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Last night I told my brother I was feeling exceedingly tired. He backed away from me and said "Uh oh, you know that's a sign of Covid!" I told him I was likely to have nightmares now. He said the same old "I was just trying to lighten things up!" WHY do people always say that??? People with anxiety are not cured by people making jokes about their illness. Do they think it's appropriate to make cancer jokes?

 

A spike in my state too. The result of reopening!

 

Same -hate when people "joke" like that.

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Last night I told my brother I was feeling exceedingly tired. He backed away from me and said "Uh oh, you know that's a sign of Covid!" I told him I was likely to have nightmares now. He said the same old "I was just trying to lighten things up!" WHY do people always say that??? People with anxiety are not cured by people making jokes about their illness. Do they think it's appropriate to make cancer jokes?

 

A spike in my state too. The result of reopening!

 

 

Yes, that is not the way to help anxiety. I would outright ask if they would make cancer jokes. Anxiety is an actual mental illness. People never never never treat mental illness with the same respect as physical. It is annoying AF.

 

We have an actual case in town , a medical professional.

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I try to consider their intentions. These people are not trying to hurt me. They think anxiety is something you can just make go away by laughing or "just stop worrying!" I already told him I would love for it to just stop.

 

Like Covid, it isn't going to just go away because we want it to.

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I try to consider their intentions. These people are not trying to hurt me. They think anxiety is something you can just make go away by laughing or "just stop worrying!" I already told him I would love for it to just stop.

 

Like Covid, it isn't going to just go away because we want it to.

Exactly.

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Parts of our province are rolled back to stage 2 at 12:01 tomorrow.

 

What does stage 2 involve?

 

Here, despite the surge in cases, we are going forward with reopening everything with just some minor restrictions. Theme parks are still closed, however.

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Just feeling really down lately. My life is so solitary now. If cases really spike here, I won't be able to see my family for a while.

 

Also, I can't understand why friends insist on video chat (I refuse unless it's for work/school) but somehow talking on the phone is a no-go.

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I'm sorry, Fudgie.

 

I am grateful I got out of my solo apartment when I did.

 

My state is doing better than most. Not to say we aren't having a spike of our own, but our numbers are way lower than others. We need to stay vigilant, however. Complacency, boredom and contempt for others breed spikes.

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Just feeling really down lately. My life is so solitary now. If cases really spike here, I won't be able to see my family for a while.

 

Also, I can't understand why friends insist on video chat (I refuse unless it's for work/school) but somehow talking on the phone is a no-go.

 

I do not like video chat and I do not like being facetimed with no notice -I almost always decline. I don't get why that's ok - for example, let's say I call you without texting first (these days depending on who I might text first) -anyway - I know you can simply let it go to voice mail but with face time at least on my phone the person kind of appears on my phone - so it's awkward to decline. But, I do. I like phone calls especially because I can get things done -household tasks -while I chat.

 

I hope you feel much better soon.

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I do not like video chat and I do not like being facetimed with no notice -I almost always decline. I don't get why that's ok - for example, let's say I call you without texting first (these days depending on who I might text first) -anyway - I know you can simply let it go to voice mail but with face time at least on my phone the person kind of appears on my phone - so it's awkward to decline. But, I do. I like phone calls especially because I can get things done -household tasks -while I chat.

 

I hope you feel much better soon.

The only person I do that to is my husband.

 

 

People are getting REALLY REALLY weird. Yesterday someone was videoing my son and I sitting and eating in our vehicle. 😳😳😳😳😳 And today someone stood almost right against our vehicle and stared at us while at the grocery.

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Reading all about another new term😯 ." The coronavirus and the flu could make a “twindemic” in the U.S. this fall. Symptoms of the two diseases are similar."

 

Well the issue is at least where I live they do not want to overwhelm the hospitals with people who have the flu and covid. My family got flu shots. We always do. My husband got his a little earlier than usual because we're anticipating a mad dash in a month or so.

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Well the issue is at least where I live they do not want to overwhelm the hospitals with people who have the flu and covid. My family got flu shots. We always do. My husband got his a little earlier than usual because we're anticipating a mad dash in a month or so.

