My Husband Purchased a Sex Doll - Thoughts?

[smackie9]

If I were you I would have secretly video taped his reaction to that mayo freak out. What you can do is up load all your stuff to a hotmail account.

 

Also use "private browser" the feature is located upper left file menu. I doesn't keep cookies or browser history. BUT you have to actually close it in order for it to delete whatever you have been looking at.

[boltnrun]

He cannot take the kids away unless he can prove you are abusive to them, you are abusing substances or you have a DOCUMENTED record of extreme mental incapacity. All of those things require proof such as police visits, court filings or medical records that his attorney would have to subpoena.

It's not about who has more money.

Please see about legal representation today. You can use Legal Aid if you don't have access to funds.

[Realitynut]

This has really nothing to do with the OP....but i read the whole thread and was wondering why a 'doll' was worse than watching porn....fantasizing you are with the porn star and jacking off.....or with a doll and fantasizing who knows what. Either one is a fantasy in his head. I don't find a doll any worse than a real live person on screen. I'm thinking he's locking 'her' up so the kids don't accidently find her. You have lots of issues....but I don't find a life size doll to be the biggest. Have you ever known him to 'use' her yet??? Maybe she's just a 'crush' and he'll get tired of her. Also like was said, could use her in some role playing. Maybe he wants to be 'dominate'....and the doll is submissive. Who knows...I just don't find it that big of a deal.....

[DancingFool]

This has really nothing to do with the OP....but i read the whole thread and was wondering why a 'doll' was worse than watching porn....fantasizing you are with the porn star and jacking off.....or with a doll and fantasizing who knows what. Either one is a fantasy in his head. I don't find a doll any worse than a real live person on screen. I'm thinking he's locking 'her' up so the kids don't accidently find her. You have lots of issues....but I don't find a life size doll to be the biggest. Have you ever known him to 'use' her yet??? Maybe she's just a 'crush' and he'll get tired of her. Also like was said, could use her in some role playing. Maybe he wants to be 'dominate'....and the doll is submissive. Who knows...I just don't find it that big of a deal.....

 

In very general terms, nothing is really wrong when you have two consenting adults who are able to be honest with each other and freely choose to engage in whatever. However, generic concepts don't apply to this particular situation. It's the details of this specific situation that make it wrong.

[redswim30]

In very general terms, nothing is really wrong when you have two consenting adults who are able to be honest with each other and freely choose to engage in whatever. However, generic concepts don't apply to this particular situation. It's the details of this specific situation that make it wrong.

 

^ Yes. Of course there's nothing wrong with anything if you have two adults in agreement. And even if this was their only issue in an otherwise healthy relationship, I think many people (myself included) would have given her different advice.

 

In this specific case, going back and reading all her posts, in THIS relationship- her husband has a pattern of disrespect, lies, cheating, and abuse.

[LaHermes]

Quoting Smackie:

 

"He's doting, and nice when people are looking, it hides his ugliness. That is what psychopaths do. They are cons, manipulators. He wasn't honest about the doll at all...he did it behind your back, saved for it, purchased it before even talking to you about it. Therapy hasn't done anything for him....he just dodged around it. He is still the same, and he doesn't care. It's all about him. He just says what everyone wants to hear. That's what cheating liars do. He made it look like things were doing well in therapy...it all part of the act."

 

It is so terrible that the OP feels she has no way out of this nightmare.

 

Equally nightmarish back in early 2014:

 

"I have suggested that we seek counseling and he is VEHEMENTLY against it. He thinks mental illness is BS...so unfortunately that is not really an option."

[abitbroken]

He cannot take the kids away unless he can prove you are abusive to them, you are abusing substances or you have a DOCUMENTED record of extreme mental incapacity. All of those things require proof such as police visits, court filings or medical records that his attorney would have to subpoena.

It's not about who has more money.

Please see about legal representation today. You can use Legal Aid if you don't have access to funds.

 

That is a classic abuser move - threatening to take the kids, pets, car, etc...

He cannot take the kids, but he sure can play Mr Perfect in front of the lawyers and get more than his share of custody

[boltnrun]

Yeah, my ex husband tried that move (he wasn't abusive, however). He said he would prove I was on drugs. I leaned close to him and said "Go ahead, pick a hair. Take it now and have it tested. I'm so sober it's ridiculous." But when I filed for divorce and told the paralegal (I didn't use an attorney) what he said she just laughed.

 

OP needs an attorney and needs to divulge everything so the attorney can help her.