LKDag Posted January 14, 2020 Share Posted January 14, 2020 Up until a few days ago, I thought my relationship was fine. Almost three years together and we’re saving up to get an apartment together. Over the weekend, my girlfriend was going to come to my place and we were going to drive to her mom, who lives about 2-3 hours from where we live. She wanted to do something before we left, I wanted to leave as early as possible, we didn’t get into a fight or anything but I was cranky and I apologized not too long after. We ended up not going because she overslept and we ended up not doing anything that day together since she picked up a gig before I could make plans with her. Since then, she’s been extremely distant. It’s been a day or two now and texts have been minimal, she has been very formal with me when she has responded, hasn’t said “I love you” or sent heart emojis like we usually do, and she hasn’t called/picked up my call (1 or 2). I got a text this morning that she’s really busy and she “wants to take the week to herself” and that she’ll call me over the weekend. I get that she’s busy, but it takes a few seconds to send a text and I don’t think a few texts a day is asking a lot. I get the sense she is angry at me, but over what I have no clue. Before what happened earlier that I wrote, everything was fine. The thing is, even if she is annoyed at me still for being annoyed that her itinerary for the day was different than mine, it was pretty minor and I apologized for coming off cranky about it. But I don’t know. Basically, I feel like I’m beating myself up for (A) no reason and that she’s just really busy and wants a few days to herself for whatever reason or (B) for a situation that I shouldn’t be, since I am not sure how I am at fault for anything. Either way, I feel like I’m reflecting and trying to figure out what’s going on and automatically blaming myself even though I can’t find the problem. Any ideas on whats going on and/or how not to get down on myself like I currently am? Edit: I saw on her social media that she said she’s taking a social media break, so I guess she really does feel super busy? But, honestly, that doesn’t help too much because I still feel like “I am her boyfriend, if she’s feeling overwhelmed she should be able to talk with me” and I wind up back at square one. Link to comment
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