Y2Jay88 Posted January 17, 2020 Share Posted January 17, 2020 Not sure if this is the right forum but here it goes. 20 years ago the person I was in love with passed away in a car accident. Took me awhile to get back into dating but after many tries i kept thinking of my lost love and nobody was able to match that feeling. For years i wondered if that would be my only experience in life in terms of love and as time passed by i learned to accept it and it wasnt an issue. After more than 20 years Ive gotten reconnected with my old GFs family and theyve become my second family which is something thats been an inmense blessing. Anyways, In May 2019... i saw someone that triggered that same electricity that I used to feel years ago... thinking it was something that would be temporary I ignored it. However, I saw her again in October and once again, same result... im thinking to myself "after all this time, do i really have a crush on this woman?" So after doing some digging and talking with common friends (she is 13 years younger than me), we were introduced the first week of November at her workplace and on working hours which even though was awkward, it was nice. After this my mother got ill and passed away 2 weeks later and i was no in the mood for any of this so it became a secondary thought until the day before New Year's Eve where we once again talked for awhile at her workplace... once again it was awkward since we were talking while she was supposed to be working but whatever. It felt like there was chemistry at the time so I sent her a Facebook friend request which she accepted. Ive sent her messages 3 times, only once she responded and its taken her like 3-4 days to even read them. People close to me tell me i should take a break of messaging or anything for like a month, my gut feeling tells me i should just grab the bull by the horns and ask her out and get that anxious feeling off me. What would you people do? Wait or ask her out? and if id ask her out, how? At her workplace is very awkward especially with coworkers around her... but Im not a fan of doing something so important via FB Messenger either. Ive thought kinda to keep an eye when she comes off work and intercept her as she walks to her car, but that kinda feel stalkish. Any ideas? Is doing this via message not good or am i just a bit oldschool in the matter? Thanks in advance! Link to comment
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