youngnotdumb Posted May 27, 2020 Share Posted May 27, 2020 My used-to-be best friend is in a toxic relationship with a manipulative, gaslighting, controlling douchebag. I really wish I was exaggerating, but none of her friends like this guy. They've broken up close to 5 times in the ~9 months they've been dating. We could throw 9000 red flags and she would still make an excuse for every single one of them. He also is just all around not a guy any of us want to be around. But it's her first relationship so we chalk it up to that because we've all been there, right? Well it's gotten to a point where it is unbelievable. She's been lying to her parents, her friends, and especially herself. She told her friends she's under strict quarantine since she lives at home, we get that, she says she can't even see him, we rejoice. But she shares her location with us and we know she's been lying about it all because she's always with him. She went and explored a reopened county in our state with him (like, go into stores, eat at restaurants, etc.) but can't come sit at a picnic 8ft away from all of her friends in a PARK due to "danger of exposure" then she'll go on about how she has fomo and misses us so much. We all know she's been lying. We legit just planned a camping trip in 2 weeks and she agreed to go right away (and of course, bring her boyfriend) although she's told us just last week it'd be "months til her parents let her be around us again". My other friends are 100% done putting in effort with her. But I was closest to her and I feel like I'm failing her. But she can't be bothered to put any effort into anything that's not her boyfriend. Why do I care so much about someone who doesn't care about anyone but herself and their toxic boyfriend? Do I call her out on her crap or do I just let the friendship fade? Link to comment
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