cwags Posted January 22, 2020 Share Posted January 22, 2020 I went out with a girlfriend on Sunday night and we met a group of attractive and friendly guys. We're all around the age of 24/25. One guy in particular stood out to me, so I sat next to him and we ended up talking for the rest of the night. He's extremely good looking, tall, has a stable career and a great personality. I immediately found myself thinking about how out of my league he was and honestly didn't expect much. Surprisingly, our conversation flowed, he seemed actively engaged, and he matched me intellectually. There was never a point where things felt forced. We laughed, flirted, got deep with one another. I've found that I'm more of a listener than a talker, but he somehow got me to open up about myself more than I usually do. He also mentioned how glad he was that he could talk to me about certain things that he couldn't with most people. So from what I experienced, I'd say we connected very well. But here's some other things that happened: 1) He asked me for my number within 5-10 mins of meeting me. He wanted to invite my friend and I to his friend's album release coming up in a couple weeks. It went something like, "Oh that sounds great, I'd love to come and support!" "Well I guess that means I need your number.. ;)" 2) Further into the night he started getting touchy. Putting his hand on my leg, tickling me, grabbing my head and kissing it before he left. We were both not being shy with the physical contact. 3) My girlfriend was also getting along very well with one of his friends, so at the end of the night, they asked if we wanted to come back to their place. At this point, I'm doubting everything we talked about, the connection we had, and his "interest" in me. I'm thinking he more or less just wanted to get laid. We politely decline and go our separate ways, this is when he kisses me on the head and mumbles something about getting home safe. I think I reiterated my desire for him to text me and let me know about the album release... but I don't specifically recall because we were all pretty drunk at this point. It's coming up on 3 days, and I have yet to receive a text from him. I didn't get his number, he only has mine. We added each other on Instagram, but my account glitched and unfollowed him 3 times in a row. I now feel extremely awkward trying to add him back for the 4th time... So I don't follow him, but he follows me. I understand I'm overthinking everything way too hard to the point where I'm driving myself insane... but that's the thing. I can't get this guy out of my head. My mind keeps going back to that night, and how comfortable I felt talking to him. Maybe I didn't show enough interest, didn't make enough eye contact, or maybe I just didn't make that special of an impression. I want nothing more than to see him again in a sober setting and get to know him better/see if there's anything there. But it's 2020, and men rarely ever follow the 3 day rule anymore, so my only thought is that he just isn't into me. But why would he ask for my number if he had no intention of using it? Were his acts of physical affection solely because he wanted to get laid, or is there a possibility that he is attracted to me beyond that? Should I take it into my own hands and message him on Instagram? Or should I just forget it and move on? Really just curious about the psychology of a man's brain in these situations. Link to comment
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