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I’m a CNA and I just found out my hospital will be converted to a covid recovery unit. When I found out I told me boyfriend and he told me to quit. It wasn’t a conversation or anything it was him telling me that he’s asthmatic and if I stay at my job I need to move out. He a manager for a nursing home and when all of the dates he quit his job. His family have money so he’s ok they’ll pick up his expensive. My problem is we argue a lot about money. I love her but I don’t wanna up my independence to depend on him and his family. Anyone in my situation have any advice?

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Sorry to hear this. Many people are staying in other accommodations to protect their loved ones. You need to do the same. Asthma is a serious risk factor.

him telling me that he’s asthmatic and if I stay at my job I need to move out. My problem is we argue a lot about money.
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You get together with your coworkers, and then go talk to the the hospital administrator and see if they will compensate staff and have accommodations available for those who will compromise their family. I'm sure all those empty hotels would be a good place to start.

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I’m a CNA and I just found out my hospital will be converted to a covid recovery unit. When I found out I told me boyfriend and he told me to quit. It wasn’t a conversation or anything it was him telling me that he’s asthmatic and if I stay at my job I need to move out. He a manager for a nursing home and when all of the dates he quit his job. His family have money so he’s ok they’ll pick up his expensive. My problem is we argue a lot about money. I love her but I don’t wanna up my independence to depend on him and his family. Anyone in my situation have any advice?
Whose place was it originally? How long have you lived together? He doesn't have any right demanding you leave your job, but you should absolutely be setting up separate living arrangements if he's asthmatic. There's a significant chance any symptoms he'd have would be critical. Are you pushing for you two to keep living with each other while you're working under these conditions?
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Sorry to hear this. Many people are staying in other accommodations to protect their loved ones. You need to do the same. Asthma is a serious risk factor.

 

I work for a hospital there is no just staying home. It’s either your sick your quit or get fired that’s the only way you get to stay home

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I work for a hospital there is no just staying home. It’s either your sick your quit or get fired that’s the only way you get to stay home

 

Wiseman meant find somewhere else to live while you're working this job. Don't live with your boyfriend. Find out if your hospital or medical center has accommodations for their employees that you can use.

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Whose place was it originally? How long have you lived together? He doesn't have any right demanding you leave your job, but you should absolutely be setting up separate living arrangements if he's asthmatic. There's a significant chance any symptoms he'd have would be critical. Are you pushing for you two to keep living with each other while you're working under these conditions?

 

It’s his place we’ve been living together for 2+ years. I have no problem staying in my partner’s basement while all of this is happening but I don’t think that an option for him. I think it has more to do with having control over me while we are going through a pandemic

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It’s his place we’ve been living together for 2+ years. I have no problem staying in my partner’s basement while all of this is happening but I don’t think that an option for him. I think it has more to do with having control over me while we are going through a pandemic

 

That is a big problem. He is always controlling?

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"Controlling bf

So I’ve been with my bf for close to 2yrs now. At the beginning of the relationship (October2017) I was having trouble at home and the relationship was going so fast I think I missed all the red flags. Here where the problem started.

1:The day before my 2018 bday a guy I use to talk send me a snap talk about food I respond and though nothing of it. I got home scrolling throwing me phone my bf saw the sap notification we had a huge fight I spend the whole night before my bday crying

2: I went out with family for me bday he never showed up because of his anxiety.

3: a year into our relationship he haven’t met my family but he’s constantly going through my phone and having me snap him to say where I am.

4: after a year I’ve pretty much had it with his anxiety, him being controlling and everything else. One night I went out with my sister got drunk and text a ex of mine I was a wrong for doing that and i will admit it.

5: months later my email my iCloud and my Facebook got hacked by my bf he found out about the message and we broke up.

After we broke I moved out moved in with my mom and stewed they. He wouldn’t stop calling ad text final went over heard we talk and go back together

6:He finally decided to meet my family because of that

7: now he’s constantly checking my phone, checking me to see if I’ve shaved and smelling me when I get to his apartment.

Months go by we argue almost ever week. I reach out to a friend of mine male asking for advice. *Here where I ed up I hide it* I just wanted to know from a guys point of view what to do and just someone I could talk and vent to. I was just a breath of fresh air outside my toxic relationship.

8:he broke unto to my phone trying to tell me that I hide my friends because we are sleeping together remind you that’s when I’m not at school,my mother house I’m with him*my bf* he tracks my phone to see where I've parked so there no we I could have and I didn't want to.

After we broke again I moved out moved in with my mom and stayed there. He wouldn’t stop calling and text final went over heard we talk and go back together again. Remind you I've been living with him for most of the relationship and I still don't have keys to his apartment so if I leave I can't get back in and I have to wait for him to get home.

A year later I'm still dealing with it and it's only getting worst. You can judge me on my bad choices because I know I've screwed up. I'm really looking for advice???"

 

Why are you with this guy? You know that he is abusive. You need to make a permanent exit. This guy is psycho!

 

Did you ever tell your mom about this behavior? In your post in October, you had not shared anything with her.

 

You know what you need to do. You also need to address why you have stayed with him.

 

He does not love or respect you. Thus is not what love looks like.

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Control over you? Seriously...it's childish for either one of you to be thinking of this stuff right now.

 

Either find a co worker with whom you can live with right now or find somewhere you can live on your own. Lots of cities are offering health care workers accommodations.

 

But what you two are fighting about is useless. Tell him where to find you, and get yourself set up to help.

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It’s over we finally broke and I walk away. I know I should have taken you guys advice sooner but I kept making excuses until I realize that we’re all holding me back and it was just a lie. This week will be rough and maybe the next couple of months but I’ll will get better there is a light at the end of this dark tunnel.

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