HE3002 0 Posted February 9 Share Posted February 9 Recently me and my girlfriend were watching a YouTube video in which a fully clothed girl turned to her side in order to show her bum. I naturally glanced at it for a millisecond and then looked away. She then asked me if I had looked at it so I admitted it. She then proceeded to get really mad at me and then said that she thinks i like to look at other girls and sees it to be a massive problem. I explained to her that I don’t care for looking at anyone else because I love her and her only. She is massively insecure so I reiterated that I make the point of not looking but just happened to naturally glance this once. I’ve searched online and from what I’ve read this isn’t a problem whatsoever so I’m not sure what to think. I genuinely am not attracted to anyone else and do not care for interacting with other females. My understanding is that even if I was attracted to other people, as long as I never acted on it that I am not in the wrong. What’s everyone’s opinion? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
gamon 112 Posted February 9 Share Posted February 9 If you're a heterosexual male you're going to check out women from time to time. Nothing wrong with it, you just need to be discreet. Worst thing you can do is respond the way you did, which was to deny it out of fear of her response. Next time it happens say "of course I checked out her butt, I'm a guy, it's what we do". Or words to that effect. Anything's better than a weak lie. 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Capricorn3 1,126 Posted February 9 Share Posted February 9 She sounds incredibly immature and unreasonable. Guys look. Women look. It's a human thing to do. We ALL look. She needs to grow up. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Hollyj 1,914 Posted February 9 Share Posted February 9 She sounds insecure and incredibly difficult. What you did was normal. Do not enable her nonsense. 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 3,180 Posted February 9 Share Posted February 9 It would be best to end it. Do you really want to be in this prison she's creating with her drama? How old is she? 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
MissCanuck 1,288 Posted February 9 Share Posted February 9 3 hours ago, Hollyj said: Do not enable her nonsense. I was about to say the same thing. Don't enable this behaviour, OP. She needs to get a grip on her insecurities. Does she even recognize that she has a problem here? 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Seraphim 2,167 Posted February 9 Share Posted February 9 She is very insecure. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 821 Posted February 9 Share Posted February 9 (edited) Woman here: She's incredibly insecure, and is oblivious/ignorant to the fact that guys look at women, boobs, butts, etc. It's one thing to gawk or snap your head around to check a girl out in front of her...but come on. It's totally natural to observe. Her thought process is UNREALISTIC. There isn't a man living on this planet that if dating her would only think of her in a sexual way. That's just fairy tales. Silly wabbit she is. And lying about it isn't going to pasify her one bit. She is being ridiculous. I say you don't put up with that, or lie about it...so what if you looked. Edited February 9 by smackie9 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
catfeeder 2,074 Posted February 12 Share Posted February 12 You get to decide whether continually trying to pacify an eye-ball policer is how you want to spend your time. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
melancholy123 554 Posted February 12 Share Posted February 12 I'd be gone if I was you and I am female. Guys look, girls look. So what? She needs to get a grip on her emotions and smarten up before you are indeed gone. My guess is she is pretty young. My husband has commented on a pretty girl on tv and I dont care, it docent make me upset. He's not blind! Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Spawn 106 Posted February 12 Share Posted February 12 Yes she is insecure but this is who she is and let's not watch others bum's together for sometime it might escalate things better be safe than sorry. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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