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Loneliness is a real beast. It distorts our thoughts and perceptions. It can actually kill you. So, you do have to be persistent and face it down, as LaHermes says. It sounds like you are doing this, to be honest.

 

I think I've posted this video on this site 10 times. Every time I post it, I remember how I refused to watch it for so long, because of the title. But it's really good. I think you may find it helpful:

 

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So utterly true CF.

 

"When you can find comfort in going solo, you've upped your own picking power. You'll no longer settle for 'quick' over substance--and that's the best way to lead yourself into the territory of feeling valued."

 

Loneliness is a dreadfully bad advisor.

 

As Jib said: " It distorts our thoughts and perceptions."

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I sooo agree with this. Most people trying to escape loneliness have never tried to meet it--and master it.

 

Once you can lessen the discomfort of loneliness, it's no longer your driver for taking up with people who barely distract you from it long enough before they make it worse.

 

When you can find comfort in going solo, you've upped your own picking power. You'll no longer settle for 'quick' over substance--and that's the best way to lead yourself into the territory of feeling valued.

 

Value your Self first, and the rest is icing on your cake.

 

Exactly. I've found the most satisfying results in flipping the script and subverting how I'm "suppose" to feel. Being alone doesn't have to be a terrifying and paralyzing thing. It can actually be freedom. It can mean time to do what you enjoy, to help you understand yourself better and what you want out of life. It can mean peace and quiet from a world that is constantly throwing so much at us. We should embrace periods of solitude and use it to recharge. Be okay on your own and work on fulfilling your goals and pursuing what makes you happy. Once you have that, the fear and loneliness loses it's power. And in time, as much time as you need, you'll start to feel better and able to pursue the more social aspects you want.

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