Wiseman2 3,900 Posted November 24, 2020 Share Posted November 24, 2020 Are you with trusted friends and family now? Divorce is not "messy stuff". Talking to an attorney is crucial with regard to protecting your child. Unfortunately many people go back to abusive relationships because they are still hoping the nightmare magically turns into a fairy tale. This is called cognitive dissonance. Google it. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
bile09 1 Posted November 24, 2020 Author Share Posted November 24, 2020 I'm with my family. I have talked to an attorney and the social services. The law in my country makes it impossible for a small child to not be with his mother. I've been advised to stay calm and not take any actions. So, I'm going to just let them beat their heads and figure out what they are going to do.It's about time that they feel the consequences of their behaviour. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 3,900 Posted November 24, 2020 Share Posted November 24, 2020 It's not about teaching your in-laws a lesson. It's about protecting yourself and your child. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
LaHermes 640 Posted November 24, 2020 Share Posted November 24, 2020 Bile. I have just been re-reading your original post. It was so unfortunate that you got entangled with this individual and his equally awful family. The word "consequences" doesn't figure largely in the vocabulary of such people. Again I am so glad to read that you got away. The fact that you are afraid of these individuals is quite chilling. Do not let the idea even cross your mind of returning to this person. You have managed to break free. Please take every professional advice you can get. The best of luck to you. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Jibralta 1,909 Posted November 24, 2020 Share Posted November 24, 2020 The word "consequences" doesn't figure largely in the vocabulary of such people. I agree. Such people typically shunt the blame to others (you!). Don't hold your breath waiting for them to recognize their own errors! And steel yourself to be branded as the bad guy in their eyes. Don't worry about them. Keep your eyes forward and stay safe within the protection of your family. Focus on yourself and your child. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
maritalbliss86 424 Posted November 24, 2020 Share Posted November 24, 2020 I'm with my family. I have talked to an attorney and the social services. The law in my country makes it impossible for a small child to not be with his mother. I've been advised to stay calm and not take any actions. So, I'm going to just let them beat their heads and figure out what they are going to do.It's about time that they feel the consequences of their behaviour. Do you think there's a chance they will try kidnapping your child? Is that the fear here? I'm not trying sound alarmist, but that really does happen, way more often than one would think. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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