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3 hours ago, dias said:

MB when you say you hated dating, imagine if you had to date 500 people to find what you wanted and not 10 people let's say. And you are a woman, you don't even have to try chasing and whatnot

You're right, it's totally different from what men experience.  Y'all really do have it harder.  

1 hour ago, dias said:

😂🤣😂

Hey you can laugh, but it was a huge deal for me at 17😂  You'd think my faith would drive a normal Atheist crazy 😂!  So we were a very strange match, imo, but he was very in love with me for some reason, and I was crazy about him.  If we'd been having sex, I'm almost certain we would have married eventually, and then been up sh*t creek when trying to raise our kids religious or Atheist!  He'd already gotten me to meet his parents, and they had met in high school and were passionately in love, and he did keep reaching out during college and once when I was married and had social media, so the feelings were intense, even without sex.

That's the thing about sex....  Without sex with these other guys, I was able to let them go at the first signs it wouldn't really work out.  It led to smarter, more efficient dating, imo.  Sex can cloud a woman's judgment ability, make her stay too long when she should leave, and *here's the kicker no one talks about* probably get her to marry the wrong man.

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4 hours ago, dias said:

Also, success rate does not mean a happy marriage. 

In a lot of these studies they're starting to ask about that though, and especially sexual happiness.  I'd have to look back again at this specific one, but the ones that report the highest marital happiness and sexual happiness tend to be predictable. (0 - low partner count, religious)

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"Nicholas Wolfinger, a sociologist at the University of Utah, has found that Americans who have only ever slept with their spouses are most likely to report being in a “very happy” marriage. Meanwhile, the lowest odds of marital happiness—about 13 percentage points lower than the one-partner women—belong to women who have had six to 10 sexual partners in their lives. For men, there’s still a dip in marital satisfaction after one partner, but it’s never as low as it gets for women, as Wolfinger’s graph shows:"

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More from this article (discussing that study):

"These divorce-proof brides are an exclusive crew: By the 2010s, he writes, just 5 percent of new brides were virgins. And just 6 percent of their marriages dissolved within five years, compared with 20 percent for most people."

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10 minutes ago, maritalbliss86 said:

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"Nicholas Wolfinger, a sociologist at the University of Utah, has found that Americans who have only ever slept with their spouses are most likely to report being in a “very happy” marriage. Meanwhile, the lowest odds of marital happiness—about 13 percentage points lower than the one-partner women—belong to women who have had six to 10 sexual partners in their lives. For men, there’s still a dip in marital satisfaction after one partner, but it’s never as low as it gets for women, as Wolfinger’s graph shows:"

You know, surveys don't prove much, they are only indicators, data can be manipulated however you want in order to produce the results you want, I did it in my dissertation for my Master's degree and I got a good grade  lol  (and it is a reputable university in the UK)

One could find 1 million issues with this survey. There are too many parameters to consider in real life that a survey can't take into account.  

1)What kind of people participated in the survey? What was their age? Were they only from Utah where most Mormons are? Did they identify as religious? If yes, were they really religious or just "pretending" to be ? How do you know the participants told the truth about the number of partners? Men almost always exaggerate and women almost always understate the number of partners they had. 21+ partners for women? not even a hooker would admit that. 

2)I find it bizarre that the percentage for MEN is so much higher compared to women with only one partner. I mean, women ok I can understand this due to nature but for men? And if you observe the percentage for men is higher throughout the whole x axis. Hmmm, so women are generally less happy in their marriage than men, imagine that, and it's women who want to get married so badly, it does not make sense but again nothing makes sense in this world...dunno..

3)You could say this graph proves that ignorance is a bliss, the less partners you had the better, yes maybe because you have nothing to compare to. Maybe that's a good thing, if it works it works. 

I don't know MB, I am not a naysayer but I don't take surveys too seriously because I know how easy it is to produce the result you want.

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2 minutes ago, dias said:

Hmmm, so women are generally less happy in their marriage than men, imagine that, and it's women who want to get married so badly, it does not make sense but again nothing makes sense in this world...dunno..

Yes, your points could be right.  I still think it's interesting and if it could have been disproven, you know other researchers will certainly try merely because this is so countercultural that most people do not want it to be true

There's a lot of incentive to disprove this kind of thing, so overtime, if they can't, that speaks volumes.

