BrokenGator 1 Posted November 20, 2020 Share Posted November 20, 2020 I met a girl and hit it off immediately with a strong connection. She was constantly showering me with compliments and telling me how amazing I am and how special I am in her life and how lucky she is to have met me, etc. One week she started getting a little cold and distant telling me she's been too busy at work. About a week and a half later she tells me that she's not interested anymore and that we have absolutely nothing in common (which is glaringly false). lol ? Then less than 2 months later I found out she got engaged. ? How does one make sense of any of this??? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
lostandhurt 921 Posted November 20, 2020 Share Posted November 20, 2020 She met someone else, manufactured a reason to breakup with you and started dating him. Then she love bombed him so much he popped the question after only 2 months. Either that or an old flame resurfaced. I know it sucks and getting some sort of answer might help but in the end she is gone and from the sounds of it you dodged a bullet here. Lost Quote Link to post Share on other sites
melancholy123 436 Posted November 20, 2020 Share Posted November 20, 2020 I agree, she found someone else. She also sounds like a flake to jump ship so fast and then end up engaged. Maybe she's desperate to get married so she found a willing guy. Good luck to them, they will need it. You dodged a bullet. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
DancingFool 1,419 Posted November 20, 2020 Share Posted November 20, 2020 You might have been an unwitting side piece and once the main guy agreed to give her what she is after, she dumped you.....for now. Don't be surprised if she circles back at some point for more attention. Beware of those who love bomb you and don't be so thirsty that you actually buy that bs at face value. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Rose Mosse 506 Posted November 20, 2020 Share Posted November 20, 2020 Engaged in two months? I'm sorry to hear this. Consider it a dodged bullet. Don't go down the rabbit hole wondering what you both were or what she is. The fact is you were involved with someone who wasn't interested enough in the relationship to continue dating you and she either just met a new person and married said new person in two months OR she was playing you the whole time as a distraction for someone else. Look at the situation, not the person, and dust yourself off. You will be okay. Take time out to heal. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Dalesboy 67 Posted November 20, 2020 Share Posted November 20, 2020 As others have said, you've dodged a bullet. I can somewhat empathise with you. I was in a relationship with someone who seemingly was interested in me only to then start backing off and becoming cold. Ultimately though, we will never get an answer to why they behave like this. We just have to accept it and move on. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Spawn 84 Posted November 20, 2020 Share Posted November 20, 2020 Close that door mate, its good that its over, some just are not made for you, keep moving ahead. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 533 Posted November 20, 2020 Share Posted November 20, 2020 Sounds like a rebound. She was probably dating this person before, they split up...she dives into something else to ease her mind. Then the ex calls her up...they talk, date, have sex, etc...then he presents her with a ring, realizing his mistake he's not going to let her get away this time. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Billie28 172 Posted November 21, 2020 Share Posted November 21, 2020 She tells people what they want to hear in order to get what she wants. What did you have in common with her? You only knew her for 60 days? In that time how many dates did you have? I don’t think you knew her at all? And really at the end of the day does it matter?? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
BrokenGator 1 Posted November 21, 2020 Author Share Posted November 21, 2020 Sounds like a rebound. She was probably dating this person before, they split up...she dives into something else to ease her mind. Then the ex calls her up...they talk, date, have sex, etc...then he presents her with a ring, realizing his mistake he's not going to let her get away this time. They didn't know each other previously. She met him around the same time we met. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
BrokenGator 1 Posted November 21, 2020 Author Share Posted November 21, 2020 She tells people what they want to hear in order to get what she wants. What did you have in common with her? You only knew her for 60 days? In that time how many dates did you have? I don’t think you knew her at all? And really at the end of the day does it matter?? I know that at the end of the day non of this matters. Would be nice to make sense of it though. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
catfeeder 1,879 Posted November 21, 2020 Share Posted November 21, 2020 If someone comes on that fast and strong, then they don't even know you well enough to love you, so they're just in love with some fantasy they've created 'about' you. It's usually a short eggshell walk before you say or do something human enough to pop that fantasy bubble. Fast flames often die out pretty quickly. I'd beware of investing in those to avoid getting burned. Whether or not the lavish praise is sincere doesn't matter--it's someone showing you lousy judgment, and who wants that? 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
MissCanuck 954 Posted November 21, 2020 Share Posted November 21, 2020 They didn't know each other previously. She met him around the same time we met. Then she is extremely impulsive and doesn't think things through before diving in. That is not a characteristic you want in a long-term partner. Be glad she won't be your future headache to deal with. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 2,287 Posted November 21, 2020 Share Posted November 21, 2020 You dodged a bullet. Pity the fiancé-come-lately. I know that at the end of the day non of this matters. Would be nice to make sense of it though. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
LaHermes 261 Posted November 21, 2020 Share Posted November 21, 2020 Exactly, Cat. "It's usually a short eggshell walk before you say or do something human enough to pop that fantasy bubble." As fiancé-come.lately will sadly find out. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Capricorn3 880 Posted November 21, 2020 Share Posted November 21, 2020 I think she probably was already in a relationship with this guy for quite a while and was flirting with you on the side. I already feel sorry for her fiancé as he has no idea what she does behind his back. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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