Cherylyn Posted January 11, 2021 Share Posted January 11, 2021 4 hours ago, Hollyj said: Funny, I usually have little tolerance for bad behavior- I have a very good friend circle. This individual has been a very good friend, but it has turned disrespectful as of late. Her b day is tomorrow and I am supposed to take her to dinner on Wednesday. You're awfully gracious for treating her to dinner on Wednesday. You can't change people by lecturing them nor requesting them to cease interrupting you. They'll continue to interrupt you anyway. Or, if they behave, they'll temporarily cease interrupting you and then revert back to their chronic, old habits of interrupting you at random or repeatedly to no avail. Teach her a lesson by not stopping yourself during mid-sentence should she interrupt you. If she interrupts you as usual, keep talking and finish your sentences. Repeat this strategy until she catches on that every time she interrupts, you will not give her permission to interrupt you. People interrupt you because they force you to stop talking and you allow them to interrupt you. Don't back down. Your trick is to wear her down until she realizes that her interruptions will never succeed. If she initiates talking over you, continue talking over her by finishing your sentences. Repeat however many times necessary. I've done this with several people in my life and they've learned not to interrupt me. If they interrupt me again, I engage in the same repeated tactic until they learn how to behave with good manners. Note, I'm not suggesting that you ever interrupt her. Only speak when it is your turn to speak. However, don't stop talking just because she interrupts you. Continue your sentence(s) despite her interruptions, finish, pause and then she's allowed to talk in that order. Repeat ad nauseum. She'll find out sooner or later that you are seriously commanding respect. If she disrespects you by interrupting you, then disrespect her back by not stopping in your tracks every time she talks over you. Be tough. Let her know what it feels like to be disrespected. Also, don't confide in her anymore. Keep a safe distance and know your boundaries with her. Don't get personal. Keep your conversations (phone, in person, electronic correspondence, etc.) superficial and light chit chat stuff; no more, no less. Learn to back off. She's been demoted from friend to an acquaintance. Better safe than sorry. Become astute and shrewd for your own survival and sanity. Link to comment
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