Jump to content

How would you react if your SO told you he or she was attracted to someone else?


Sirhc
 Share

Recommended Posts

Of course, I understand it's natural, but, at the same time, I don't really feel the need to hear about it.

This level of trust in a relationship seems uncommon, and as such, wonder what a genuine, non-snarky, non-hurtful response might look like.

 

I am interested to hear other people's thoughts.

 

thanks..

Link to comment
Share on other sites

How long have you been dating? Is this the woman you have been dating since your divorce? Was this in a bar or other public place party? How did this topic/conversation come about?

 

For example if you're watching TV and she says "so-and-so actor is good looking", you are overreacting. If she out of the blue said "my neighbor is so hot I am thinking about F-ing his brains out"...well that's quite something else

I don't really feel the need to hear about it. wonder what a genuine, non-snarky, non-hurtful response might look like.
  • Like 1
Link to comment
Share on other sites

I think it's unnecessary unless you're in the early, early stages of getting to know one another and joking around.

 

Blurting out how good looking an actress is after years of marriage would be weird. There are a million and one things to notice about a person and if looks are the forefront of commentary, it just sounds dull/boring/unnecessary in a sense. I may be biased as it's not something my husband would do (speaking of personality types) so this is why it would be out of the ordinary. If he said he was attracted to an actress, this also doesn't sound right.

 

From the OP's question it seems to refer to another ordinary person in her partner's life. If that's the case, yes, highly inappropriate.

Link to comment
Share on other sites

In real life, or in the movies or on TV? That, IMO, will make a difference.

 

If it's IRL, then it's very inappropriate, thoughtless, disrespectful and plain stupid on his part. We all notice people who are attractive (we are human, after all) but he should keep it to himself and NOT say it to your face.

 

If it's pertaining to an actor/actress then it's acceptable if he words it a tasteful way.

Link to comment
Share on other sites

Yes, context is important however, in general it's a very disrespectful thing to do and hurtful, mind you.

 

I have no idea why someone would tell someone they are dating, this kind of thing. Mindless, thoughtless, inconsiderate, are the words that come to mind.

 

Pay attention, this is a red flag in my opinion and could very well mean more disrespect and not caring about your feelings down the line.

Link to comment
Share on other sites

Join the conversation

You can post now and register later. If you have an account, sign in now to post with your account.

Guest
Reply to this topic...

×   Pasted as rich text.   Restore formatting

  Only 75 emoji are allowed.

×   Your link has been automatically embedded.   Display as a link instead

×   Your previous content has been restored.   Clear editor

×   You cannot paste images directly. Upload or insert images from URL.

 Share

  • Top Discussions this Week

  • Our picks

    • If Only A Narcissist Could Say THIS
      The more you are exposed to a narcissist, the more you struggle with the question: "Why can't this person appreciate the legitimacy of me succeeding?" Dr. Les Carter muses about a statement that you won't hear from a narcissist, but offers strong words of affirmation about how to thrive despite the narcissist's gaslighting.

       
      • 0 replies
    • Surviving & Maintaining The No Contact Rule
      Surviving and maintaining the no contact rule to take your power back so you can attract better and reach your full potential. In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email success story from a viewer who went through a bad breakup about a year ago. He says that his ex broke his heart into pieces and my work helped him get through a very dark time. He says she is stalking his social media and calls from different numbers, but he has not given into weakness or the urges to let her back into his life. It’s an interesting account of a man’s journey to self-love, self-respect, healing and overcoming a toxic relationship that no longer serves him.

       
      • 0 replies
    • 5 spiritual habits that changed my life
      5 spiritual habits that changed my life
      • 0 replies
    • When a Man Ignores You - One Text Makes Him Regret It Immediately!
      In this video, I'm going to explain what to do when a man ignores you. I will also explain the reasons why men ignore the women they date and you will learn 2 powerful text messages that will turn things around and make him regret it and change his behavior. Are you Being ignored by someone you care about? IF so, you know it’s one of the most frustrating and difficult situations to deal with especially when you don’t know the reason. That’s why In this video, I’m going to share the reasons why the person you’re dating or interested in might be ignoring you. And I’m going to tell you exactly what to do about each of them.

       
      • 0 replies
    • Johnny Berba's best tips for mental health improvement: taking action reduces anxiety & depression
      In this video, Johnny Berba shares his best tips for conquering anxiety and depression. Maintaining good mental health is not as hard as some people think, it's really about taking small action steps.

       
      • 0 replies
×
×
  • Create New...