whendrex Posted January 1, 2020 Share Posted January 1, 2020 I am really getting sick of how our families treat us in regard to our relationship. Her family invites themselves out regularly for days/weeks at a time and I cannot stand their attitude towards me. They seem nice enough but whether it be her siblings, parents uncles etc they all have some judgement they pass on me before packing up and heading home. My sisters seem to go out of their way to thank her for putting up with me because I can be so difficult to deal with. Here is the truth. She is mentally ill. Her family has rejected her. They refuse to provide any support to her outside of the occasional judgmental visit where I become the target. To put it simply, they cannot stand her but are happy playing the role of protective family member long enough to get a free all expenses paid vacation to my house in the middle of vacation paradise. They live in ville, MI and we live in the nice part of Vacation Country, Colorado. All you have to do is pretend to suddenly care about your daughter and you get a free vacation, an opportunity to pass judgement and some juicy gossip to bring home to your boring life. Without going into to detail about how quickly her family to impose on almost total strangers, I can say no sane person would appreciate these self invited visits. My family isn't much better. They rejected me ages ago to join some cooky religion and cut me off because their religion said to. These people (my family) don't know me but some of them no longer follow this religion and are trying to have a relationship with me again. So these people I don't know act as though she is some goddess I don't deserve. They literally had a conversation in front of my face about how difficult I am to deal with and she should be thanked for putting up with me. How would you know? You haven't talked to me for ages because you joined a cult and cut me off because some self anointed prophet said I was a demon or something. You don't know me! Sidenote: When they say I am difficult to deal with they mean I can go off on tangents about the history of the East India Trading Company that nobody cares about. Sure I can work on that but I am not raging mental patient like some people having these conversations about me. To summarize, I have put up with a lot from her. Just picture yourself spending two years of your life nursing a sick person back to health. I mean too sick to even work or even feed yourself much less have a healthy relationship. Try doing that and instead of family leaving us lone like they always have, they come charging back into your life with swords drawn and opinions......lots of opinions. I am one visit away from telling both our families to go back to rejecting like they always have but she likes the attention. Strangely she wants to have a relationship with her family so doing anything other than taking their crap would mess that up for her. There have been many times over the years I have been ready to thrown in the towel with her but this new dynamic of family treating like a second class person while I nurture her back to mental health is not something I will be able to tolerate much longer and watching her lap up the attention is a slap in my face. Especially when she gives me reason to believe she is buying all this. I am ready to go off on everybody but I don't know if this would just cause more problems. Maybe there is a part of me that sees it as self-destructive to burn bridges with your family, her family and her all in the same sentence. I did speak with her in her role in this. She was deeply apologetic but I am disappointed that I could do some much for her and some crappy person who doesn't know me says opens their mouth and she forgets everything. I also don't know how everyone is going to take it when I eventually tell everyone to go back to dong what they do best......Butt Out! Link to comment
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