We got ours on the 5th , the day they came out. My husband would’ve had his already but he’s on course but I got him to get onto the course director about it. My mom is still on a list she’s number 100 waiting for the over 65 shot. 😓

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Just feeling really down lately. My life is so solitary now. If cases really spike here, I won't be able to see my family for a while.

 

Also, I can't understand why friends insist on video chat (I refuse unless it's for work/school) but somehow talking on the phone is a no-go.

 

Sorry you're feeling down Fudgie. Life does feel extra solitary these days.

 

I'll only video chat with one person I'm really close to. Maybe I'm crazy, but why wouldn't you use a phone for an actual phone call?

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Sorry you're feeling down Fudgie. Life does feel extra solitary these days.

 

I'll only video chat with one person I'm really close to. Maybe I'm crazy, but why wouldn't you use a phone for an actual phone call?

 

I think she meant -this is my experience too -some people won't do phone calls -only text or facetime etc. I have a close friend for many years and we used to speak by phone a lot -regularly - but I started getting annoyed about the interruptions and how often she had to go - she has an adult child who is now in her early 20s. I'd be put on hold for anything at all or "can I call you back" with no call back. The last straw was when her daughter texted her 2 times in five minutes about whether the mac and cheese in the fridge was ok to eat after three days. Her neighbor would come to the door, her cleaning woman would be arriving soon, her other friend would text her, etc. So now we just text and it's fine. We speak rarely and I leave the ball in her court. Some people can deal with the interruptions and I can't (again other than if the person is at work or dealing with a child - and I know about that in advance especially)

I raise this because I really relate to being particular about how I communicate especially if it's going to be a long conversation or something significant. I feel self conscious on facetime or zoom so I'm less likely to want to do that. And I can't keep my train of thought with constant interruptions (another reason I put my phone away if I'm at a meal with someone -or I tell them I have to check if the school calls, etc)

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Batya - I get it. Some conversations can be handled with a text. If you're going to be constantly interrupted, then it's silly to be on the phone wasting another person's time. And everyone has their own preferences. I'm the same way in not wanting to show my face. Guess I'm old-fashioned, but if I'm going to have a long conversation, I'd rather it be a call so I can actually hear the person's voice. I want to pick up on the tone of voice. And it makes me feel closer to the person then just reading words on a screen. I've been around people who can't put their phone down long enough to even have a meal together. Annoys me to the point I basically avoid texting.

 

To each their own though. Think people just need to be mindful of the other person's preferences and try to find a middle ground.

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Batya - I get it. Some conversations can be handled with a text. If you're going to be constantly interrupted, then it's silly to be on the phone wasting another person's time. And everyone has their own preferences. I'm the same way in not wanting to show my face. Guess I'm old-fashioned, but if I'm going to have a long conversation, I'd rather it be a call so I can actually hear the person's voice. I want to pick up on the tone of voice. And it makes me feel closer to the person then just reading words on a screen. I've been around people who can't put their phone down long enough to even have a meal together. Annoys me to the point I basically avoid texting.

 

To each their own though. Think people just need to be mindful of the other person's preferences and try to find a middle ground.

 

Yes - completely relate to this. I do feel comfortable having my phone out when my son is in school or at after school (ancient pre-covid times) but I tell the person that and I don't look at my phone -often I just keep it in my purse on vibrate. And yes with certain people if they are at work or watching the kids the expectation is tons of interruptions. But if not then either speak with the person or call another time.

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ShyFool,

 

I really enjoy talking on the phone and do so with my loved ones. My friends though, they don't like it. It's either text or video chat. I don't mind text but I hate video chat.

 

I agree with you, I'd love to have a long conversation on the phone but somehow they don't want to do that. They say they "prefer" video chat. I don't get it. I don't want to sit my butt in front of a screen to be held hostage for the whole convo. When I'm on the phone, I'm doing my dishes, I'm organizing my flash cards, playing a video game, etc. I can have a super long conversation and be involved while also doing something else that's kind of mundane/mindless. That's the beauty of phone calls.

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So, our numbers are going back up again. :( The bad part this time though is, that so many are fighting the guidelines, not believing that Covid is real, arguing about wearing masks or following any kind of rules.

 

I sincerely am cringing for the next few months as to how bad it could potentially get.

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