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I mean yes and no, I really don’t care too much about social media

 

I'm gonna guess that you really mean "yes" here.

 

From what you describe, everything he is saying and doing is showing you that you are his girlfriend.

 

The fact that you need to have this explicitly laid out is down to you and your anxiety.

 

If you relax and let things go with the flow, you will find that all of that will just happen naturally.

 

It took us a long time to use the term "boyfriend" and "girlfriend"... not because we didn't feel that way, but because we are grown a$$ adults not "boys and girls". At first we used the term "manfriend" and "ladyfriend" but that seemed to confuse so many people that we just went with "boyfriend and girlfriend"... now that we are living together I prefer the term "partner"... I don't think the label matters, it's about the commitment to each other at the end of the day.

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You are right Maew, the label doesn't matter a darn.

 

I cannot remember my husband and I ever saying we were BF or GF. Just introduced always by our names. Sure, once I had the engagement ring on my hand now and then someone might say "your future husband". But as Maew says it really is about the commitment.

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Quick update, we’re still going strong and I decided not to worry so much about the labels since every thing else has been going great. We went out on a date this past weekend and he casually said.. “yea I was telling someone that (my girl) is also a teacher” as he refers to me. And later on in the week he also casually says yea we’re a cute couple. I like how him and I always end up on the same page so i don’t have to bring up awkward conversations.

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Quick update, we’re still going strong and I decided not to worry so much about the labels since every thing else has been going great. We went out on a date this past weekend and he casually said.. “yea I was telling someone that (my girl) is also a teacher” as he refers to me. And later on in the week he also casually says yea we’re a cute couple. I like how him and I always end up on the same page so i don’t have to bring up awkward conversations.

 

Great to hear, and thanks your thinking of us with the update.

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Quick update, we’re still going strong and I decided not to worry so much about the labels since every thing else has been going great. We went out on a date this past weekend and he casually said.. “yea I was telling someone that (my girl) is also a teacher” as he refers to me. And later on in the week he also casually says yea we’re a cute couple. I like how him and I always end up on the same page so i don’t have to bring up awkward conversations.

 

Sounds good! Make sure you're not telling yourself it's just a label -as long as you are ok with the substance of your commitment it's fine to want him to express what you mean to him by calling you his girl. It's not just a label!

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My husband and I never called each other boyfriend and girlfriend while we just dating. We just used each other's names. If fact, we didn't make it Facebook official till we got married.

 

Be weary only when you don't meet their friends, coworkers or important peeps in their life. My girl, my lady, is girlfriend in my book though. Lover is just lover, and not bf and gf. Any way life is too short, if you see him as your bf, then just use the term bf when introducing him. If you want to break the ice, call him manfriend, and see what he says. But don't be afraid to tell someone you like them and see them as a partner considering you've already discussed being together by choice.

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