 

On your #2 point... I saw that, too, and thought it odd.  But I think most women have a very hard time being genuinely happy (with anything) in life.  I know that sounds awful, but with all the women I've ever met, from childhood till now, not very many were genuinely happy people.  They weren't happy single, so what makes them think they'll be happier married?  

So of course, a person's tendency to be happy when single or not, would also apply. 

Men seem happier in their lives overall (generalized of course), whether single or married.  Sadly I think women just aren't wired that way.  Women have more mental illnesses in every age group/stage of life, more dissatisfaction in their jobs (across the board!), in almost every study, you'll oddly find that women are more unhappy than men (generalized).  They claim this is due to sexism, but I'm not so sure.  I think sadly... women tend to be hard to please, less grateful for their lives, and tend to make comparisons and all that comparing leads them to experience a lot of unhappiness.  Social media also tends to make women less happy, whereas men don't report as much unhappiness with social media usage.

You have to look across the board to see levels of happiness of both sexes.  Levels of mental illness, etc.  And then you can kind of see why more women rather than men, tend to be less happy in marriage.  Marriage won't make a chronically unhappy person suddenly happy... it will just bring the other partner down to their level.

 

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I am bored. My manager told me to take it slow, I am pushing for the project more than him. Not because I care but because I don't have anything to do in my life....

I can't exercise more, my body can't handle more. It's the only thing that really excites me, I can't wait for the next day to exercise again. If only I had the same obsession in something more productive. I guess this is how Elon Musk feels about skyrockets lol. Moreover,  I can't really find any other spots for photography in Norwich. I have to take daily trips in Norfolk. Hopefully the theater will open soon. Tinder is not working either...

Most meet-up groups haven't started organizing anything yet, there is only one for my age group and they organize only online events. I don't like virtual events, I have my job for this. 

I can't handle boredom, I need to be doing something all the time, I can't stand still. This is when the issues begin, if I don't have anything to do I start daydreaming about travelling. And it usually does not end up well because I am crazy enough to do what I daydream. 

I don't have any interesting business ideas either, my brain is as blank as a white paper. 

Imagine if I were doing cocaine, I would be running around the UK like a maniac. 

 

 

 

 

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9 hours ago, maritalbliss86 said:

You're right, it's totally different from what men experience.  Y'all really do have it harder.  

Hey you can laugh, but it was a huge deal for me at 17😂  You'd think my faith would drive a normal Atheist crazy 😂!  So we were a very strange match, imo, but he was very in love with me for some reason, and I was crazy about him.  If we'd been having sex, I'm almost certain we would have married eventually, and then been up sh*t creek when trying to raise our kids religious or Atheist!  He'd already gotten me to meet his parents, and they had met in high school and were passionately in love, and he did keep reaching out during college and once when I was married and had social media, so the feelings were intense, even without sex.

That's the thing about sex....  Without sex with these other guys, I was able to let them go at the first signs it wouldn't really work out.  It led to smarter, more efficient dating, imo.  Sex can cloud a woman's judgment ability, make her stay too long when she should leave, and *here's the kicker no one talks about* probably get her to marry the wrong man.


Bliss! This is such an interesting point!

Fab info by the way - sorry Dias all this marriage talk from us old age women on your single and ready to mingle blog! 🥲

Just as a little something Bliss! I am an atheist as you know, and we don’t personally bring up our children “atheist” at all. We teach them to the best ability about all major religions and some more out there ones and then we add but some people don’t believe any of it or are simply unsure and this is called agnostic (I haven’t told any of this to even my eldest who is 3 yet though). So our philosophy is, instead of raising up a Catholic child or a Hindu child or an atheist child we are going to try and do our best from every angle and then basically say, this is what lots of different people believe across the world, what do you think? 
 

If my children decided from that they wanted to have a faith of any kind, I wouldn’t mind. I am trying to keep their minds as open as possible and just to simply, let them decide when they are ready. I know that may sound new age wishy washy but I feel this is the most neutral stand point and I guess it’s kinda just how we have decided to approach faith and religion. They know some of the mums I know, that their kids go to church and I did explain what they do in church once, and a playgroup we used to go to before covid was held in a community church but it was just a venue for the kids to play, there were no sermons etc.

