Hollyj Posted February 23, 2021 Share Posted February 23, 2021 Has he paid any of the money back? Link to comment
Hannah81 Posted February 23, 2021 Author Share Posted February 23, 2021 1 minute ago, Seraphim said: You block him and change your locks and get STD testing done and never talk to this roach again. I have blocked him now Link to comment
shellyf62 Posted February 23, 2021 Share Posted February 23, 2021 Just now, Hannah81 said: Thank you so much... I just feel really lonely and torn it’s horrible I understand! My ex cheated & I had to move with 2 small children & literally no support from family or friends. You need to realise being alone is better than being with him. Join meetup groups, take up a new hobby, get a pet...anything to take your mind off him & your situation. Link to comment
Hannah81 Posted February 23, 2021 Author Share Posted February 23, 2021 Just now, Hollyj said: Has he paid any of the money back? Yes but still owes me money he said he’s paying it back next month Link to comment
Hannah81 Posted February 23, 2021 Author Share Posted February 23, 2021 Just now, shellyf62 said: I understand! My ex cheated & I had to move with 2 small children & literally no support from family or friends. You need to realise being alone is better than being with him. Join meetup groups, take up a new hobby, get a pet...anything to take your mind off him & your situation. It’s so horrible isn’t it I’m sorry you went through that Thank you I will do that Link to comment
Hannah81 Posted February 23, 2021 Author Share Posted February 23, 2021 5 minutes ago, shellyf62 said: What are your friends saying? My friends are just listening to me and being there for me and checking up but they probably just believe I will go back again Link to comment
Hollyj Posted February 23, 2021 Share Posted February 23, 2021 Just now, Hannah81 said: It’s so horrible isn’t it I’m sorry you went through that Thank you I will do that Shelly proves that you can do it. She also had two children, but made it happen. Link to comment
shellyf62 Posted February 23, 2021 Share Posted February 23, 2021 Just now, Hannah81 said: It’s so horrible isn’t it I’m sorry you went through that Thank you I will do that Thank you. It was 25 yrs ago. Life is great now....it was hard at the time, but it all worked out, and your life will too. Keep posting here & we will be your support system! Link to comment
Hannah81 Posted February 23, 2021 Author Share Posted February 23, 2021 Just now, Hollyj said: Shelly proves that you can do it. She also had two children, but made it happen. I know!!! I can do it I can do it I’ve just got to keep telling myself that Link to comment
shellyf62 Posted February 23, 2021 Share Posted February 23, 2021 Just now, Hannah81 said: My friends are just listening to me and being there for me and checking up but they probably just believe I will go back again Prove them wrong & show them how strong you are!!! Link to comment
Hollyj Posted February 23, 2021 Share Posted February 23, 2021 2 minutes ago, Hannah81 said: My friends are just listening to me and being there for me and checking up but they probably just believe I will go back again Well, you can't blame them. Show them, and yourself that you will change your life. Honestly, you really need to address why you have stayed with this guy. When you understand, it will help you move on from this miserable situation. Link to comment
Hannah81 Posted February 23, 2021 Author Share Posted February 23, 2021 1 minute ago, shellyf62 said: Thank you. It was 25 yrs ago. Life is great now....it was hard at the time, but it all worked out, and your life will too. Keep posting here & we will be your support system! Thank you so much you are making me cry by being so nice x Link to comment
Hannah81 Posted February 23, 2021 Author Share Posted February 23, 2021 Just now, shellyf62 said: Prove them wrong & show them how strong you are!!! I’m going too I just feel so bloody weak Link to comment
shellyf62 Posted February 23, 2021 Share Posted February 23, 2021 Just now, Hannah81 said: I’m going too I just feel so bloody weak Take it one day at a time....dont think about the long term.....just get through the day without contacting him & it will become easier I promise you Link to comment
Hannah81 Posted February 23, 2021 Author Share Posted February 23, 2021 1 minute ago, Hollyj said: Well, you can't blame them. Show them, and yourself that you will change your life. Honestly, you really need to address why you have stayed with this guy. Because he’s emotionally abused me for so long I got used to it and thought this is what I deserve but this time something has clicked and I can’t do it anymore but my problem is I always go back and I just can’t this time I know I can’t Link to comment
Hannah81 Posted February 23, 2021 Author Share Posted February 23, 2021 Just now, shellyf62 said: Take it one day at a time....dont think about the long term.....just get through the day without contacting him & it will become easier I promise you Yes that’s exactly what I’m going to do work will keep me busy as well Link to comment
shellyf62 Posted February 23, 2021 Share Posted February 23, 2021 1 minute ago, Hannah81 said: Because he’s emotionally abused me for so long I got used to it and thought this is what I deserve but this time something has clicked and I can’t do it anymore but my problem is I always go back and I just can’t this time I know I can’t You need to stop telling yourself this & rephrase it as "I used to go back"......this is a new you, and you wont be going back Link to comment
Hollyj Posted February 23, 2021 Share Posted February 23, 2021 Just now, Hannah81 said: Because he’s emotionally abused me for so long I got used to it and thought this is what I deserve but this time something has clicked and I can’t do it anymore but my problem is I always go back and I just can’t this time I know I can’t You made a positive move by blocking. Do not allow him in if he comes over, if he insists, tell him you will call the police. I also suggest staying with friends for a few days. Link to comment
Capricorn3 Posted February 23, 2021 Share Posted February 23, 2021 25 minutes ago, Hannah81 said: My friends are just listening to me and being there for me and checking up but they probably just believe I will go back again Then prove them wrong. Link to comment
SooSad33 Posted February 24, 2021 Share Posted February 24, 2021 4 hours ago, Hannah81 said: continued to flirt and message other women throughout our relationship and stupid me has always forgiven him. He makes it seem like it’s my fault for looking. 4 hours ago, Hannah81 said: I don’t know why I have put up with it. I even left my family to move in with him but he became more and more abusive towards me and I moved out and still stayed with him. Combined... him being on dating sites AND abuse. Are reasons to get out of this. You find that inner strength that says you do NOT deserve this kind of treatment! He is mean. He does not deserve you! You walk away & stay away. No contact.. nothing. Is only way you can start to heal & let go. You've allowed this crap for way too long. Time to work on getting over all of this and Get yourself back.. to Good ❤️ . Link to comment
melancholy123 Posted February 24, 2021 Share Posted February 24, 2021 Get some counselling so you can learn to be a stronger person. Glad to hear you blocked him. Link to comment
Chris Posted February 24, 2021 Share Posted February 24, 2021 9 hours ago, Hannah81 said: I clearly do have very low self esteem and don’t know how to get it back Yeah I'm being mistreated by my wife (seperated). Its horrible isn't it, you feel you have to accept it just to get them back. But oddly, if you move in the other direction he will be more interested. So, don't speak with him, and get strong, stronger than you ever have been, and show that *** that you are worthy. He might be on it as he wants attention, as he can't get it from you Link to comment
Jibralta Posted February 24, 2021 Share Posted February 24, 2021 10 hours ago, Hannah81 said: Yes but still owes me money he said he’s paying it back next month Consider writing off the remainder that is owed as lost, and paying it back yourself, rather than leaving the door of communication with him open just so that he can pay. If he mails you a check, great. But if he wants to talk about it, don't let him. When you feel strong enough, you can sue him if you want. Link to comment
6figurechick Posted February 24, 2021 Share Posted February 24, 2021 I'm sorry you're experiencing this and I'm sure it hurts, but he's no a real man. A man who loves you will not continue to hurt and embarrass you. That's embarrassing especially when your friends know. Find strength to leave. It will be hard but so worth it. Link to comment
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