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What does it mean when an ex says they are not "ready" to get back together?


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I’m not convinced that she doesn’t like him. She was in a relationship with him and he caused her extreme mental anguish, probably repeatedly. She had some self respect and detached with love. So yes, you can break up with someone while still loving them, when it’s best for your own personal mental health. He went into therapy and made a real change, so now she considers getting back with him as the problem is addressed. But, she’s not healed from the hurt and is scared of getting bit again. It all sounds extremely plausible.

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She was in a relationship with him and he caused her extreme mental anguish, probably repeatedly. She had some self respect and detached with love.

 

All the more reason she is not coming back. No matter what her heart might feel her head knows she's nuts to trust again. Trust was so broken it can't be repaired & she's moved on.

 

OP don't wait.

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Don't over analyze and dissect this to death. Whenever anyone is unclear and rather evasive, it's rejection plain and simple. Stop tip toeing on her every word.

 

You needn't be conflicted, confused nor should you have asked her if you should move on. Think for yourself and think of your own life.

 

Generally, there's no such thing as "being friends" after a breakup because usually both sides either desire a committed relationship or it's over which is a real deal breaker. It doesn't matter whether or not she didn't outright tell you to move on. Use common sense and really move on with your life.

 

Never wait around for anyone to make up their mind. Either you know deep within your bones that a person is right for you and same with her and both of you deserve to be in each others lives, or those strong unwavering, steadfast convictions don't exist anymore.

 

If she gets jealous or mad when you hang out with other women, it's time for you to sever all contact with her permanently. Your current relationship with her is very unhealthy. It's time to ghost, block and delete permanently. You need to make a clean break.

 

She's a major drama queen. You need to flee.

 

You move on by taking action and ridding her from your life. Then she will become "out of sight, out of mind."

 

You need to look at the situation with a colder, realistic lens. Then do what makes the most logical sense so you can live life anew. Let go of this baggage.

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