Your atheist alternative universe husband may of had the same approach as I would have but I understand where it gets complicated if you wanted to teach them the Bible was the truth right from the off, there may be conflict there definitely, I can see that 😌

But unlike many atheists I know, our bookcase has the good old King James Version right there on the shelf along with the Quran and some books on Buddhism and one on Jainism even. My husbands uncle is also a Quaker which I believe is a branch of Protestant Christianity? My parents were Methodist but my husbands cousins are also Catholic and as you are probably aware a Catholic wedding and christening is quite a different affair to a Methodist one!

But as we both have come to agree, we weirdly seem to get on with our opposites ☺️ Maybe in the next life, I will be born a Christian, LOL! But then I don’t believe in karma either so I doubt there’s no next anything for me, if there is, I’m sure I’ll be coming back a blade of grass. Peace and quiet for once! HA! 
 

Sorry Dias, this is the last time I’m gonna hijack your pages like this carry on, sorry for interrupting the flow!

 

Lo x

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2 hours ago, dias said:

I am bored. My manager told me to take it slow, I am pushing for the project more than him. Not because I care but because I don't have anything to do in my life....

I can't exercise more, my body can't handle more. It's the only thing that really excites me, I can't wait for the next day to exercise again. If only I had the same obsession in something more productive. I guess this is how Elon Musk feels about skyrockets lol. Moreover,  I can't really find any other spots for photography in Norwich. I have to take daily trips in Norfolk. Hopefully the theater will open soon. Tinder is not working either...

Most meet-up groups haven't started organizing anything yet, there is only one for my age group and they organize only online events. I don't like virtual events, I have my job for this. 

I can't handle boredom, I need to be doing something all the time, I can't stand still. This is when the issues begin, if I don't have anything to do I start daydreaming about travelling. And it usually does not end up well because I am crazy enough to do what I daydream. 

I don't have any interesting business ideas either, my brain is as blank as a white paper. 

Imagine if I were doing cocaine, I would be running around the UK like a maniac. 

 

 

 

 

You are naturally coked 😎

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9 hours ago, dias said:

You know, surveys don't prove much, they are only indicators, data can be manipulated however you want in order to produce the results you want, I did it in my dissertation for my Master's degree and I got a good grade  lol  (and it is a reputable university in the UK)

One could find 1 million issues with this survey. There are too many parameters to consider in real life that a survey can't take into account.  

1)What kind of people participated in the survey? What was their age? Were they only from Utah where most Mormons are? Did they identify as religious? If yes, were they really religious or just "pretending" to be ? How do you know the participants told the truth about the number of partners? Men almost always exaggerate and women almost always understate the number of partners they had. 21+ partners for women? not even a hooker would admit that. 

2)I find it bizarre that the percentage for MEN is so much higher compared to women with only one partner. I mean, women ok I can understand this due to nature but for men? And if you observe the percentage for men is higher throughout the whole x axis. Hmmm, so women are generally less happy in their marriage than men, imagine that, and it's women who want to get married so badly, it does not make sense but again nothing makes sense in this world...dunno..

3)You could say this graph proves that ignorance is a bliss, the less partners you had the better, yes maybe because you have nothing to compare to. Maybe that's a good thing, if it works it works. 

I don't know MB, I am not a naysayer but I don't take surveys too seriously because I know how easy it is to produce the result you want.

Dias!

Can I also add a little curve ball to this very interesting discussion!

I actually believe men are much more romantic than believed, and most the men I know (all none religious) all want to find someone to settle down and marry, even if they are casually screwing around, they are still searching for that one, just like the general woman! I also find, people say, oh, it’s the woman that pushes for children! Again, I have heard so many men who say, “I want another baby, but my wife doesn’t want anymore and she wants me to get the snip” or “I’d keep having them but I’m not the one who has the pop them out!” 
 

Yes, men are definitely more likely to have more casual partners. When I met my husband, he had just come out of a 7 year relationship but in the 6 months he had been without her he had had countless one night stands and even had a regular f**k buddy! I never actually asked him an exact figure but it was over 10 plus the regular girl. Before his other long term girlfriend he had another semi-serious girlfriend of a year he saw between the ages of 15 to 16 and then a short break again with a casual partner or two before his 7 year relationship which he was completely faithful in.

