1a1a Posted January 8, 2021 Share Posted January 8, 2021 The coward’s (cautious person’s ) way out, write a letter. I did this recently with a friend because we had a big argument and on introspection I understood I was getting frustrated with her because she was almost always responding to the things I say with a negative or argumentative view point. In the letter I included my best faith interpretation, that she was trying to help me, explained the concept of emotional bids and told her it was having the effect of making me feel unheard and disconnected. I asked her if she had also noticed the friendship wasn’t clicking as well as it used to, maybe I was stepping on her toes in some way too. To her credit she took all this in her stride, sent me a letter back, Said she’d been feeling like her bids went unanswered too (but couldn’t give me an example) has been much more enjoyable to hang out with since. Maybe give said letter after dinner and invite her to read it when she’s home. There’s an awkward conversation you need to have with her and it’s been hard to say the words out loud. Good luck Link to comment
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