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Me and my boyfriend had been together for nearly 8 years last week we had an argument over how he treats me he can be quite controlling and he blocked me from all form of contact he’s done this threw out the whole relationship everytime we’ve argued then contacted me after a few days the past three months he’s done it three times for a week at a time and only spoken to me because I’ve messaged him from a friends phone which he usually blocks aswell before he’ll speak to me I’m trying to move on but finding it really difficult breaking down all the time

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You've spent far too long with a man who treats you badly.

 

Stop chasing him.

 

Don't run after him, don't beg your friends to use their phone to contact him, don't allow him back in your life. You know he's bad for you, you know he enjoys blocking you and upsetting you. Find the strength in you to not keep running back to this man.

 

He will never change and how he treats you will never change. Only you can change whether you continue to allow it or not.

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The good news is you don't live together and aren't married so you can easily extricate yourself from this. He has done you a great favor blocking you. Focus on positive, productive things in your life. work, school, interests friends family etc. Get fit and healthy. Improve your overall emotional and physical health.

 

Now all you have to do is delete and block him and all his people from all your devices, messaging apps and social medial.

 

Stop stalking him from friends accounts. Ask your parents to take you to a doctor/therapist if you tend to be obsessive or have poor self esteem.

Me and my boyfriend had been together for nearly 8 years

he blocked me from all form of contact he’s done this threw out the whole relationship

I’ve messaged him from a friends phone which he usually blocks aswell

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With no more contact, each day will become easier. Be patient with yourself, because after 8 years together, you will need a minimum of about 4 months before you stop thinking of him daily, but rest assured it will happen if you stay no contact and don't ask friends about him. A controller should be on the new dealbreaker list I suggest you write. I don't recommend dating until you find happiness solo, but when you do, I hope you've learned to cut the losers loose as soon as you see the dealbreaker. Also make a must-have list and stick to it for better success in the future. Take care.

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You find it difficult to move on from being treated poorly?

 

Let me guess, in the beginning he was really nice. I'm also guessing that stopped a long time ago.

 

This is the "real" him, not the guy he was pretending to be in the beginning.

 

Please do not go crawling back to him. He will continue to treat you like crap forever if you let him. Don't.

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Block/delete be strong. Once a few weeks have past you will have clearer thinking and realize how toxic this relationship was. The healthiest part of this is that you are aware of the abusive behavior, and you can apply this knowledge when you start to consider a new relationship.

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Blocking should never happen, ignoring does happen if someone is angry or upset with certain behaviour especially if they feel that they have been betrayed or lied to. Eight years is a long time, something happen or this has always been the case?

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