 

I know he is just as happy with me as I am him and I only had one date before him and then he was my first everything and the only other guy I ever dated! But then, being a lap dancer for 3 years, I have had plenty of other types of experience with men and I’m not naive! I don’t know if I ever wrote about this in my journal, probably not, but between the ages of me being 19 and 24, me and my husband, then engaged, would be at upmarket sex parties once every couple of months and used to jointly webcam other couples on the regular from those clubs we got to know and all sorts of cheeky fun mischief! So you can say, I have experienced other men sexually (not fully all the way but everything else!) and other women as well, since my husband, but erm, without going into too much detail, my mind was never changed 😉 and neither was his 😉 14 years on and with his plenty experience and my plenty experience but whilst with him, we are still feeling like we are on our... third date... 🤣

Matches are out there to be made! Even if you end up making a well kinky pair!!!! 
 

Lo x

 

PS - can I just soppily add, that when you truly fall in love with someone, it is beyond physical. You worship that persons mind. There are ten a dozen six packs out there and plenty more mini waisted hour glasses. This can and will all fade long term. Where the connection lies is in the unique thing that you will never replicate which is, that persons “spirit” or mind or, whatever you want to call it. But you know when you find it that you can’t get yourself another one. They get you, you get them, a meeting of mind, body and soul, and when you find that you realise the odds of lightening have struck in your small and insignificant favour and if you have half a brain left you hold onto such a precious cargo with all your being and will! 
 

And, if you regret not going into porn 🤣 another prime addition to add 🤣 I know a few porn actresses and y’know, most of them end up regretting it in some way, especially once they have kids. Keep with the programming. I think you made a wise decision there. 
 

If you get sick of the dating game I guess you always have options 🤣🤣🤣

 

Lo! x

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2 hours ago, mylolita said:

I actually believe men are much more romantic than believed, and most the men I know (all none religious) all want to find someone to settle down and marry, even if they are casually screwing around, they are still searching for that one, just like the general woman!

Yes, my husband was like this ❤️.  I think most men are true romantics at heart.  And unfortunately, the way a lot of women behave, they seem much less romantic and more pragmatic in a very off-putting way.  Like deciding they'll settle down with someone boring just to have babies... that Leaned-In woman actually told working women to do that.  It's open season to, "use," men for pragmatic purposes, and yet men are the ones who are stereotyped as, "pigs."  I think it's backwards.  I think a lot of women use men for marriage and children, without ever truly loving them (at least... that's what I've seen in the multitude of failed marriages we've witnessed).

2 hours ago, mylolita said:

PS - can I just soppily add, that when you truly fall in love with someone, it is beyond physical. You worship that persons mind.

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Where the connection lies is in the unique thing that you will never replicate which is, that persons “spirit” or mind or, whatever you want to call it. But you know when you find it that you can’t get yourself another one.

They get you, you get them, a meeting of mind, body and soul, and when you find that you realise the odds of lightening have struck in your small and insignificant favour and if you have half a brain left you hold onto such a precious cargo with all your being and will! 

Yes!  It is so insanely romantic to be in love like this.  And then to see it last so dang long... same intensity etc.  Sex keeps getting better... which is so strange and odd, yet crazy wonderful.  It doesn't seem possible to have found someone like it, and yet every day it proves itself to be true.  I understand completely.

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You are quite a naughty Lolita, aren't you😎 It's because you are a December babe like me, besides good looking we are kinky too😎

 

3 hours ago, mylolita said:

There are ten a dozen six packs out there

Not really my darling😎 especially outside of the fitness industry

3 hours ago, mylolita said:

can I just soppily add, that when you truly fall in love with someone, it is beyond physical. You worship that persons mind. There are ten a dozen six packs out there and plenty more mini waisted hour glasses. This can and will all fade long term. Where the connection lies is in the unique thing that you will never replicate which is, that persons “spirit” or mind or, whatever you want to call it. But you know when you find it that you can’t get yourself another one. They get you, you get them, a meeting of mind, body and soul, and when you find that you realise the odds of lightening have struck in your small and insignificant favour and if you have half a brain left you hold onto such a precious cargo with all your being and will! 

On this we agree. The reason I liked the girl from my previous job this much is because we had chemistry, the same sense of humor and she was as witty and playful as me! She intrigued me. She was good looking of course (sorry that's necessary) but it was mostly because she mentally stimulated me. Very difficult to find a person like this. But you got lucky, I am happy for you 🙂

3 hours ago, mylolita said:

you get sick of the dating game I guess you always have options 🤣🤣

 

I am too lazy even for that lol. I don't even have any sexual fantasies left, I realized them all in my early twenties. Now I only bother if I am mentally intrigued by someone/something which happens very rarely. I will die alone in the gym lol

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1 hour ago, dias said:

Damn, I recorded a video of myself for an interview preparation. I find it difficult to even record myself, I am not that confident in front of a camera lol. 

