Sophielolly 1 Posted January 22 Share Posted January 22 My boyfriend is perfect soba but when he gets drunk he blacks out and don’t know what he’s doing so I don’t trust him when he’s drunk there has also been certain times where I’ve caught him eyeing up girls or he’ll be out and ignores his phone or don’t come back when he says he will Quote Link to post Share on other sites
ForeverLearning 35 Posted January 22 Share Posted January 22 3 minutes ago, Sophielolly said: My boyfriend is perfect soba but when he gets drunk he blacks out and don’t know what he’s doing so I don’t trust him when he’s drunk there has also been certain times where I’ve caught him eyeing up girls or he’ll be out and ignores his phone or don’t come back when he says he will I think that’s a huge red flag. You should you able to trust your partner 100% regardless of the state they’re in. So I don’t think this relationship is healthy for you. 3 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 2,820 Posted January 22 Share Posted January 22 (edited) 4 minutes ago, Sophielolly said: My boyfriend is perfect soba but when he gets drunk he blacks out How long have you been dating? Cut your losses. Don't associate with people who get black out drunk. Check out the Al-Anon quiz to understand why t you're with someone like this: https://al-anon.org/newcomers/self-quiz/adult-quiz/ Edited January 22 by Wiseman2 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Rose Mosse 737 Posted January 22 Share Posted January 22 22 minutes ago, Sophielolly said: My boyfriend is perfect soba but when he gets drunk he blacks out and don’t know what he’s doing so I don’t trust him when he’s drunk there has also been certain times where I’ve caught him eyeing up girls or he’ll be out and ignores his phone or don’t come back when he says he will I thought you were going to talk about how your boyfriend makes perfect soba noodles. This is no good at all. I agree with engineerchick. How long have you two been together? 3 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
gamon 82 Posted January 22 Share Posted January 22 He's probably not ignoring your calls, odds are he's unconscious. 1 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Sophielolly 1 Posted January 22 Author Share Posted January 22 3 hours ago, Thatengineerchick said: I think that’s a huge red flag. You should you able to trust your partner 100% regardless of the state they’re in. So I don’t think this relationship is healthy for you. I know! Every time it gets brought up we fall out then make up because I believe it when he says it’ll change! 🤣 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Hollyj 1,641 Posted January 22 Share Posted January 22 2 hours ago, Rose Mosse said: I thought you were going to talk about how your boyfriend makes perfect soba noodles. This is no good at all. I agree with engineerchick. How long have you two been together? So did I. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Hollyj 1,641 Posted January 22 Share Posted January 22 11 minutes ago, Sophielolly said: I know! Every time it gets brought up we fall out then make up because I believe it when he says it’ll change! 🤣 If he has shown you repeatedly that he will not change, why do you go back for more? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Capricorn3 1,098 Posted January 22 Share Posted January 22 How often does he get drunk? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Sophielolly 1 Posted January 22 Author Share Posted January 22 12 minutes ago, Hollyj said: If he has shown you repeatedly that he will not change, why do you go back for more? Cuz I do love him Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Hollyj 1,641 Posted January 22 Share Posted January 22 Then either you accept it, or move on. He has shown you he won't change. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Hollyj 1,641 Posted January 22 Share Posted January 22 (edited) How old is he? How often does this happen? How long have you dated? Has he cheated on you? Edited January 22 by Hollyj Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Sophielolly 1 Posted January 22 Author Share Posted January 22 1 minute ago, Hollyj said: Then either you accept it, or move on. He has shown you he won't change. I do wanna move on but in the end I always up end back there , I know it’s toxic just keep going round in circles 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Hollyj 1,641 Posted January 22 Share Posted January 22 Just now, Sophielolly said: I do wanna move on but in the end I always up end back there , I know it’s toxic just keep going round in circles Sometimes we have to love ourselves more. Do you think that you could raise children with someone like this? Does he drink and drive? How would you advise your best friend or sibling in this situation? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Sophielolly 1 Posted January 23 Author Share Posted January 23 39 minutes ago, Hollyj said: Sometimes we have to love ourselves more. Do you think that you could raise children with someone like this? Does he drink and drive? How would you advise your best friend or sibling in this situation? I’m currently pregnant with his baby it came as a shock but we’re both happy and excited, it’s just that’s the only flaw and it’s harder now because I do want to make it a family and want it to work, it’s so hard knowing he can be the best most the times then it’s my thoughts when he goes out as I’ve seen him under the influence before and I don’t trust it. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Sophielolly 1 Posted January 23 Author Share Posted January 23 44 minutes ago, Hollyj said: How old is he? How often does this happen? How long have you dated? Has he cheated on you? I have never found out about ang cheating but when we do split up it has been known him taking girls back on nights out not very often but he did. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Sophielolly 1 Posted January 23 Author Share Posted January 23 Just now, Sophielolly said: I have never found out about ang cheating but when we do split up it has been known him taking girls back on nights out not very often but he did. Obviously since lock down clubs aren’t open but he don’t find it hard to find a kitchen party somewhere then he’s gone for the night and I don’t here anything Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Hollyj 1,641 Posted January 23 Share Posted January 23 I think that you need to think about what is best for your child. Currently, he could be exposing himself to Covid, by going to other people's homes and drinking. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Hollyj 1,641 Posted January 23 Share Posted January 23 How old is he? How often does he drink like this? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Sophielolly 1 Posted January 23 Author Share Posted January 23 1 minute ago, Hollyj said: I think that you need to think about what is best for your child. Currently, he could be exposing himself to Covid, by going to other people's homes and drinking. My exact point to! Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Capricorn3 1,098 Posted January 23 Share Posted January 23 So I ask once again, how often does he get drunk? Once a month? Once every two months? Once every 2 weeks? How often? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Sophielolly 1 Posted January 23 Author Share Posted January 23 Just now, Hollyj said: How old is he? How often does he drink like this? He’s 22 I’m 23 he drinks once a week but he does dissapearing acts Atleast once a month , calls it a “blow out” Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Sophielolly 1 Posted January 23 Author Share Posted January 23 Just now, Capricorn3 said: So I ask once again, how often does he get drunk? Once a month? Once every two months? Once every 2 weeks? How often? Once a week but does his disappearing acts and ignores me like once a month Quote Link to post Share on other sites
gamon 82 Posted January 23 Share Posted January 23 5 minutes ago, Hollyj said: I think that you need to think about what is best for your child. Currently, he could be exposing himself to Covid, by going to other people's homes and drinking. And cheating. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Hollyj 1,641 Posted January 23 Share Posted January 23 (edited) Clearly he has a problem with alcohol. I think you really need to start to put you and your baby first. Hanging at people's homes on a weekly basis during the pandemic is dangerous and risking the life of your child. Also, how can you move forward with someone who has to drink to excess. Honestly, you should have considered this, before getting pregnant with a kid. He does not sound responsible. Edited January 23 by Hollyj Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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