'm fine as staying as friends for now, that's what I said to him. I didn't confess to him because I wanted to date him, that wasn't the main point. I confessed to him because I felt like he should know since we've been best friends for a while, he was okay with it too.

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I would interpret this as a soft let down and keep your distance also. Stay friends with him if you want but steer clear of any romance. He knows how you feel already so leave it at at that. 

If he wants to date you he can ask you out.

In the meantime if you want to date others, you are a free woman. Don't let this person hold you back by his personal timelines.

 

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10 hours ago, hoshi said:

I would start dating in high-school but I am considering the summer before high-school. It won't be awkward unless other people knows so you don't have to worry.

- He said this?  Kinda odd to me, does it not sound like he is maybe looking to 'play around' during his summer break?

Either way, tread carefully, because if he is a true friend and you two do end up dating..and it ends, will be so hard to accept and go a back to being 'just friends'... so think on this.

How can you be a good gf?  You be patient, don't be in his face, give him room to breathe * be with his friends, etc.*.

Make sure he contacts you as well.. not just all on you.

And enjoy each other- your time together.

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Just to clarify: I confessed to him because I wanted to let him know. Not that I wanna date him. I told him as I was confessing to him. "I like you, for a few years now. I felt like you should know since you're my best friend." 

We're both in our mid teenage years, and I completely understand if he isn't ready to date, because I'm not ready to date either. I would rather leave my middle school memories behind first and then date.

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On 4/21/2021 at 12:39 AM, hoshi said:

Since I'm still pretty young, I'm still confused on these type of stuff. Can anyone help? What can I do to be a good girlfriend if I do end up dating him?

he isn't ready to date, because I'm not ready to date either.

If you're both not ready to date, then there's no need to agonize on how to be a good girlfriend.  At age 14? I am not surprised - there is plenty of time, lots and lots and lots of time before getting involved with someone.  Focus on socialising with your friends and your school studies etc.  Lots of time for boyfriends in the future.

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