boltnrun Posted January 4, 2020 Share Posted January 4, 2020 Nope it was said as a joke & has absolutely nothing to do with what is going on. Never Mind. I came here for a bit of support. Not criticism. The guy was leading me on & due to a terrible loss in our family last year I was a pretty easy victim for him. Maybe he didn't think it was funny. Link to comment
reinventmyself Posted January 4, 2020 Share Posted January 4, 2020 Lesson learned. You developed mutual feelings for a man with some limitations that prevents him from being in a romantic relationship with you. You were both vulnerable and liked the company it provided. At the point he told you he was just your friend was the very moment you should have regrouped and started viewing this differently. In the future be careful who you expose your children to and don't let them become attached until you have some sort of guarantee Link to comment
Almostgirl Posted January 4, 2020 Author Share Posted January 4, 2020 Maybe he didn't think it was funny. Judging by how sorry he was the following day, he was not too bothered. You keep bringing that up. It was not an issue. Link to comment
RayRay63 Posted January 7, 2020 Share Posted January 7, 2020 Nope it was said as a joke & has absolutely nothing to do with what is going on. Never Mind. I came here for a bit of support. Not criticism. The guy was leading me on & due to a terrible loss in our family last year I was a pretty easy victim for him. I do not see you as a victim. This guy was a good neighbor and family friend. You pushed him for something more, he didn't want that, end of. Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted January 7, 2020 Share Posted January 7, 2020 What did he state was the issue? It was not an issue. Link to comment
Almostgirl Posted January 7, 2020 Author Share Posted January 7, 2020 I do not see you as a victim. This guy was a good neighbor and family friend. You pushed him for something more, he didn't want that, end of. Leading someone on does not make them a good guy. He was acting like a boyfriend & when called out on it, he ran. He wanted the benefits without any commitment. He was here all the time, much more then a friend would be. Since then he has being trying to get me to open communications with him. Several mutual friends thought he was my boyfriend & said No wonder I was confused. Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted January 7, 2020 Share Posted January 7, 2020 Did he want no strings sex? He was acting like a boyfriend. He wanted the benefits without any commitment. Link to comment
RayRay63 Posted January 7, 2020 Share Posted January 7, 2020 He wanted the benefits without any commitment. For clarity - were you having sex with him, or not? In a previous post you said you asked him for sex and he declined. Or is that not what happened? A month before Christmas I asked him to stay instead of going home. I had asked this before but I got annoyed & said he was acting gay - that I was offering it on a plate to him but he would rather go home. Link to comment
boltnrun Posted January 7, 2020 Share Posted January 7, 2020 What were the "benefits" he was getting from you by pretending to be your boyfriend? Link to comment
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