I thought about recording my interviews. Sometimes I got off of those calls thinking, "What the hell did I just say?" But yeah, it's really stressful to see myself in front of a camera! When this whole Zoom thing started, it was quite disconcerting. I'm getting used to it now, though.

1 hour ago, dias said:

It's a torture to hear my own voice hahaha and my accent is soooo Greek, as Greek as it can get lol. 

Actually, I can't get a good sense of your accent from that short clip. It could be because your accent is influenced by the British accent. Or it could be because I don't hear many native Greek speakers anymore. My yia-yia was the last, and she died 20 years ago. Also, she and her family came to America literally 100 years ago (in 1920!!), and probably spoke a slightly different dialect of both Greek and English. Not just regionally different, but temporally different. 

7 hours ago, dias said:

I will die alone in the gym lol

Hahahahaha

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15 minutes ago, Jibralta said:

But yeah, it's really stressful to see myself in front of a camera! When this whole Zoom thing started, it was quite disconcerting. I'm getting used to it now, though.

I am ok during the actual interview, it feels very weird when I record myself though. It's like the first time I watched myself in the mirror lol and I would like a more Vin Diesel voice hahaha

 

18 minutes ago, Jibralta said:

It could be because your accent is influenced by the British accent. 

Not really, I am dumb as a rock when it comes to accents, it is very difficult for me to imitate the British accent.

 

19 minutes ago, Jibralta said:

Or it could be because I don't hear many native Greek speakers anymore.

Probably this. 

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I think a big part of it is the limited amount of time to hear you speak. 

1 hour ago, dias said:

Not really, I am dumb as a rock when it comes to accents, it is very difficult for me to imitate the British accent.

It's not so much a matter of imitation as it is how what you hear influences how you speak.

For example, I grew up in an area of NJ that had a heavy influx of Brooklynites in the 1970s. When I was in grade school, I found that I had a stronger "New Jersey accent" than kids that went to school in the surrounding towns. It was the same when I went to college. I became aware of which words people called attention to, and found myself modifying them to reduce the amounts of comments that I got.

It's not a perfect imitation because I'm not actually trying to imitate anything in particular. I'm just softening my accent. If I lived in the Midwest, or the South, or somewhere in Great Britain, I'd probably alter my pronunciations differently. I just want to be able to complete my sentences without getting sidetracked about how funny I say the word "water" (or "dog" or "orange" or "thought" or "orchestra" or whatever). 

Another example: I grew up in a culturally diverse area with a lot of immigrants from different areas of the world. There were some particularly large Chinese, Korean, and Indian communities. I remember the first time I heard a Chinese person speaking English with a British accent--it was totally different from the kids who learned their English in the US. I didn't even recognize it as a Chinese accent.

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This month began well. I don't want to jinx it! Fingers crossed!  Fingers crossed! Fingers crossed! Fingers crossed! Fingers crossed! Fingers crossed! Fingers crossed! Fingers crossed! Fingers crossed! Fingers crossed! Fingers crossed! Fingers crossed! Fingers crossed! Fingers crossed! Fingers crossed! Fingers crossed! Fingers crossed! Fingers crossed! Fingers crossed! 

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23 hours ago, dias said:

Imagine if I were doing cocaine, I would be running around the UK like a maniac. 

I read that as “I would be running the UK like a maniac”.

That’s probably what we need! You’d get it all sorted Dias 😁

I had an ex who had a similar amount of energy - he was constantly go, go, go and winging things. He was the antithesis of me and how we lasted as long as we did I’ve no idea but always admired how much he got done.

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5 minutes ago, hidden_kitten said:

I read that as “I would be running the UK like a maniac”.

That’s probably what we need! You’d get it all sorted Dias 😁

 

Hahahahahahahaha I could do that too LOL. 

How do you find my accent?😁 It's a very short clip because I am camera shy 😁

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On 5/5/2021 at 1:07 PM, Jibralta said:

It's not so much a matter of imitation as it is how what you hear influences how you speak.

