ThatwasThen Posted February 8, 2020 Share Posted February 8, 2020 How does one "hear someone masturbating" while they are in the shower? Is he a moaning and a groaning his way to victory? How is it you are spying on him so intensely that you know that he masturbated in the shower after breakfast when I assume you are busy elsewhere? Why do you care when or how much he masturbates? He is still having sex with you and hasn't substituted his private time to the point you're not on his sexual radar anymore. Leave him alone because as you say, you've come to realize its normal. Now you just have to realize that his private time is just that and that it's no reflection on you or your bedroom skills. Sorry, just read the quote below after I posted without reading (my bad). I can hear the fapping (sorry I hate that word) and heavy breathing. Plus he always takes a lot longer in the shower. We live in a small space so it's hard not to hear.. I'm not sat outside the door listening or anything weird :)Ya know if I heard the sound of a vigorous "fap" I'd be in there helping him. Is oral sex off limits in your home? Knock first before you enter... you don't want to embarrass him. Link to comment
boltnrun Posted February 8, 2020 Share Posted February 8, 2020 My ex caught me having "alone time" (in his defense I was doing it in bed right next to him) while I thought he was asleep. He helped me finish and then he was so turned on we had sex again. Win-win for me! Link to comment
Gigi199111 Posted March 15, 2020 Share Posted March 15, 2020 I'm going through something similar. I have a normal to high sex drive and I love having sex with my husband but he watches porn whilst I'm dying to have sex with him or he'll have sex with me then watch porn afterwards. Or just watch porn and give me excuses about how he is tired or sleepy. We will have fights about not having enough sex or him turning me down, I leave to house for fresh air and he'll masturbate to porn. He says he's quit porn but all the signs say he still is. At one point he even had me convinced he had an erectile problem caused by anxiety when he was just wanking off too much to the point of not being able to have sex with a human coz he'd lose his erection. Link to comment
SherrySher Posted March 15, 2020 Share Posted March 15, 2020 Honestly, it sounds like your husband is addicted to porn. Unless he wants help, it won't get better. Link to comment
MrWallFlower Posted January 27, 2021 Share Posted January 27, 2021 I can understand why you are questioning this behavior since you state that you have a higher libido than he does. In other words, why is he masturbating when you are available to him? All the people above who are stuck on the whole “are you sure you are hearing what you are hearing?” are missing the point. Gigi199111, you understand because of your situation. I’m not saying the same thing is the issue here, but I would be a little miffed. Link to comment
smackie9 Posted January 27, 2021 Share Posted January 27, 2021 1 hour ago, MrWallFlower said: I can understand why you are questioning this behavior since you state that you have a higher libido than he does. In other words, why is he masturbating when you are available to him? All the people above who are stuck on the whole “are you sure you are hearing what you are hearing?” are missing the point. Gigi199111, you understand because of your situation. I’m not saying the same thing is the issue here, but I would be a little miffed. This thread is 10 months old. The OP probably has moved into a house by now and this is a non issue with having more space. Link to comment
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