Confusing long distance breakup...need advice

[DancingFool]

Yes hope will go away with time and also with some effort on your part. Meaning that you make a conscious effort to work on accepting who he actually is rather than getting stuck on hoping he will become someone else, aka someone you want him to be. At some point, you have to admit to yourself that someone with commitment issues is a bad investment when it comes to romantic relationships. You knew who he is and you spent too many years hoping he will change and he didn't. So how much more time do you want to waste on that?

The best thing you can do for yourself right now is to focus on yourself, your life, your future, your job, your move to whatever city and making a good life for yourself there. Meet new people, make new friends and be fully open to new experiences. What he is doing is no longer your problem. The question is what are you doing to live YOUR best life?

At some point you also need to process that this relationship was more of an example of what not to do and who not to get involved with, so you don't repeat your mistakes going forward and pick up another fixer upper type deal. Look for guys who are already a complete package, no hope, no change - good as is today.

[Rose Mosse]

Good to hear. Move on. While that shock wears off, don't do anything that takes you two steps backwards after one step forward. Do nothing except focus on you and your own best interests for your future.