Almostgirl Posted December 28, 2019 Share Posted December 28, 2019 So I had a great male friend. He acted like my boyfriend. He spent all his free time with me. We were extremely close although not intimate. He works long hours & whenever he had free time - he would spend it with me. I should add that we are also neighbour's & I have kids, one of whom was very attached to him. I asked if he had feelings & he would deny it even though his actions - always buying me presents, looking after me, staying in contact - told me otherwise. My gut feeling also told me he cared. We both helped each other a lot. A month before Christmas I asked him to stay instead of going home. I had asked this before but I got annoyed & said he was acting gay - that I was offering it on a plate to him but he would rather go home. He got annoyed & told me I needed a boyfriend. I was very upset The next day he came over as soon as he woke up & said he had not slept very well. He tried to be as helpful as possible to me & kept calling over multiple times that day & also the next. I waited one week & then told him how I felt but he said I was just a friend & nothing more. 😪 There has no been no contact for a month. My child is upset & I am devastated. He has tried to make feeble attempts to talk to me by trying to accidentally bump into me & also whistling at me in the street. He can see my house from his & I know he has been watching. I have seen him walking by my house looking lost. A mutual friend said he is very upset but yet he still makes no proper attempt to reach out. I should also say he suffers from OCD & possibly on the autistic spectrum. We were only such a small step from a relationship & he has become very involved in our lives. Help. I am pretty devastated by all of this. Link to comment
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