Boyfriend unhealthy lifestyle

[Wiseman2]

So what is the real reason you want to move there and searched for men long distance in that location?

I don't have a job offer yet.

[Mnmny]

So what is the real reason you want to move there and searched for men long distance in that location?

 

I had plans to immigrate to that country and had begun the process before meeting him. At the same time I wasn’t closed to dating more locally. It just so happened that I met this guy online, we talked for a couple of months before he came down to meet me which is when we mutually felt the connection. We both felt the same about dating exclusively and take it from there. We even had plans to go on vacation in a month after we met. But just then, the pandemic happened, I lost my job had to move back to my home country. The place where I was at when meeting him was not my home country but had been living there for a few years on a work permit. That was going to be temporary and I had already made plans to move elsewhere permanently. Now I’m stuck in my home country until things start getting back on track. Also, when I moved back home he had even decided to come meet me and we had a three week vacation planned with his tickets already booked. That couldn’t happen either. However, we both didn’t want to break up because of the current situation and have kept our communication going in spite of the distance and time difference.

[Wiseman2]

Sorry to hear that. The pandemic is disrupting a lot of lives. In the meantime, try not to invest too much in his habits in case it doesn't work out.

the pandemic happened, I lost my job had to move back to my home country. I’m stuck in my home country until things start getting back on track.

[abitbroken]

I had plans to immigrate to that country and had begun the process before meeting him. At the same time I wasn’t closed to dating more locally. It just so happened that I met this guy online, we talked for a couple of months before he came down to meet me which is when we mutually felt the connection. We both felt the same about dating exclusively and take it from there. We even had plans to go on vacation in a month after we met. But just then, the pandemic happened, I lost my job had to move back to my home country. The place where I was at when meeting him was not my home country but had been living there for a few years on a work permit. That was going to be temporary and I had already made plans to move elsewhere permanently. Now I’m stuck in my home country until things start getting back on track. Also, when I moved back home he had even decided to come meet me and we had a three week vacation planned with his tickets already booked. That couldn’t happen either. However, we both didn’t want to break up because of the current situation and have kept our communication going in spite of the distance and time difference.

 

Honestly, i would stay where you are at an find work. There are not a lot of companies hiring foreigners right now in most countries -- they are hiring locally due to travel restrictions and have candidates whose industries have not fully reopened like the hospitality industry. I don't think you should consider that you are even in a relationship if you only met him in person one time

[abitbroken]

Sorry to hear that. The pandemic is disrupting a lot of lives. In the meantime, try not to invest too much in his habits in case it doesn't work out.

 

Well - if she doesn't like his lifestyle - it would be easier now to stop communicating and blame it on the distance than to tell him its about his lifestyle. She has a unique opportunity to not get swept up in hormones and to think rationally about it if he is not a match

[SarahLove007]

Being compatible with the person you're dating is incredibly important!

 

If your mindsets don't match and it is making you miserable, I think you know deep within yourself what to do.

 

it depends on how much you're willing to compromise on eating habits and lifestyle? or would you rather have someone who will engage in fitness activities with you and plan nutrition.

 

How much are you willing to compromise and settle on, I think you really must think about what you want in a partner for yourself.... otherwise you can get incredibly lonely going down a certain path in life if your partners not on the same page, at least I did.