 I became aware of which words people called attention to, and found myself modifying them to reduce the amounts of comments that I got.

Yes you modulated your accent a bit but it happened subliminally. You subconsciously adjusted to the environment. I don't mind if people make fun of my accent*, they can laugh as much as they want, I find it funny myself 🙂 

I am sure my accent is a bit different from when I moved to the UK but I didn't make any active effort for this. In order to change your accent completely you need to put active effort. Of course the more auditory you are the better. Unfortunately I am 100% visual person hence my difficulty to learn languages. 

On 5/4/2021 at 9:37 AM, dias said:

The reason is, every time you are rolling the dice, it is an independent try and not related to past tries. So yes, you have 1/6 probability to get a six but you can be rolling the dice forever and not getting a six

There is an upside though. The past does not determine the future unlike what most people believe. Everyday is a new beginning.

 

*It never happened, at least not in front of me, except for Pippy who burst into laughter when I left her a voice message hahahahahaha

 

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It is getting better and better every day. Damn, this place is my lucky place, everything goes so well since I came here. 

I have a feeling the planets will align this month. But I don't want to jinx it. Fingers crossed. Fingers crossed. Fingers crossed. Fingers crossed. Fingers crossed. 

 

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On 5/5/2021 at 3:02 AM, dias said:

You are quite a naughty Lolita, aren't you😎 It's because you are a December babe like me, besides good looking we are kinky too😎

 

Not really my darling😎 especially outside of the fitness industry

On this we agree. The reason I liked the girl from my previous job this much is because we had chemistry, the same sense of humor and she was as witty and playful as me! She intrigued me. She was good looking of course (sorry that's necessary) but it was mostly because she mentally stimulated me. Very difficult to find a person like this. But you got lucky, I am happy for you 🙂

I am too lazy even for that lol. I don't even have any sexual fantasies left, I realized them all in my early twenties. Now I only bother if I am mentally intrigued by someone/something which happens very rarely. I will die alone in the gym lol

I am laughing here Dias, speak for yourself dear, but how do you know I'm even good looking? 😉

And the 6 pack thing! I definitely do not mean to degrade your efforts Dias, I think it's great, being into something so positive and healthy! I am a little jealous really, I have never been one for exercise AT ALL! Just running my mouth! HA! So anyone who just loves working out, I kinda envy them. I'm secretly like, gimme some of that enthusiasm while I just say I get enough cardio from running around a house that has 6 flights of stairs with a hoover most days! 

No, my husband actually had an 8 pack when I met him 😉 I will always remember the first time he peeled off his shirt. I would never have known. He just looked trim and well built in clothes. But he was an avid boxer at a boxing gym at the time, ran everywhere and mostly swam a lot as well. He kind of is naturally like that anyway. Even though, now, turning 40 this month, yes, he's put on a few Dad pounds I will give him that but you can see, under that stocky bulk, there is the faded structure of someone who was once very fit. But, I am kinda a weird girl y'know because I absolutely think James Galdofini who played Tony Soprano in 'The Sopranos' is one of my major crushes. That over weight but still naturally strong, older, hulking kinda man. YES! So you could say, I don't mind a quote on quote, "Dad Bod"!!!

But anyway! Enough about that, you'll find love, if love is your priority. 

Best of luck for this month, you seem to have something brewing!

Fingers crossed!

Lo x

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3 hours ago, dias said:

*It never happened, at least not in front of me, except for Pippy who burst into laughter when I left her a voice message hahahahahaha

LOL!!

3 hours ago, dias said:

I don't mind if people make fun of my accent*, they can laugh as much as they want, I find it funny myself 🙂 

Don't get me wrong, I don't mind being teased about it. But sometimes I actually want to complete a thought without getting off on a tangent. It's jut easier to broad-stroke modulate.

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3 hours ago, mylolita said:

Best of luck for this month, you seem to have something brewing!

Fingers crossed!

Thank you Lolita 🙂

3 hours ago, mylolita said:

but how do you know I'm even good looking? 😉

A person who writes like this and has a predilection for the finer things in life can't be anything less than good looking 😉

OR not, I won't insist😚

 

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1 hour ago, Jibralta said:

LOL!!

Yes she laughed and exclaimed "fabulous, fabulous" hahahaha. 

 

I haven't seen her on FB since December, I know she had a surgery, hope she is well. 

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