LovesMusic Posted January 6, 2020 Share Posted January 6, 2020 Hi all, I met a girl on a dating app. We went out and had a fun time together. I contacted her after and told her that I enjoyed the time with her and that I wanted to see her again. She told me that she was going to be moving for a temporary work assignment in another state. She and I both didn't want to do long-distance but figured maybe we could try again when she came back in 6 months. We kept in contact for a month and she invited to me visit her. I did and we had great time together. She came back to our home state with me as she wanted to visit friends and family. We traveled together and when we got to our home state we spent the whole day together in bed at her place. When I was about to leave we discussed us and she said she didn't want to do long distance and if we were in the same state then she would want to date but she isn't planning on coming back for a while and said she is going to take another temporary work assignment in another state. This was upsetting to me because the entire time we acted like we were in a relationship and I had grown attached. She said she wanted us to keep ourselves open to possibility of new people and experiences. I told her I liked her a lot and that I wanted her but she a was firm that she was not going to move back to our home state for "a guy" or for a "maybe" in regards to us working out. She also said that she was not going to be exclusive including sleeping with other people. This upset me greatly but I reluctantly accepted that she had made life decisions before meeting me and I told her that I needed space to get over her and then I could be her friend. I told her I couldn't be her friend with my feelings and knowing she would be dating other people. She was upset by this saying she wanted to get to know me better but I told her I couldn't do it. She ends up going back to her state and initiates contact with me multiple times. The conversation of us comes back up and it's the same responses on both ends. In us talking it is revealed that she slept with someone while she was back in our home state and before returning to her work assignment. I was extremely hurt and I told her that I no longer wished to talk to her and to stop contacting me. She, of course doesn't, and tells me that she likes me and that she never likes anyone enough to date but she does with me and that when she is back in a year she would want to date but right now she is in transition and wants to see what else is out there. I told her I understand but that doesn't change the fact that she slept with someone else and right after sleeping with me. I told her it was over. Now I know it is over and I am moving on but she still contacts me and sends me sweet things like pictures of us together and romantic memes. I just want to know if anyone has been through this. Has anyone put themself out there, been rejected, and then had the other person not let you go. Why is she messing with my head? Link to comment
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