Rusty1274 Posted January 18, 2020 Share Posted January 18, 2020 I'm going to try to make this as short as I can. My ex and I were together for 8 months. Everything was perfect, we never argued, we spent everyday together, my family loved him, his family loved me..everything was just perfect. We moved in together 3 months into dating. Everything continued to be perfect. A few months later someone close to his like a grandfather passed away. He's never gone through a loss like this before. He was having a really rough time. That's when he became distant. He realized he wasn't happy with where he is in his life (money issues, family issues, not sure about his job) and during that time he went to his ex's house to apologize how he was to her. He said he just wanted closure and he doesn't want to ever go down that road with her again. About a week later he broke up with me saying he needed time to focus on himself and if he can't give me 100% of him we shouldn't be in a relationship. That's was really rough since we were living together. He then decided to break the lease (he paid a few grand) and he went to move into his Dads house so he could focus on saving money and getting his life in order. We still lived together for the next month and couldn't resist one another so we got back together. Everything went back to being great as it was originally. He helped me get my own place and I got settled in there. We spent Christmas together with our families, everything was perfect. He started going to the casino and playing poker trying to earn some money. In the process he lost a couple grand. On new years eve he came over and I thought we were just going to have a nice night together. He told me he was just not happy. I asked what I could do to help he said nothing he has to help himself. He has to focus on himself and get his together. I get it. He left. I text him and he responded a couple times then just started to ignore me completely. I got upset and said you can just come get your things so we can be done completely. I continued to ask why he was doing this and why cant we still talk and whats the truth? Did he get back with his ex. etc... His next text was I just want to be done with the. The truth is I don't want a future with you. Ive been doing a lot of thinking and I wasn't happy. Nothing you did I just wasn't happy. I'm getting my together piece by piece and I don't want to lead you on in anyway." Later that day we exchanged stuff. Not many words were said he seemed pretty down. I said "well, have a good life" and I walked away. I haven't text him or contacted him in any way since and the same goes for him. Should I just move on? I really feel he is the one. We talked about a future. A house, kids..he realized he's not close to being able to support a family. Our relationship was perfect I just don't know what to do. Its been about a week since I last spoke to him. What would you suggest I do? Link to comment
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